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How do you feel when you stumble across someone posting a complaint about your mom and complaining that she "never worked a day"?
You may be surprised, or you may be curious and want to click inside to see what's going on. Recently, there is such a post that has attracted a lot of attention and discussion online.
This post was shared by a female college student, who told about her mother's living situation, saying that she seemed to be at home all day with nothing to do, giving people a feeling of "messing around". She believes that her mother did not contribute financially to the family, but instead went into debt because of gambling.
Her family's conditions are not well-off, living in a very old bungalow, and the family's financial burden is almost all on her father alone. Seeing such a situation, she felt very uncomfortable, and felt that the elders and father in the family were very unfortunate, because they had to endure such an inactive family member.
What made her even more unbearable was that her mother often made requests to her, such as hoping that she would be able to buy a house for her mother to live in in the future. She felt that this was unreasonable, because in her opinion, parents should think about their children and prepare a house and a car for their children, instead of relying on them the other way around.
She felt that her mother did not contribute much to her upbringing and did not give her much support other than the occasional chores and pick-ups. She hoped that her mother would be able to support herself and find a job, but she didn't know how to pitch the idea to her.
This story sounds really emotional. Each of us has our own family, our own parents. And the role of a stay-at-home mother is essential in many families. But their dedication and contribution are often overlooked. This makes us start to reflect: what is the value of stay-at-home mothers, and are their efforts respected and understood?
Opinions on this issue are really different. Some people feel that although this mother has done something wrong, as a stay-at-home mother, her contribution cannot be measured by money. She may be working silently for the family every day, taking care of the children and doing housework, which are all very hard things. Moreover, she may also have her own difficulties and difficulties, and we should not just look at the surface and jump to conclusions.
Others believe that the mother's behavior is really not a stay-at-home mother. Not only does she not work, but she also gambles, owes debts, and does not have enough respect for her family.
This kind of behavior does put a lot of burden on the family. Therefore, this girl has the right to express her dissatisfaction and hopes that her mother can change.
For that girl, she can try to have a good talk with her mother and tell her how she feels and expects. Maybe mom doesn't know how much trouble her behavior has caused her family. Communication is the key to solving problems, and only through communication can mothers understand their daughter's thoughts and understand their mother's situation.
If the communication is not effective, then she can also choose to keep a certain distance and protect her mood. After all, everyone has their own way of life and values, and we can't force others to live our lives the way we want them to. But in any case, we should respect everyone's choice.
Some netizens said that the original family has a really big impact on a person, how can you not be affected?
Personally, I think that if you want to get rid of the habits and ideas that the family has brought to us since childhood, you must first let go and admit that these are indeed the marks left by the family.
Then try to make new friends and make new connections. These new relationships are like new paints, which can add different colors to our life and help you slowly fade those old family habits.
Finally, don't be too yourself and don't blame your family too much. Everyone has their own unique growth process, and the key is to find a lifestyle that suits you and allows you to live a happier and more fulfilling life. As long as you keep working hard, you can gradually get rid of the shadow of those families, welcome a new self, and live the life you really want.