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My name is Lin Wan'er, and I used to have infinite longing and expectations for marriage. I thought that the moment I put on my wedding dress was the happiest beginning of my life. However, reality gave me a resounding slap in the face and made me completely sober up on my wedding day.
My acquaintance with him, like most love stories, was full of sweetness and romance. When he chased me, he was always so attentive and thoughtful, and every surprise and every care made me feel like the happiest woman in the world.
I thought that I had found someone to whom I could be entrusted with my life, and I thought that our love could withstand any test.
However, on the day of the wedding, everything changed.
He who was once gentle and considerate suddenly became irritable and strange. I don't know what angered him, or why he could get out of control on such an important day.
I just remember that I just said a few more words to two male friends who had a good relationship during the toast, and after the toast, he pulled me aside and started to scold me loudly, saying that I didn't abide by women's morals, and how could I talk and laugh with other men when I got married.
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I tried to explain, tried to calm his anger, I whispered to him that those two people were my little ones, and that we were just normal friends, but he didn't listen.
Then, he raised his hand and gave me a slap in the face. At that moment, it was as if I had fallen into an ice cave, cold from the top of my head to the soles of my feet. I can't believe that this man I once loved dearly would do this to me on our most important day. That slap not only hit me in the face, but also hit me in the heart.
I looked at him with disappointment and anger in my eyes. It dawned on me that the love and marriage I had been seeking were not like this.
What I want is a partner with whom I can go through the storms and get along with me, not a man who will do something to me when my emotions are out of control.
Now that we have just been married, and it is the first day of our marriage, he has treated me like this, and what will he do to me after such a long married life? I really can't think about it.
It was at that moment that I made up my mind that I could not continue this marriage. I can't let my whole life live in fear and insecurity, and I can't let my dignity be trampled on like this. So, I resolutely left the wedding scene and decided to divorce him.
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I know that my decision will surprise many people and even make some people think I am impulsive. But I don't care. Because I know that this is the right choice I have made for my own happiness and dignity.
After the divorce, I went through a difficult time. The discussion of family and friends, and the prejudice of society, all made me feel very stressed. But I didn't give up, and I firmly believed that I could come out of this shadow.
I started my life again, put my mind all on my work, and tried to keep myself busy. I enrich myself with my work and use time to heal my wounds.
Slowly, I completely stepped out of the shadows of the past and regained my confidence and happiness.
Looking back now, that slap on the wedding day may have been a turning point in my life. It made me see the reality clearly, and it also made me more aware of my own worth and dignity. I am grateful for that slap because it gave me the opportunity to choose my life again.
I want to tell all women who are going through similar predicaments not to be afraid, not to compromise. Our happiness and dignity are our own, and we have the right to fight for and protect them. If we encounter harm and injustice, we should be brave enough to stand up and speak up for ourselves.
Finally, I would also like to tell women who are still looking for love and marriage not to rush into the palace of marriage. We need to keep our eyes open and see the other person for what they really are, and then decide whether or not we want to spend the rest of our lives with him.
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Message from the setting moon:
There is a good saying: "Once domestic violence starts, it can only end with marriage." “
In life, there are many women who have the same experience as Lin Wan'er. Perhaps fate will make us encounter misfortune, but we must have the courage to stay away from the wrong people in time, and don't let "domestic violence" become a sharp knife on top of our heads.