I don't mind if others think life is meaningless, not for me. Even if I think that a person's life, from young to old, has to experience a thousand tastes, to overcome the ups and downs of the heart, the confusion, the sorrow and the harsh loneliness that arises from time to time...... No matter what, after all the way, I never felt that life was meaningless
—— "Reader" 2024 Issue 6 "Believe in Life"
When we are young, we are full of energy and want to strive for a better and better life.
When I was middle-aged, I suddenly realized that the hustle and bustle, fragrant cars and fine wine were not important.
The pursuit of desire in the camp of Kiki camp will make people tired and exhausted, and miss out on the more precious gifts of life.
In fact, in this life, the most important thing is not in the distance, but in the bits and pieces of life.
What you and I have to do is to find our own "gems" in them and give them a unique annotation.
Source: Visual China
In the "Confused Level", find the target positioning
Many times, people are arrogant, thinking that they are incompetent, have no strengths, and are not interested in what they do.
While being full of ambition, while lying flat and rotten, occasionally the idea of working hard arises, and there is no motivation to execute.
The root cause of people's confusion lies in the lack of a sense of purpose.
The Russian writer Chernyshevsky said: "If there is no goal, where is the momentum?"
When there is no "lighthouse" to guide life, it is destined to go back and forth in the fog.
Blogger @ Andersen has also had a muddy life experience.
When I first entered the society, I was unemployed at home.
Because he couldn't find the direction, he simply put it up, no longer submitted his resume, and slept until noon every day.
When I woke up and had nothing to do, I swiped my phone and watched videos in a daze, and then fell asleep when I was sleepy......
It wasn't until one day that he saw in his circle of friends that the classmates who had been determined to take the postgraduate and public entrance examinations had successfully landed, and he felt remorseful.
complained that he had to get by, and wasted his youth in vain.
Chekhov once said, "It is terrible to be alive without a goal." ”
You must know that the fighting spirit and energy in life never come out of thin air, and you need the blessing of goals and direction navigation to accelerate your life.
In a speech, Dong Yuhui shared his method of finding a sense of purpose.
As soon as he graduated, he received olive branches from both companies.
Both companies have good benefits, but he is hesitant and doesn't know how to choose.
For this reason, he went back to his hometown and asked his father for advice.
The father did not make a decision for him, but pondered for a moment and told him:
"Real work should be able to help you create value. ”
Dong Yuhui pondered for a long time, and finally realized that the most valuable thing for him is to influence more people.
He decisively rejected these two large companies and turned to join New Oriental and became a teacher who teaches and educates.
In the long road of life, we often fall into the fog of life.
The more you are at this time, the more you must stabilize your mind and look inward to find your heart's desire.
When we dig deep into our hearts and know what we really want, we can have a clear purpose and turn anxiety into action.
Admittedly, inward search is a gradual process, and not everyone can find their purpose in this life at one time, but we can at least start with the subtleties.
Don't pursue everything, focus on the most important things at the moment, do one well and then start the next.
Don't imagine "fake big empty", start with a small goal, and then act for it without interruption.
You must know that really smart people, even if they are at a low point, will strive to find a sense of direction in life in a difficult life.
Source: Visual China
In the "difficult level", find the blessing of courage
In the world, bumps are always inevitable, and everyone has a moment when they encounter difficulties and fall to the ground.
But what we are most afraid of is that we will be degraded, lose the courage to stand up, and trap ourselves in the illusion of fear.
Mr. Jiang Xun once said a sentence that he agreed with very much.
"The most painful thing in life is not the pain itself, but the fear of pain. ”
In the face of potholes and troughs on the road of life, if you blindly curl up and retreat, sooner or later you will be swallowed up by bad luck.
In the novel "The Reader", Hannah is a person who is accustomed to escaping and withdrawing.
She has a good job ability, and her only disadvantage is that she can't read, which makes her feel inferior.
However, she didn't think about taking the initiative to learn, but stayed away and avoided as much as possible, thinking that as long as she stayed away from words, she would not be afraid.
