According to the cases I have actually encountered, a considerable number of people, at the beginning of the breakup, always feel that the ex does not really want to break up, so they go to stalk and chase hard, which leads to the situation getting worse and worse.
Wait until the situation is so bad that it is difficult to recover before you can really recognize the fact of a real breakup.
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When we talk about the redemption method, we also said that the timing of the redemption is very important, if you can realize that you are a real breakup at the beginning, and quickly take the right approach, it will be of great benefit to your recovery, so you must be aware of the problem of real and false breakups.
Here I will provide you with a few judgment criteria, I hope it can help you.
First, whether the contact information has been deleted and blocked;
If the other party has blocked and deleted your contact information after breaking up, here are several situations to look at.
1. If the other party just blocked your main contact information, then you need to combine other circumstances to determine the authenticity;
2. If you contact one to delete one, and it is deleted directly, without giving you the opportunity to communicate, this relatively high probability is a true breakup.
3. If the other party deletes all contact information and does not give you any chance to find TA, then this can be determined to be a real breakup.
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second, emotional responses;
Why can't you completely judge that blocking and deleting you is a true breakup? Because there is no way to determine the result of any indicator when you look at it alone, and you have to observe it together with other indicators.
That's what we're talking about, what your ex's emotional attitude is towards you.
If the ex's attitude reaction is very large, he will make a lot of noise, scold you and the like, and his mood swings are relatively large, this may be a fake breakup;
Because being noisy means that they have emotions to vent, or want you to know what your problem is, so express it.
But if the other party doesn't want to talk to you too much, and just finds a reason to break up with you, ignoring your existence, in this case, it is likely to be a real breakup.
third, whether you have informed your relatives and friends of the news of your breakup;
If your mutual friends, or each other's parents, or directly send a message to Moments announcing the breakup, then it is very likely that this is a real breakup.
Because these actions did not leave a way back for your relationship, they didn't have to think about how to explain to their relatives and friends after reconciling, and they didn't think about reconciling at all, so it was a real breakup.
Of course, there are also some exes who just tell one or two very good people around them, in this case, you don't have to worry about it, and it may also be a fake breakup, because the scope is not very large, and it only belongs to the confiding type.
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the fourth is the dynamics of the circle of friends;
If there are not too many fluctuations in the dynamics of the circle of friends, it means that it is a real breakup, because at this time, the ex only wants to do what he wants to do, or wants to return to his own purity and plainness, so he will not make a big move.
But if it's a fake breakup, it's likely that you'll update some sad dynamics in the circle of friends, or post some dating photos and the like to stimulate you, hoping that you will come back to him.
Fifth, you can refer to the invitation;
Even if your ex blocks and deletes you, if you contact him to meet, he will agree to meet you, which is likely to be a fake breakup.
But there are exceptions, for example, when we meet, I tell you, don't mention getting back together, I won't agree. Or to meet and tell you not to do those behaviors that harass them, then this is a real breakup.
Finally, to summarize briefly, you have to look at these indicator things comprehensively, don't catch one and feel that you really break up, and then despair there, on the whole, you will be more clear and objective.
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