In "Dream of Red Mansions", there is a scene that is very classic.
Jia Baoyu and Qingwen quarreled, and in a fit of anger, they shouted to drive Qingwen out.
Unexpectedly, Qingwen said: "I won't get out of this door even if I hit my head." ”
When the girl has a low status, why does Qingwen refuse to leave when she dies?
In "Dream of Red Mansions", Qingwen is not alone.
After Mrs. Wang's girl Jin Chu'er was kicked out, she jumped directly into the well, and she didn't want her life, which is really surprising.
The girl is a cheap job, why would the girl in "Dream of Red Mansions" rather die than leave?
The truth is surprising.
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As a girl in Jiafu, life is better than that of an ordinary well-off family.
"Dream of Red Mansions" is a romance novel that tells the story of the four families of Jia Shi, Wang Xue and Xue from prosperity to decline.
Jiafu is the center of "Dream of Red Mansions", as a family of nobles, the life of the son, the lady, the lady and the grandmother are called a happy.
And the girls, life is also quite easy.
In the nineteenth episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", the attacker went home for the New Year.
At the beginning, the attacker's parents and brothers were so poor that they had no food to eat, so they sold the attacker to the Jia family as a girl.
Over the years, her mother and brother have saved some money and plan to ransom her back.
But the attacker said, "He will not go back until he dies."
The attacker said two things: 1. Eat and dress like the master, and 2. Don't beat and scold.
Generally speaking, being a girl is the life of being bullied and ravaged.
However, in Jiafu, it is very different.
First of all, the girl has a good income.
Take Jia Baoyu's girl as an example.
The big girl attacked people, and her salary was one or two silver a month.
The big girl Qingwen and Musk Yue have a lot of money a month.
The little girl Jiahui and so on, five hundred dollars a month.
This is still a case where food, clothing, and housing are covered by Jiafu, which is pure income.
The living expenses of Grandma Liu's family for a year are 20 taels of silver, and in other words, the salary of the eldest girls such as Raider and Qingwen for a year can support the family of farmers for a year.
And, there are often surprises.
Jia Baoyu's little girl, Jia Hui, went to send tea to Lin Daiyu, and it just so happened that Jia's mother sent money to Lin Daiyu.
Lin Daiyu distributed the money to her girls, and when she saw Jiahui coming, she also grabbed two handfuls for her.
Secondly, the girls in Jiafu have good food.
In the sixty-second episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", the Liu family sent a food box to Fang Guan.
Xiao Yan then unveiled it, and inside was a bowl of shrimp ball chicken skin soup, another bowl of steamed duck stuffed with wine, a plate of pickled rouge goose breast, and a plate of four creamy pine cakes, and a large bowl of hot, green fragrant rice and japonica rice. Xiao Yan put it on the table, went to get the side dishes and bowls, and dialed a bowl of rice. Fang Guan said: "Greasy, who eats these things." "I only ate one bowl of soup and rice, and I picked two pieces of pickled goose and didn't eat it. - The sixty-second chapter of "Dream of Red Mansions".
Shrimp skin soup, steamed duck, goose breast, japonica rice.
Can you imagine this is the little girl's food.
What's more, Fang Guan was used to eating, and in the end he only ate a bowl of soup and rice.
In the book, the Liu family in the kitchen has a request from Fangguan, and the food given to her is particularly good, which shows that in Jiafu, the girls are indeed better than the well-off families in life.
Third, the food is the same as the master, and the girls' clothes are not bad.
The first time Grandma Liu came to Jiafu, Wang Xifeng sent her 20 taels of silver, and the excuse was "20 taels of silver to make clothes for the girl".
In the fortieth episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", Grandma Liu came to Jiafu again, and Jia's mother took her to play, talking about the precious yarn stored in the library - soft smoke.
The soft smoke is soft, thick and light, and it is better than the yarn used in your palace.
