As the saying goes, "no rules are not a circle", and it is precisely because of the rules that the world we live in will not be chaotic. And these rules are not only the embodiment of etiquette, but also the accumulation of people's wisdom and experience in life.
In the countryside, there are many rules, many of which are handed down by ancestors, and some are conventional. Let's take a look, many of them are not bad habits, but an important part of traditional culture.
(1) "Don't borrow money in the morning, don't visit the doctor at night",
I believe many people have heard of this old rule, just because it is a well-known rule in the countryside. This means that you can't borrow money in the early morning, and you don't choose to visit a sick person in the evening. Do you know what the reason is?
The reason why it is not advisable to borrow money in the morning is because the morning is a new beginning, people want the day to go well, and borrowing money often brings stress and anxiety to people, so not borrowing money in the morning is to avoid giving people a bad start.
And borrowing money in the morning, many people think that it is bad luck and are not willing to lend you money, and at the same time, be careful not to go to refunds, returns, or debt collection in the morning.
As for not being able to visit the sick at night, on the one hand, there is such a lack of sincerity.
The second is that the night is the time to rest, and the patient needs to recuperate quietly, and visiting the patient at this time may disturb the patient, so not visiting the patient at night reflects respect and concern for others.
Generally, the older generation says that it is best to visit patients in the morning, and it is not appropriate to visit patients in the afternoon, and it is even more taboo to visit patients in the evening.
(2) Go to someone else's house, don't sit on someone else's bed.
This rule reflects respect for the privacy of others. The bed is a part of the private space, and casually sitting on someone else's bed can feel uncomfortable and intrusive.
This rule teaches us to respect other people's private space and maintain appropriate distancing. Moreover, in the past, it was especially taboo to sit on the marriage bed of the newlyweds, and others were not allowed to sit on it until the wedding ceremony was held.
(3) Don't go out at 80, don't leave a seat at 90.
In fact, in the past, it was not said that way, but it was said, "Sixty do not go to the banquet, seventy do not stay overnight, eighty do not leave food, ninety do not stay sitting".
It means that after the age of 60, you should not go to other people's banquets, 70 years later, do not stay at other people's houses, and after the age of 80, do not leave others to eat at home. After the age of 90, don't force others to stay at home.
These rules, which are also the experience of our ancestors, are respect and care for the elderly. As older people age, their physical functions gradually decline, and going out and sitting for long periods of time may adversely affect their health. And this rule reminds us to care about the physical condition of the elderly and avoid causing unnecessary trouble to them.
(4) Fathers and sons do not sit at the same table, and uncles and nephews do not drink.
Nowadays, there is basically no such rule in many places, but if it is at some important banquets, you should pay attention to it. This rule reflects the hierarchy and etiquette in the family, and it means that father and son cannot sit together, and uncle and nephew cannot drink together.
Because in traditional Chinese culture, generations are very important, and different generations have different status and etiquette norms. Fathers and sons do not sit at the same table, and uncles and nephews do not drink in order to maintain order and respect in the family.
(5) Pour tea with the left hand, pour wine with the right hand, the tea is full of deception, and the wine is full of respect.
This rule is about hospitality, and it's still very popular. As we all know, in the traditional culture of the mainland, tea and wine are important drinks, and they have different cultural connotations and etiquette norms.
When pouring tea, you should pour it with your left hand, and when you pour wine, you should use your right hand. When pouring tea, it should be noted that the tea should not be poured full, only seven or eight points, while the wine should be poured differently, it should be poured full.
In addition, some places are more particular, that is, the spout of the teapot for pouring tea cannot be facing the guests, generally facing themselves rather than facing the guests, in order to avoid inconvenience and embarrassment to people, reflecting the careful and thoughtful host.
(6) One person does not climb the height, two people do not observe the well, three people do not drink, and four people do not rush to the market.
One person does not climb to avoid accidents, because it is difficult to get timely rescue in case of dangerous situations when climbing alone;
The reason why two people do not observe the well is to prevent disputes or misunderstandings, because the side of the well is a place that is prone to accidents such as slipping and falling, and two people watching the well at the same time may have an accident due to crowding or collision;
The three did not drink alcohol to avoid drunken gaffes or arguments, as alcohol could affect one's judgment and ability to control one's behavior, and the four did not go to the market to avoid accidents or loss of belongings when crowded.
In the past, it was very important to pay attention to probabilistic events, such as "five people with three surnames in different lines", "thirty-six people do not transition" and so on.
(7) Throw away old shoes that you don't wear in time.
The idea is that if you don't plan to wear shoes anymore, you don't have to keep them, and the best way to deal with them is to throw them away in time. In fact, there is no metaphysics in this way, just to avoid the accumulation of old shoes and cause a dirty environment, reflecting the importance of cleanliness and hygiene.
(8) It is better to borrow someone to stop mourning than to borrow someone to form a pair.
is talking about his own house, and he would rather lend it to others for funerals than lend it to others for marriages. This rule reflects a deep understanding of the sophistication of human feelings, and that a mourning stop is only a short stay, while becoming a pair may involve more complex emotional entanglements, so avoid getting involved.
In the past, the rule in many places was that husbands and wives could not share the same bed in other people's rooms, and even if the married daughter returned to her parents' house, she had to sleep in separate beds.
In addition, there are many rules in the countryside, such as "white things are coming, red things are called", which means that white happy events should take the initiative to help, and red happy events are only invited.
In addition, "medicine jars, cribs, and crutches cannot be borrowed, and if you borrow them, you cannot return them voluntarily." There are also "mothers are not celebrating their birthdays, and fathers are not leaving beards", building a house pays attention to "the east is not high, and the west is high and the waist is broken" and so on.
These old rural rules, which seem simple and simple, actually contain profound cultural heritage and wisdom of life.
In today's fast-growing society, these old rules may have been gradually forgotten, but the wisdom and value they contain are still worth learning and inheriting. #春日生活打卡季#