There is a particularly interesting phenomenon around me, that is, families with good conditions and families with poor conditions are complaining about the cost of raising children. But how much does it cost to pay a child? There really is no uniform standard. Recently, I read a post in which a mother posted a complaint that children's sandals are expensive now, asking for 85 yuan a pair.
It is estimated that she herself didn't expect that a casual daily complaint would make netizens quarrel in the comment area. I read the comments carefully, and netizens are probably divided into two camps.
➤ The first one thinks that this mother is poor and picky. It is common sense that children's shoes are more expensive than adults' shoes, and slightly passable shoes cost one or two hundred, what quality shoes can you buy for a pair of 85 yuan! This mother is now too expensive to even buy 85 yuan sandals, and when the child grows up, she has to buy hundreds of thousands of sneakers and sneakers, so she must not go crazy?
It is recommended that those who cannot afford to raise children should not have children, because children born in such poor families are here to suffer!
➤ The second is that I think that 85 yuan children's sandals are not cheap, and the quality of these shoes is not very good. This mother thinks that sandals are not worth 85 yuan, and it is normal to post and complain, why did it rise to "poor people don't deserve to have children" and "reluctant to spend money on children"?
➤ To be honest, I personally understand that mother. Because my family conditions were not good when I was a child, the shoes I wore when I was a child were bought at that kind of small stall when my mother went to the town to catch the market. Shoes are cheap, some are comfortable to wear and some are uncomfortable. I remember that my most expensive shoes are a pair of small white shoes of more than 20 yuan, which I bought for the school sports meeting. Now that I'm working and making money, I'm still used to buying a pair of shoes that are not too cheap and easy to wear. I believe that maybe tens of thousands of shoes will be more comfortable to wear, and you can buy them by gritting your teeth, but I just don't think it's worth it + it's unnecessary.
▽Maybe this mother's family conditions are really bad, I really think that 85 yuan a pair of sandals is expensive, and she also said that she is reluctant to buy; There really are people like that, like my mom. If you take a picture of my mother's usual shopping and post it on the Internet, I guess there will be a lot of people complaining!
So I think it's very impolite to say that others are poor because of a picture and a sentence, and then feel that children are really pitiful from the perspective of children, and to stand on the moral high ground and point fingers at others.
➤ Everyone's economic situation is different, the consumption concept is different, and they have their own judgment on the value of the same thing (which may be non-physical things). For example, an aunt of mine who works as a small worker on a construction site thinks that it is expensive to spend a few hundred to buy a study desk for her child, but my uncle who owns a garment factory and earns one million a year means that a study desk below 10,000 yuan cannot be used. He thinks that the place where the money is spent is to give his children 40,000 or 50,000 foreign summer camps. According to the logic of some netizens, a family like my aunt is not worthy of having children.
▽But my aunt is really good to the child and gives the best to the child within her ability. Many times she just complains to my parents, and she will never say anything like "this thing is so expensive" or "what is the use of buying these things" in front of the children. Moreover, the children's academic performance, personal quality and knowledge of the aunt's family are no worse than those of the uncle's family. What should I say about this?
➤ So I think some of the comments on the Internet are a little extreme. Parents need financial support to raise their children, but the reality is that wealthy families are a minority, most of them are ordinary families, and even many families have an annual income of no more than 100,000 yuan.
But parents love their children with their hearts and truly respect their children, so even if there is no money at home, the happiness of the children will not be less than that of rich families!