When life comes to the threshold of thirty, I am particularly sensitive to the number thirty.
Recently, I have begun to pay a lot of attention to topics related to the age of 30, hoping to get some wisdom, experience or advice from my predecessors, so that the 30 years can go smoothly. Although this is an opportunistic mentality, for the sake of twenty years of Hua having nothing to show for the sake of nothing, fate may be kind enough to take a small look at the topic. Sure enough, fate raised the jade hand lightly, and I met Zhang Xiaohui's "To you who are 30+".
Ms. Zhang Xiaohui, who has just passed the birth year and is over 60 years old, is affectionately called Miss Zhang by readers, and she has passed a full 30 years old after she is 30 years old, I think I should be able to listen to what she says, listen to it with such thoughts, to understand, and then naturally begin to be deeply fascinated by this rose that blooms tirelessly day and night.
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Zhang Xiaohui, encyclopedia introduces her as a Hong Kong socialite, Canadian actress, Hollywood producer, and fashion blogger. If you learn a little about her life, you will find that she also has titles such as columnist, the first generation KOL, and the first signed female artist of CCTV, and her life is not rich. Sixty years is long enough, but not enough for any woman who has slackened off to write a story like hers. Most importantly, she is Miss Zhang forever, which can be translated as, she is herself, from beginning to end.
Born in 1963, Zhang Xiaohui has lived in a quiet mansion in Kowloon Tong since she was a child, and has been visiting Beauty Department Store and Lane Crawford with her mother since she was 4 years old. From primary school to secondary school, Zhang Xiaohui studied at Maryknoll Convent School, a prestigious school in Hong Kong, and received a British-style education. At the age of 16, he moved to Toronto, where he studied fine art history and English literature in college, and went to New York for a master's degree to study museum management, and then moved to fashion design. Born to love beauty, spend the first half of your life as you like.
Between the ages of 25 and 35, Zhang Xiaohui married and had children, bought clothes and dressed up, no different from ordinary women. Because of this ten-year marriage, Miss Zhang has been labeled as a "loser" and "wild girl" and other notorieties in the newspapers, and she bluntly said that "I don't care about it at all, they 'demonize' me." After the divorce, a media friend said that he wanted to give me ordinary, and I said, no, thank you. "I don't care, I don't explain, the rose has occasionally gone through ups and downs, and she has her own bones and thorns to resist wind and frost and slander, so it is not the pampered habits of the world.
The storm has passed for decades, and when people are still talking about her romances, or even chasing after the wind and shadows, Miss Zhang Shi Shiran has crossed one milestone after another, lazily talking about the past. "Oh, I never explain. Never. "Any words are vulnerable in the face of reality, gossips and good deeds come and go, and Miss Zhang blooms by herself. And many women do not have such ups and downs, nor do they have other opportunities, and they are willing to slowly sink in marriage and wither quietly. The dust disturbed, but the roses were still refreshing, paying tribute to Miss Zhang.
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In 2018, Miss Zhang, who has lived in Los Angeles for a long time, returned to the public eye with her personal public account. In her first letter to readers, she bluntly said: "No, no, no, I don't belong to this data age. In the next few years, from the official account to the brand e-commerce to the Xiaohongshu live broadcast, she was comfortable in these fields.
Zhang Xiaohui once led the trend of Pashmina cashmere scarves in Hong Kong, and the pink scarves were bought out of stock. Yishu once wrote: "She has a rare charm, unique, no matter how everyone dresses up, they are a bunch of Cute Kids, and her taste is a level other than the fashion trend." "It's not disciplined, it's not affected by anything, it's in a class of its own. When she was at a low point in her life, Ms. Zhang could support her family with her extraordinary aesthetics and taste, and when she returned to the public eye after many years, she could still win a place for herself with her unconventional vision, knowledge and experience.
"I have my own system that has worked well for many years and has never changed. "What does the thirty-year-old Zhang Xiaohui look like, the younger generation of women can't turn the clock to snoop. Sixty-year-old Zhang Xiaohui may be able to help us push back a lot, it must be a rose that runs in the traffic without losing the slightest dignity, and the outstanding and heroic posture should be almost the same as now. What has time left on her? probably the delicate lines on the petals, and the faintly more fragrant fragrance.
Ms. Zhang's brand, "Roses are Roses," is inspired by the words "Rose is a rose, is a rose, is a rose, is a rose." She affectionately said to readers in "To You Who Are 30+": "A girl's life also has three roses. The first rose is to know yourself, the second rose is to know yourself, and the third rose is to become yourself. When you get to the third flower, that's when you really find yourself and bloom. "This is the reference answer I found from Miss Zhang, about the age of thirty.
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Thirty years old is a completely different concept from twenty years old.
Twenty years old, like an adolescent girl, in the early summer in groups of three or five bicycles to play, suddenly into a lively and dreamy forest, along the way to look left and right, walking through the twenty years of flowers, before smacking the taste has come to the door of the thirty-year-old.
The companion is nowhere to be found, only you stand there alone, the excitement and fantasy behind you have been razed to the ground, in front of you stands a decent house, you hear the melodious music and laughter in the house and give birth to infinite longing, but the closed door in front of you with solemn silence and solemnity, you are in front of the door, simply do not know how to be good.
Know yourself, know yourself, be yourself. In the past few years at the end of Double 10, I have always been prone to anxiety, feeling that I am empty and have failed to live up to the years that should have bloomed. But in fact, from cardamom youth to thirty, this is originally a process of knowing oneself and understanding oneself.
Haruki Murakami once said, "It is not the end that makes the process meaningful, but the purpose of highlighting the meaning of the process cheaply, or comparing its limitations in a roundabout way, to set an end in a certain place." "Thirty is just a node in life, not the end, you don't have to be so nervous about making a conclusion about life. From another perspective, you can also take it as a new starting point in life, a starting point for "becoming yourself".
Spring returns to the earth, and it is a good time to go.