The leader thinks she is doing well and wants her to work in the office.
But fearing that her illiterate affairs would be discovered, she gave up her job and left without saying goodbye, and finally ended up in a Nazi concentration camp and started her miserable life.
Fate often presents all kinds of problems, but it also gives us the opportunity to face them bravely.
Escaping will not change the status quo, but will also make the problem more complicated, and eventually chaotic for a lifetime.
Only by facing fear directly and being full of courage is the only way for us to walk in the world and resist the wind and rain.
Niu Yu, a girl who survived the Wenchuan earthquake, was rescued from the rubble, but lost her right leg forever.
But she didn't give up working hard, still wearing beautiful clothes, wearing beautiful makeup, and even participating in a marathon.
When she encounters the curious eyes of passers-by, she will laugh and show off her prosthetic leg to the other party: "My right leg can shine!"
Suffering is not worth singing about, but she is really beautiful in the face of fate bravely.
Most people's lives, although they do not suffer extremely, are inevitably bruised.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and being timid, it is better to change your thinking and pick up the "courage gem" at your feet.
After being missed by a lover, I still believe in friendship and do not lose the confidence of brave love.
Even if people reach middle age, they dare to step out of their comfort zone and pursue their dreams.
Even if you do the wrong thing and go the wrong way, you still have the courage to take the initiative to bear the mistake and face the frustration.
Teacher Luo Xiang said:
"Courage is a superlative word. Of all the human virtues, bravery is the most scarce. ”
Courage is really hard and requires daily practice and perseverance.
But it doesn't matter, we can grow slowly with it.
Source: Visual China
In the "involution level", find your own core
I have to admit that there is such a trend now -
There is an abundance of information, but few people seek to verify the authenticity;
Anxiety is rampant, hoarding money, hoarding things, hoarding desires, and no one cares whether it is really necessary;
It's more flooded, and you're busy chasing me, and you've long forgotten that there's more than one criterion for success.
And the reason why we live so screwed and hard is just because we are evaluated by others, confused, and lose ourselves.
As Adler put it, "The quest for recognition kills freedom." ”
Ah, a psychologist, has done a "line segment experiment".
Of the six participants, five colluded in advance and one was a true tester.
Ashi asks the question, and the test taker quickly gives the correct answer.
The five fakers retorted in unison.
As a result, the true tester was confused and began to suspect that he was wrong.
When Assi asked him to confirm the answer again, the test taker struggled for a long time and finally chose to agree with the others.
This is known as the "herd mentality", which is to be willing to go against one's will and to be consistent with others.
In life, we often fall into the trap of conformity.
Seeing others start a business, without analyzing their own situation, they are eager to try and want to show their strength.
In order to have a good relationship, topics that you don't like, hard chats, opinions that you don't agree with, hard praise.
As everyone knows, forcibly finding existence in other people's worlds will only make us unable to see ourselves clearly.
Only by finding the core of oneself and clarifying what one's heart desires can we obtain the rhythm of life.
Only by turning off your ears and closing your eyes at the right time, and constantly exploring and correcting yourself, can you not be assimilated by the world and coerced by "standards".
After all, there are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand people.
Stop chasing others and find your own core in order to achieve stability.
"I don't mind people thinking life is meaningless, not for me.
"Even though I think that a person's life, from young to old, has to experience a thousand kinds of tastes, to overcome the ups and downs of the heart, the confusion, the sorrow and the harsh loneliness that arises from time to time......
No matter what, after all the journey, I never felt that life was meaningless. ”
This passage on "The Reader" is reassuring after reading.
Photo: dilute sulfuric acid
Yes, the topic of meaning in life is too big, but because of this, we can comment on it and give meaning to it as we move forward.
When you are hesitating, you can have a clear goal, when you are suffering, you can sharpen your courage, and when you are noisy, you can awaken your heart.
And after that, when you and I look back on the past, we will also find meaning.
May in the next journey of life, we can control our own rhythm and route, and find our own treasure of life.
Author: Man Ci, a traveler who wants to write his life in words.