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I am a woman who has been through three marriages, and each failure of marriage is like a hammer hitting my heart.
Looking back, the ups and downs of these three marriages I have experienced are like unpredictable storms that have left me bruised all over my body.
I have been in pain, crying, and confused, but in the end I understand that if a husband and wife can't control these three things in a man, then divorce may only be a matter of time.
My first marriage was like a beautiful bubble, short and illusory. My ex-husband, handsome and witty, once made me think I had found my ideal partner.
However, as time went on, I gradually realized that he had no sense of responsibility for his family. Usually, he always valued work and friends more than family, often stayed up all night, and even forgot our wedding anniversary.
I tried to communicate with him, hoping that he would care more about the family, but he always prevaricated me on the grounds that he was busy with work. I endured countless disappointments and loneliness, and finally, after waiting again and again, I chose to end this marriage.
02
In my second marriage, I thought I had found a man who really knew how to cherish me. He cared for me and made me feel warmer than I had ever felt before.
However, as time went on, I discovered that there were lies and betrayals hidden behind his sweet words. He often maintains an affair with the opposite sex and even betrays me many times.
When I found out all this, my heart was like a knife, and I couldn't bear this betrayal and deception, so I resolutely left him.
After two failed marriages, I developed a deep fear of marriage. However, fate doesn't seem to be going to let me go.
When I was at my most vulnerable, I met my third husband. He seems mature and steady, which gives me a sense of security. However, over time, I discovered that he lacked self-control and was unable to control his emotions and behavior.
He would often get angry over trivial things and even do something to me.
His emotional out-of-control made me feel frightened and helpless, and it also made me feel insecure about my marriage. I couldn't stand this violence and indifference and ended up getting a divorce again.
03
Looking back on these three marriages, I am deeply saddened. These three marriages also made me understand how important a man's sense of responsibility, honesty and self-control are to the happiness of a marriage.
An irresponsible man will make the family lose its pillar and make his wife suffer endless loneliness and disappointment, a dishonest man will make trust worthless and make the marriage fall into endless suspicion and quarrels, and a man who lacks self-control will make the family full of violence and indifference, and make the wife live in fear and insecurity.
As women, we must learn to protect ourselves in marriage and not blindly trust the sweet words and promises of men. When choosing a partner, we must keep our eyes open and identify those men who are truly worthy of being entrusted with life.
At the same time, we must also continue to improve our inner cultivation and independent ability, so that we can become more excellent and confident. Only in this way can we be invincible in our marriage and reap true happiness and fulfillment.
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Now I have stepped out of the shadow of marriage and started a new life. I know that marriage is not the whole of life, nor is it our only reliance. I want to learn to face the challenges and difficulties of life independently, so that I can truly reap the rewards of happiness.
In closing, I would like to say to all those who are going through a difficult marriage: don't be afraid of failure and don't give up hope. Every setback is a stepping stone to growth, and every pain makes us stronger. Believe in yourself and believe in the future, and we will definitely be able to find our own path to happiness.
I also hope that my experience and insights can give some inspiration and help to those who are confused and struggling in marriage, so that we can go further, more stable and happier on the road of marriage together.