Opinions on the Internet on the matter of whether or not to have children are quite divided! Some people insist on not getting married and not having children, and some people are desperately trying to have a second or third child. Recently I saw a post about a mom whose first child was only 10 months old (C-section) and she wanted to get pregnant again. The reason is that she feels happy to be pregnant, and she wants to give her husband 8 children.
▽ Originally, it is personal freedom to have children or not, and to have several children. But how to say it, this kind of statement of not taking your body seriously + a little bit of a love brain still aroused the disgust of many people.
↓ Sisters, there must be more births, my three indicators are sent to you, thank you sisters↓
▽The heart of the post owner is still quite strong, she feels that most of these people who sneer at her are students, and she will not bother with them.
I don't know if the owner of the post is draining. But I believe that in reality, there are really people who like children and have children. As long as you can take care of every child (both materially and psychologically), the owner of the post is to have a football team, and others are not qualified to say anything.
➤ People like my grandmother's generation are also very fond of having children. For example, my grandmother gave birth to 7 children, and my grandmother also gave birth to 6. But their "liking" to have children in those days is not the same as "liking" to have children now!
▽In the past, many people thought that having a child was to provide for themselves, and having one more pension would have a guarantee. To put it more realistically, giving birth to children in the past was an "investment": after birth, they were given food to ensure that the child would not starve to death, and when the child grew up to be an adult (or even underage), he had to go out to work, and at this time he began to "feed" his parents. In case one of the children is promising, the family will be able to follow suit.
My grandmother's family is better, although she is poor, she is very good to the children, and she will not squeeze my mother and my aunts to subsidize my uncles. But my grandmother's house is not good, the eccentricity is particularly obvious. My dad, as the second child in the family, contributed the most money and effort to the family, but he was the least welcomed. It's just that my dad is still very special, and he takes the initiative to deal with any big and small things in my grandmother's house.
➤ But it's different now. The material conditions are much better than before, and the cost of raising children is not known to be many times higher. If a family wants to have more children, the first consideration is whether the economic conditions allow it.
I have a cousin who was given birth to three children by a relative of her husband's family, and the relatives said that multiple children are more pairs of chopsticks, two are raised and three are raised, and the family is lively when there are more children, and there is no pressure on the three children to support the two of you in the future.
When my cousin told me, I couldn't wait to roll my eyes at that relative in person.
Even if it is a child in the countryside, it will not be stocked now, and the clothes and toys for school are almost the same as those in the city. Just because your children are raised rough doesn't mean that everyone else should be the same as yours!
And how precocious and shrewd children are now! The developed Internet has made more and more children realize that having a child may not be because their parents love them much, but they are also forced to come to this world! Why are so many children complaining about their parents and their original families on the Internet? Most of them are because they see other children enjoying resources and family care that they cannot enjoy.
I think that if you have a child for the purpose of providing for the elderly, the child will definitely find a way to escape from his original family when he grows up. In the end, isn't it just a bamboo basket for water!
➤ Fortunately, today's society is relatively open, allowing people to choose to have children or not to have children according to their needs. It's just a different way of life, and there's no need to criticize or praise either side. There are people around me who have given birth to children and are happy to have babies every day, and there are also people who have never fallen in love and live a chic and happy life alone. Each one has its own wonderful, the key is which one you choose in your heart, and whether you can manage your choice carefully.
I hope that all women who have children and those who do not have children can have their own brilliant lives!