Almost at any time, we can read books that guide us to grasp the present moment and live well, and there seems to be no shortage of such books.
Does this mean that the ability to live in the moment is particularly important?
In fact, we need to live according to our hearts. If what we present is not consistent with our true selves, then we are contradictory on the inside, and we are not following our own path.
And the job of this book (the author of Living Your Best Self) is to help people get back to their own lives, also known as therapists.
The author hopes that this book will enable us to face the problems in our lives sincerely and realistically, and to be able to reconcile ourselves in this way, have the courage to become ourselves, and finally live our ideal life.
Here are a few of the author's credos that allow us to find our best selves:
1. Only by being curious and having the spirit of exploration can we have a deep knowledge and understanding of what is happening around us, and it is possible to dig into our true inner needs, feelings, emotions, and what we really want to become.
The same is true for the acquisition of knowledge and important information, there is no curiosity, no desire to explore certain fields and knowledge in depth, and no awareness of how to achieve the goal;
2. Be honest with your own experiences and feelings in order to maintain a healthy connection with yourself. The more parts people can't accept, try to escape, and deceive themselves, the more likely they are to look at things from a wrong perspective, and the more fears, anxieties, distractions, and negative emotions will be.
Then it is conceivable that it is naturally difficult to focus on doing things, and it will be more difficult to complete the goal and achieve the ideal;
3. Having an open mind will make us more accepting and humble, aware of our own insignificance.
In order to realize that we need to make full use of our time and energy to do more meaningful things, to explore the truth, to absorb more nutrients, to receive new knowledge, to do self-improvement, and to expand more possibilities in our future.
Openness of mind also means no distractions when learning, as well as a greater degree of inner freedom;
4. Initiative is a necessary prerequisite for self-improvement. The reason why people are able to make changes, strive to improve, expand their comfort zone, make plans and a series of other behaviors is indispensable for the participation of will, and in essence, what you are not willing to do is difficult to continue.
If people rely on willpower and persistence to do things, it is actually difficult to "persevere".
5. Focus on the present. The moment we are experiencing is the moment when we need to focus. The past cannot be changed, the future is immeasurable, and only the present can be grasped.
Living our best selves means that we are actively accepting what is happening in our lives and trying to make decisions that are good for us and others.
In fact, when people choose to avoid and ignore, it is equivalent to giving up the possibility of trying to solve problems through their own abilities, but no one can be responsible for the lives of others, only themselves are the most reliable support.
We need to try to understand ourselves, identify with ourselves, and believe that we can influence someone or something through our efforts to make a difference, but of course we are willing to start small and work gradually.
What do we need to do about it?
Pay attention to your own health, improve your awareness of health knowledge, eat healthy foods, such as beneficial fats, proteins, slow carbs, rich berries, beans, vegetables, fast for at least 14 hours at night, and put exercise on your schedule;
Try to use a variety of methods to learn, clarify the reasons that hinder your learning, explore what you are really interested in, and stimulate a deep interest in learning, so as to help us keep an open mind and have the ability and drive for lifelong learning;
Finding words that align with your core values and sticking to what you want to be when dealing with others can be difficult, but it will also allow you to discover the joy of dealing with people and build intimate and independent connections with the people who matter to you.
Whether you like your job right now or not, there's no denying that work is also part of the way we live, so you need to re-look at what's happening at work, especially if it's something completely different from what you envisioned.
Be professional, do not pander to others to avoid conflict, be able to take responsibility for yourself, and continue to grow;
Set up exercises that allow you to relax your mind or heal yourself, such as meditation, reading, sharing experiences with important people, and in short, think about what you want to achieve spiritually and try to do it.
Brief summary:
People are bound to interact with each other, intentionally or unintentionally, to a deeper or shallow extent, and to a lesser or larger extent.
We must learn to work hard, live seriously, be clear about what we want to become, and work hard to live the best version of ourselves.
At the same time, don't lose sight of the fact that there are people around you who are helping you to be your best self and others who are holding you back.
Your actions also have an impact on others, and you need to be aware of what you're doing when making any decisions or triggering behaviors.
Finally, I would like to conclude with the author's point of view. As long as we choose to grow, life will develop the way you want to be.
I hope that in the future, everyone will remain open-minded, focused, and determined to live their best selves.
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