There are 4 stages of junior high school that are the period of decline in children's grades, and most children cannot escape if parents do not pay attention to them
Some parents, based on the advice of friends around them, suggest that when their children enter junior high school, they can be free to let their children go, and parents are equivalent to unloading the burden of education. But please don't forget that when children go to junior high school, they will face a big conflict, youth restlessness and high-intensity learning pressure, just like a lush tree under a storm, if parents leave it alone at this time, then they will be blown down by the storm and affect the fate of their lives.
Generally, after entering junior high school, there are three types of children whose grades will decline, and parents should provide targeted assistance:
The first category is for those children who are physically weak.
Generally speaking, before and after the final exam in the first semester of junior high school, the scores and rankings of such children began to fall inexplicably, what is the reason?
In primary school, the pressure of children's exams is relatively small, and then parents take care of their children's physical and academic care more, so this kind of child is generally ranked in the upper middle position in primary school.
But after the junior high school stage, the pace of exam-oriented education is relatively fast, and the most direct feeling is that the amount of homework is several times that of primary school, and the homework cannot be completed every night, and some students even write until the early hours of the morning, which is very tired.
By the time the next day of class, students began to feel sleepy, and the efficiency of absorbing knowledge points was particularly low. And then this kind of thing goes through three or four months, and the student is almost consumed.
Therefore, students at this time, before and after the final exam of the first semester of the first year of junior high school, began to slowly fall.
The second category is between the second semester of the first year of junior high school and the first semester of the second semester of junior high school. During this time, there will be a large number of students whose grades will be down, what are the characteristics of this?
When he was in elementary school, he was in good health, full of energy, and his head was good, but on one, his parents took care of the child's academic performance when he was a child, and he began to wake up after junior high school, and his eyes looked outward, and there were more things besides studying.
Especially in the first half of junior high school, he was given a transition stage, he observed in this transition stage, my parents disciplined me looser than before, because some parents feel that the child is older, should give the child space, should give the child the opportunity to choose freely, parents he held the child's hand and withdrew, because the parents feel that only by withdrawing, the child can have more space, but some parents can not grasp the proportion of this withdrawal, the withdrawal is too strong, resulting in the child from the first semester of junior high school to the first semester of the second semester of the middle school This period of time is absent-minded, and the academic performance has declined greatly。
Therefore, parents can't let go too quickly, but let go little by little, don't go to extremes, and at the same time let go to observe, where the child still needs the parents' attention and care, only in this way can we ensure that the child is overly successful from the second semester of the first semester of junior high school to the first semester of the second semester of junior high school.
The third category is primary school students in the second semester of the second semester of junior high school, when they are in the physiological development period of puberty, which will lead to a variety of inexplicable emotions, thoughts, mentalities, and other aspects of the conflict caused by an inability to control themselves.
When a person reaches this point, he generally can't control himself, so if he is a parent at this time, if he is a little more tolerant of this child, he is tolerant of them at the psychological level.
The overall conditions of students at this stage are still good, but the children who obviously fall down in the second semester of the second semester of junior high school are generally good in all aspects, and the bottom of these students' psychology still has ideas about their future, future, and studies, including which high school they want to be admitted to, but he is uncomfortable because he can't control himself, just like in martial arts novels, the true qi of the person who practices is running around in the body.
Therefore, parents should understand what will happen to their children's growth stage, rather than blindly correcting, blaming, and suppressing, because this stage is a very important stage.
In the fourth category, from November of the first semester of the third year of junior high school to the second semester of the third year of junior high school, there are also a group of children who fall down at this stage.
They have a common characteristic, they are basically in the upper and middle of the student rankings between the border, for example, 50 in a class, 10 students are basically in the 7~10 position.
Because the overall condition of the student is good, but to the third year of November or so, this stage of the student will fall into the middle, for example, a class of 50 students, will fall to about 20, the reason is that this kind of student in the first or second year of junior high school, the parents of this kind of student management is very humanistic, is very respectful, that is to say, he has never had that feeling of depression, there is no second type of feeling, there is no sense of being controlled by the dead, his overall feeling is that my study today is just a way of life, the mentality seems to be relatively calm, and all aspects of the conditions of this kind of student, including qualifications, are quite good。
Therefore, his overall learning before the third year of junior high school was relatively smooth, and his parents also thought that my child was very good, and there was no need to put so much pressure on my child, and then felt that my child could be admitted to a good high school, which should be no problem.
However, this kind of student reached the third year of junior high school, he inexplicably began to put pressure on himself, although this kind of student said that it didn't matter, but deep down he was actually very so-called, he wanted to achieve the goal, and their parents, not as calm as they themselves showed, in fact, there is still a so-called in their hearts, although parents feel that learning is just a way of life, but high school still has to be examined, and must be admitted to a good high school.
In addition, the school teachers also have requirements for them, in general, they have requirements for themselves, parents do not say that they also have ideas in their hearts, and teachers are even more demanding, so when preparing for the exam, his head is easy to be tight, his thinking is nervous, his thinking is nervous, and then his emotions are nervous, a series of tensions, and then leads to the child to face specific problems when solving, his learning efficiency is relatively reduced.
That is to say, in the third year of junior high school, you will find that this type of child is more diligent, harder, and more motivated than in the second year of junior high school.
But the more positive he is, the faster his grades fall, because of this kind of motivation and positivity, which leads to this tension in thinking.
Otherwise, those who have nothing are fearless, and those who have everything suffer from gains and losses. He felt that he had a good result and that he couldn't relax in the final stages.
In fact, when this kind of student is faced with this kind of decline, he only needs to maintain the original stable mentality, do not doubt today's efforts, in this process, do not work too hard, let the spirit relax, slow and steady can easily achieve the ideal goal.
At the stage when children are in junior high school, parents not only can't ignore them, but also have a way to manage them, understand and accompany them more, and children will understand the difficulties of their parents when they become adults.
(The picture comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete)