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A friend of Bao Mom told me about her daughter, who is in the sixth grade, and when she talked about her child's period, she was a little depressed.
One day, my daughter came home and said to her mother, "Mom, my pants are bleeding." As soon as my mother heard it, she knew that such a big child must have had a period.
She gave her own tampon to her daughter and taught her how to use it.
Later, she wanted to ask her daughter about her period again, such as whether she put sanitary napkins in her schoolbag, whether she counted the days, etc.
But the daughter is always very shy, either hesitant, or blushing perfunctory: "Okay, okay, got it." ”
Moreover, she also found that every time she arrived, her daughter was always hiding, like a thief, for fear of being discovered, and she couldn't even say that she was a mother.
Bao's mother obviously feels that her daughter has become introverted, and her previous grinning personality has now become a lot more restrained. The point is that there are many things that my daughter doesn't want to say to her mother.
This makes the mother very depressed, how normal it is for a girl to have a period, why can't she talk to her mother? There are many precautions, and the mother needs to remind her daughter.
When a girl comes to her period, she can be a little overwhelmed. She went from a little girl to an adult, and this transformation will make her shy and a little flustered.
At this time, mothers need to be enlightened to help them correctly understand their physiological changes. The following 3 sentences should be remembered by smart mothers.
One: The first sentence: "Congratulations, you have grown up." ”
Every girl's first menstrual leave is a mark in her life. Some have good memories, some are distressing, and most are nervous.
I remember when I was a child, a group of us were chatting outside, and the neighbor's mother said in front of everyone that her daughter had come to her period to stain her pants, so she washed them 4 or 5 times. He also said that he didn't let his daughter wash her hair, and her daughter had to wash it, which was really a stubborn temper.
At that time, the neighbor girl was very embarrassed and kept her head down and did not speak. Even when we talked about it again when we grew up, the girl in the neighborhood said that she was angry with her mother.
If the mother talks about the girl's "little secret" with such an indifferent attitude, it will make the daughter feel ashamed or embarrassed, and she will not be able to face up to her own physiological changes.
What girls need most for menarche is their mother's understanding and support.
The mother needs to soothe her daughter's uneasy psychology and say, "Congratulations, you have grown up." "Let my daughter know that this is a necessary way to grow up, and it is also a milestone.
It is a good thing that my daughter can have such signs, which means that she is growing up healthily.
Our gentle soothing can make our daughter relax, not embarrassed or panicked.
Two: The second sentence: "This is very normal. ”
My cousin told me about her daughter's first menstrual period. She said that as a mother, she really has to correctly guide the girl's views and understanding of this matter.
She told her daughter at the time: "Menstruation is a part of every girl's growth, and everyone's body is unique, and the time and way of development are also different. So some girls may come to their period earlier and some later, which is completely normal and there is no need to feel embarrassed or shy. ”
She also explained to her daughter that, in general, menstruation lasts about 5 to 7 days, which is a natural pattern of the body, which means that she has begun to enter the stage of maturity.
At this time, the girl's physical development is basically mature, and it will be like this every month, which is part of health.
When Bao's mother said this, her tone was gentle, it really seemed to be telling about a normal thing in life, so that after her daughter listened to it, not only was she not nervous, but she felt that this was the growth process that every girl would go through, and she became more confident and at ease.
The correct guidance of mothers can enable girls to face their physical changes with a healthy attitude, which is so important to them!
Three: The third sentence: "Protect yourself." ”
The third thing we need to say to our daughter is, "Protect yourself." ”
Because when a girl comes to menstruation, it is not only a physical maturity, but also the beginning of psychological growth.
When a girl comes to this stage, it means that she has gradually become a mature girl. Especially when you enter puberty, you may have a good impression of the opposite sex.
And what they need most is to learn to protect themselves.
We have to tell our daughter that no matter what situation she encounters, she must stick to her principles, protect her body and mind, and not do things that she is unwilling to do because of external pressure or temptation.
The mother's patience and gentle guidance can help the girl to relieve her psychological burden and know how to respect and love herself. The above 3 sentences, mothers remember to tell adolescent girls.
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