Mother Jia instructed: "If sometimes, take it out, send two horses to Liu's family, and then make a tent for me to hang, add the rest of the lining, and make some vests for the girls to wear, and it will be moldy in vain." ”
The collection of precious leno for the girls to make a jacket, this dress, ordinary ladies can not compare.
With a salary, good food, and good dress, who doesn't like such a job?
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Being a girl in Jiafu can still be respected.
When the attacker returned home, he once said something like this:
Jia Fuzhong has never been a subordinate, only Enduowei is less. And all the girls in the old and young rooms are more different from everyone in the family, and the young ladies who are usually humble cannot be so respectful. - Dream of Red Mansions: The Nineteenth Chapter
In Jiafu, girls can be respected.
In the third episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", Lin Daiyu first entered the Rongguo Mansion, and at night, Daiyu and Baoyu rested in Jia's mother's room.
The attacker served Baoyu to sleep, and when he saw that Daiyu was not asleep, he went to see Daiyu.
Daiyu hurriedly asked: "Sister, please take a seat."
The assailant sat down on the edge of the bed.
The attacker was the big girl next to Baoyu, and Lin Daiyu was also quite polite.
Mandarin duck is the chief girl next to Jia's mother, and she is the most trusted by Jia's mother, and Jia's mother's property is in her hands.
In the seventy-second episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", the mandarin duck came to Jia Lian Wang Xifeng's room.
When Jia Lian saw it, he hurriedly scolded the little girl: "Why don't you make good tea! Quickly take a clean bowl and make a bowl of new tea that came in yesterday." ”
Jia Lian is so attentive, just to beg the mandarin duck to take out the collection of treasures that Jia's mother does not use and sell some of them to tide over the difficulties at home.
The mandarin duck was sitting, Jia Lian begging, like a superior person.
Always taking care of the big girl is the custom of Jiafu.
In the thirty-eighth episode of "Dream of Red Mansions", Jiafu held a crab banquet.
Everyone was full of food and drink, Shi Xiangyun ordered someone to set up a table again, picked hot crabs, and invited people to sit together, such as Raider, Zijuan, Siqi, Waiting for Books, Painting, Ying'er, Cuimo, etc.
In the fortieth time, Jia's mother played and feasted in the Grand View Garden, and there were so many meals that she couldn't finish it.
The mandarin duck was still thinking about Ping'er, Raider, Cuiyun and other girls, and sent them some food.
The girl next to the young lady is especially respected.
The mothers-in-law in the Grand View Garden are in charge of the decent big girl, called "Deputy Miss", and they are quite afraid.
In "Dream of Red Mansions", Jia Baoyu's girl has the most appearances, and he is also very good to the girl.
Jia Baoyu remembered that Qingwen loved to eat tofu skin buns, and when she saw it in Ningfu, she specially ordered someone to bring it back and leave it for her to eat.
The lotus root official burned paper in the Grand View Garden to pay tribute to the officials, and was discovered by the mothers-in-law and wanted to drag her to the grandmothers to be punished.
Unexpectedly, Jia Baoyu came out, stopped her mother-in-law, and covered up for the lotus root official in every possible way.
The lotus root official escaped.
Mrs. Wang's girl Caiyun secretly took the rose dew to Jia Huan, and later the East Window incident happened, and the truth became a big problem.
In the end, it was still Baoyu who took everything, and I just hoped that everyone would be okay and live in peace.
Treating people well is the custom of Jiafu.
The girls have become grandmothers, and they will be respected.
In the forty-third time, Jia Mu convened everyone to discuss Wang Xifeng's birthday.
Several old grandmothers from Jiafu, such as Mama Lai, came.
Mother Jia hurriedly asked someone to bring a few small chairs for them to sit on.
Wang Xifeng, You Shi and others stood upside down.
The customs of Jiafu are that the family members who have served their parents in the old age are more decent than the young masters, so Sister You Feng and the others just stand underground, and the mother of Lai Da and other three or four old grandmothers sue for a crime, and they all sit on the small pestle. - Dream of Red Mansions: Chapter 43
People like Mama Lai, who have served their elders, are more respected.
