May every child grow up in the sun
Have you noticed that many families obviously do not lack love, but children do not feel love.
I have heard the saying that the most conquering weapon in the world is language, a word can make a person's mood fall to the bottom, and a word can also make a person regain strength.
If you want your child to feel like they are surrounded by love, parents may want to start by changing the way they communicate.
"It's okay"
We often say that home is a warm harbor.
Family should be a place for people to relax and heal, not a place for people to be nervous.
When children make mistakes, they are often apprehensive, frustrated, or hesitant, and what they need is not your fuel or ridicule.
You might as well give him a hug, comfort him in time, and tell him that it's not a big deal, and that if there is a problem, let's find a way to solve it together.
Your sentence of "it's okay" is not connivance, but understanding and care, which will give children a full sense of security and love.
"I understand you"
I read a book that wrote: "A child's sorrow can be said to be insignificant to an adult, but it is a great thing for the child itself." ”
The emotions of being ignored and denied are more hurtful than the slap that is raised.
Every child's emotions and feelings are important and parents should not ignore them.
Therefore, when a child is criticized, you can warmly say: "I understand you, I must feel bad when I am criticized, right?"
When your child comes to the doctor with a toothache, tell him: "I understand your fears, you can cry for a while, but you can't lose your temper because you're afraid, think about why we're coming to see your teeth." ”
You must know that what children need is never what their parents need, but emotional companionship, acceptance and understanding.
"I love you no matter what"
Being excellent should not be the reason why a child is loved, but the result of being loved.
So we need to firmly tell our children, "No matter what, I love you." ”
This will let the child know that we love him as a person, regardless of whether he is good or not, and will not love him because of a test result, nor will we love him more because of good grades.
When a child understands that the love of his parents is unconditional, he will have the confidence and courage to face a complex future.
The most important thing children need to know is that they are important to their parents and will always be surrounded by love.
This is the strongest backing for children, the courage and motivation for them to explore the world, and the confidence for them to get up and continue to move forward when they encounter setbacks.
May every child grow up to the sun and be prosperous all his life.
Source/Ten o'clock reading
Editor/Liao Yunqing
Review/Xiaoyue
Executive Producer/Qiao Hong