I'll be happy if you're happy
▓ 司马小萌
Gusu Evening News 2024-04-17 A08 edition
People are emotional creatures, and while understanding each other, you also correct yourself.
"Sima Guang" Photo by Sima Xiaomeng
In the past few years, I have often taken a photography team to other places to collect and take pictures. The members of the squad were very old: fifty plus, sixty plus, and, seventy plus.
Those who are retired have a lot of free time and an unstoppable urge to photograph, and those who are not retired are even more itchy. Even if someone takes annual leave, they have to "shoot while walking" with me and accept "offline teaching". Hehe, when you meet a "living Lei Feng" like me who doesn't take a penny and is dedicated to helping others, everyone can steal the fun.
We either drove, or drove, or placed our affection on the landscape, or placed our affection on the humanities, I suddenly found that every trip is not only an improvement of photography skills, but also a process of making friends, making friends, and loving friends: the original strangers began to pat on the shoulder and call them brothers; Personality is integrated in chatting, and feelings are sublimated in hip-hop.
On the Ring Road in Hainan, Ms. Shao from Beijing and Ms. Li, who currently lives in Hainan for a long time, shared a bus with me. The lively and cheerful two met for the first time and quickly "met each other".
Ms. Shao is unequivocal in her praise, while Ms. Li is in no way inferior in response. Look, these two are numb—
Tout each other, starting with the face. Shao to Li: "Your skin is so good! White and red......" Li to Shao: "Your skin is good! No wrinkles......" I observed carefully, although one of them was white and the other was black, and their faces were quite smooth. Well, default. Everyone was happy.
Cars sped away, rows of coconut trees skimming through windows. The two of them praised each other and marched to the ear area. Shao Kua Li: "Big earlobes, blessed appearance!" Li exclaimed: "Your ears are not small!" ...... Hearing this, I immediately looked sideways, stared for three seconds, and made a "concluding" speech: "Then, isn't it Zhu Bajie!" Everyone laughed wildly.
caught up with a section of the "washboard road" to be repaired, and almost jumped out of my internal organs, but it did not prevent the two "Bai Fumei" from continuing to "come and go". Now, the mutual praise has been carried out to the hand part. Look, the two of them were happily drawing their hands: "You are suitable for being a 'hand model'!" "You, more suitable!" and I, subconsciously looking at myself, it was the rough hands of a photographic manual laborer who has been exposed to the wind and sun all year round, and it is indeed "impossible to hold it". So, I immediately withdrew my hand. But at this moment, it is more important not to let this kind of hype go any further. Otherwise, I said, "You should praise each other's butts and feet, right?"
"Are you talking about a joke...... everyone laughed and the crowd was excited.
Even Lao Wang, who was sitting in the co-pilot in front, was "ready to move" when he saw the rearing in the back. As soon as he changed his usual habit of sleeping in the car, he giggled with everyone. Maybe I want to condolence Xiao Ren, who is driving, but I opened my mouth: "Ren Lao ......" cut, people are eighteen miles younger than you!
People are emotional creatures, and while pleasing each other, you are also happy with yourself.
Of course, not only pleasant. In Wuxi, where the spring flowers are blooming, Professor Han of our team only cares about photographing flowers, breaks his foot, and slumps to the ground. said that it was too late, and the local guys who passed by hurriedly stepped forward to help. The speed was so fast that they didn't even see each other's faces clearly.
"Beijing people step on the air, Wuxi people pull up", the news of the day is there, I laughed. People are emotional creatures, and while helping each other, you also perfect yourself.
I humorously referred to our group as "Tu Baozi", so I deservedly earned the title of "Tu Baozi Head".
In Suzhou, the time and place are favorable, and the ridicule has reached the "peak".
Ms. Jiang, who used to be "socially afraid," has already achieved the initial victory of "socialist transformation," and she bore the brunt of the attack and decisively made fun of the "soil bun head." In the circle of friends, she wrote: "The leader Sima Xiaomeng, the style is the same as always, taking Sima steps, the six relatives do not recognize, waving Sima fist, who loves and shoots, chasing Sima Guang, there is a shot." ”
You don't understand what that means, do you? Hehe, it's only clear if you've been in our squad. "Sima Guang" - that is, Mr. Sima shoots at the sun with his mobile phone, and he can always shoot "radiant". It makes everyone envious, only the red eyes and no white eyes, so it is named "Sima Guang". As for "Sima Boxing" - in the squad, whoever wants to make some "Riglang" will always be "shot to death on the beach" by Mr. Sima. As for the real and fake shots, you know.
People are emotional creatures, and while teasing each other, you also humor yourself.
When I returned to Beijing after the collection, my son came to see me. He said, "Your phone is used so often, do you want to install a mobile phone chain to prevent it from falling off?" I said, "Wow, wow!" My son quickly went home and picked it up. I charged my phone that night and found that the phone chain was in the way and couldn't be charged. He called his son over again. My son said, "As long as you work harder, you're good to go." I said, so troublesome, I don't want it. The mother and son duo are on the bar. In the end, I raised my voice and firmly refused, and my son grabbed the chain of his phone and rushed out the door in a huff.
As for this little, we usually don't talk about it anymore. But this time, I changed it. I left a gentle message on WeChat: "Son, don't be angry. Your kindness is understood. However, it is more difficult to use it like this, and I think it is easy to deform the plug. The son replied with unprecedented gentleness: "I see." ”
People are emotional creatures, and while understanding each other, you also correct yourself.
Everyone lives in the world of their own cognition, people's hearts are changing rapidly, and interpersonal communication is the most difficult to deal with. Lao Tzu said in the Tao Te Ching: "Changde does not leave, and returns to the baby." The wise man translates: "The highest level of maturity is naivety." ”
In fact, no matter how sad the world is and how complicated the human heart is, as long as it is with eternal virtue, it will return to the state of infantile innocence. There is no scheming, no city, no scheming, no selfishness. "Knowing the world but not the world, the history is smooth and naïve".
Recently, I saw a piece of news, which is a bit interesting. Maybe it has nothing to do with the topic of this article, but if you think about it, maybe it has something to do with it—
Italian police fined a 103-year-old woman for driving an uninsured car at night to visit friends with an expired driver's license. The police fined him and sent him home. But she is not willing to stay at home, and still plans to ride her bike to meet friends, "I need to maintain a circle of friends, and I have to do what I promised my friends, whether it is playing cards or shopping." The local mayor praised the old lady and said that she should be awarded a medal, not a fine, "It is not common to have such a strong heart, which makes me look forward to my old age!" he wrote on Facebook.
However, the punishment should still be punished.
About the Author
Sima Xiaomeng is a senior reporter at the Beijing Evening News. He graduated from the Department of Journalism of Chinese University in 1969, majoring in photojournalism. He served as a member of the Beijing Municipal Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference for 15 He has made great achievements in the field of photojournalism and is a leading figure in the public welfare platform of photojournalism in China. Nowadays, he is "cross-border" and shows his skills in the field of writing.