Facts have proved that Jiafu is indeed a benevolent and generous family, and it also loves the girl's subordinates.
Such a master family, the girls are willing to do it for a lifetime.
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Being a girl in Jiafu has the possibility of crossing classes.
Musk's needs theory has five levels: physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-actualization needs.
After satisfying the physiological needs of the body, people begin to pursue the need for self-actualization.
The girl is also a human being, and she also has pursuits.
In Jia's family, Ping'er is a girl, and she is also Wang Xifeng's left pound and right arm.
When Mrs. Jia Muwang was not at home and Wang Xifeng was sick and bedridden, Ping'er and a group of young ladies and young masters were dealing with the theft case in the Grand View Garden.
The sixty-first episode of the review is: Baoyu concealed the stolen goods, and sentenced to be unjustly sentenced to prison and Ping'er exercised power.
She deals with the important affairs in Jiafu, like half a family.
We know that later, after Wang Xifeng's death, Ping'er was straightened out and became Jia Lian's stepwife.
From the girl to the lady, it really crossed the class.
In fact, Aunt Zhao was originally a girl, but later married Jia Zheng as a concubine and gave birth to Jia Huan, so she became half a master.
The most successful slave in Jiafu was Lai's family.
Mama Lai is Lai Da's mother, from Mama Lai to Lai Da, she is the steward of Jiafu.
The Lai family has served the Jia family for several generations, and is the family slave of the Jia family, and later, Lai Da gave birth to a son, Lai Shangrong.
Lai Shangrong was born and was released by Jiafu and became a free man.
Since childhood, he has lived a life like a son-in-law, surrounded by nurses and girls.
Mama Lai once said: (Lai Shangrong) How do you know how to write the word "slave"?
At the age of twenty, with the help of Jiafu, Lai Shangrong donated his official career, and became the magistrate of a place.
Lai's family also has a big house and a big garden, and their lives are quite good.
It can be said that with the help of Jiafu, Lai Shangrong completely got rid of the fate of being a slave for generations, and even became a magistrate.
Therefore, after working for a long time in Jiafu, the master is generous, and he has a good death.
If you are lucky, you can get rid of the fate of being a slave, successfully cross the class, and become a human being.
You say, in such a working environment, which girl is willing to leave Jiafu?
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Born in the last days
In fact, no matter how much you say that the girl in "Dream of Red Mansions" is doing well, it can't hide a fact.
The girl is a lowly, a slave, and an accessory to the master.
When the owner is angered, he will be thrown out and sold.
For example, Jia Bao's girl Qian Xue was driven away because of a bowl of maple dew tea.
Jia Lian did a good job, and Jia Yu rewarded the girl Qiu Tong to him as a concubine.
No one asked Qiu Tong if he wanted to.
As a girl, even if she is respected by her master, she still can't change the fate of being dominated by the master's family.
It's just that in that feudal era, the charitable and generous Jia family was indeed the best choice for a girl to meet.
It's a pity that Jia Fu can't protect them for the rest of their lives.
才自精明志自高，生于末世运偏消。
This is Cao Xueqin's sentence to Jia Tanchun.
It is also very suitable for the girls in "Dream of Red Mansions".
They aspire to live in Jiafu for a lifetime and live a stable life.
It's a pity that they are in the last days of the Jia family.
Under the nest, there are no eggs.
When the generals of Jiafu fell, the girls could not escape the fate of being sold again.
And what will happen to the next master's house, it is unknown.
Maybe they will be lucky enough to meet a good master, like the Jia family, and treat them well.
Perhaps, you will meet bad people, such as Sun Shaozu's family, who are ravaged and eat the bitter fruits alone.
If you don't have autonomy, whether you go to heaven or go to hell is the attitude of the Lord's family.
Only an independent life, a world where everyone is equal, is the true paradise.