Writer Junichi Watanabe has a sentence that truly portrays the psychology of men:
Men are like explorers, they always have a strong desire for unknown women, they are always driven by novelty.
Therefore, there are many men who are unwilling to live a dull life, look for freshness and excitement outside of marriage, and even divorce their original partners directly and form a family with a third party.
But the cruel reality is that the vast majority of men who marry a third party end up regretting it.
But life is a one-way car, and there is no regret medicine in the world.
Marriage is also a cause and effect, and what you plant will reap. How you manage your marriage, your marriage will reward you.
One
"I'm afraid that my wife will be developed".
This sentence is the principle that Lao Wang pursued when he and his ex-wife got married. And this sentence also gave Lao Wang a rich reward.
Lao Wang is nine years older than his ex-wife, and when he got married, it was a good time for a man to start his career. He took a fancy to his ex-wife's virtuous and gentle manners, and knew that if he married such a wife, he would have no worries from the backyard, and he could charge forward in his career with peace of mind.
Facts have also proved that Lao Wang's judgment is correct.
After getting married, his ex-wife took care of the children while working, inside and out, so that Lao Wang could fight for his career without distractions.
Those years were the easiest and most tiring years for Lao Wang. is easy because he doesn't need to worry about family affairs at all, and he even spends only a handful of time with his daughter. It's hard because in those years he devoted himself to his work, 365 days a year, either on a business trip or on the way to a business trip.
The ex-wife was solving problems in the rear, Lao Wang was charging in the front, and life quickly gave Lao Wang a rich reward, he successfully achieved the middle management position, and the life of the small family was also thriving.
His wife is virtuous and capable, his daughter is well-behaved and cute, and he has a successful career, and Lao Wang has reached the highlight moment of his life.
When imparting experience with young juniors, Lao Wang would always say half-jokingly and half-seriously:
Listen to your wife and you will develop.
Two
Writer Keigo Higashino said:
In this world, only the sun and the human heart cannot be looked at directly.
The complexity of the human heart lies in the fact that it is always greedy and always ready to move.
After reaching the peak of his life, the greed in Lao Wang's heart also began to move.
By chance, he met his first love. A woman has just ended a failed marriage and is in all kinds of pain.
Out of a feeling of pity and cherishment, and out of a desire to show that he is not what he used to be, Lao Wang has more contact with women, and has also provided some substantial help to women. Between you and me, the self-evident ambiguity of adults arises.
Then, Lao Wang also "made a mistake that all men in the world will make".
The red flag at home does not fall, and the colorful flags flutter outside, which is the common dream of almost every greedy man.
But there is no impermeable wall in the world, and there is no secret that will not be exposed, and the extramarital affair between Lao Wang and his first love was known by his ex-wife.
The ex-wife was reluctant to have children, reluctant to give up the family she had worked so hard to build, and she dragged Lao Wang for three years, and finally left with her daughter with a scar.
Whoever pays more, whose sunk cost will be greater, who will be difficult to give up, and who will be reborn after the fire.
Three
The loss of his wife is not rich.
This kind of common saying that has been passed down for thousands of years, Lao Wang naturally knows it, but he really realized the deep meaning of this sentence ten years after the divorce.
How can a man bow down to introspection when he is in the best of the best? All repentance is only because he has been whipped by life.
Lao Wang is the man who has been whipped by life.
After the divorce, Lao Wang and his first lover came together, and then, in order to stabilize the family, the first lover had to give birth to children at an advanced age.
For the sake of this common child, Lao Wang was tortured back and forth for more than four years, and finally had a son at the age of 48.
In the past four years, in addition to the difficult coping with the birth plan, Lao Wang also suffered a mid-life crisis. Because the impact of divorce and remarriage was extremely bad, he was first transferred, then marginalized, and when he survived the crisis, he was already slapped on the beach by the back waves.
At the age of nearly 50, other peers have matured their careers and their children are adults, but Lao Wang is still cautious in the workplace because of a baby waiting to be fed.
At this time, his ex-wife had already achieved an economic leap with ten years of painful experience. 's daughter has also been successfully trained to enter a prestigious university.
In the dead of night, when looking back on his life, Lao Wang will also have all kinds of regrets.
But he has been willful for a while, and he has no power to toss anymore in life.
Director Ang Lee said:
The love of husband and wife means that there is love first. Only when you are grateful for each other's goodness will you love each other more.
Respecting and thanking your wife is accumulating blessings and luck for yourself.
An important investment in life is just four words: be kind to your wife