Young people who can succeed have poor family conditions and have to work their own.
But they all have one thing in common, that is, their parents are very sound and loving.
Parents know how to affirm and recognize their children, who cannot meet their children's needs materially, but can nourish them spiritually.
Just like Dong Yuhui's parents, after he became famous, he often said that his father had a great influence on him.
His father liked to read very much, and when Dong Yuhui didn't know how to choose, his father gave him the best advice.
The reason why Dong Yuhui can be liked by everyone is not only because of his talent and ability, but also because of his good qualities.
He knows how to be grateful, and Dong Yuhui always remembers how much his sister has paid to him.
Parents who are full of love and tenderness in their hearts are likely to have successful children.
On the contrary, if a family has such parents, it is not only impossible for the children to achieve success, but it is even difficult to maintain a long and happy marriage.
01: A strong and domineering father
Zhu Jincao's father, Zhu Dali, in the TV series "Little Day", has most of his personality problems, and his heart is dark and conceited.
In his eyes, his wife and son are his own appendages, and if they do not respect their emotional needs, they can be treated as they please.
The presence of a strong and domineering father in a family can lead to disaster.
If Zhu Jincao is not handsome and her temper is not good enough, then Gu Jasmine will not marry him.
After getting married, not only Zhu Jingcao had to continue to be suppressed by her father, but even her daughter-in-law had to endure his bullying and control.
Zhu Jincao faced his strong and selfish father, he couldn't escape, he could only endure. However, Gu Jasmine is not obliged to always be tolerant and compromising.
She rebelled against her father-in-law many times, and as a result, the other party's mood became more irritable. Zhu Dali's attitude towards his wife has never been gentle and respectful, and there are violent tendencies.
Zhu Dali's domineering has already brought a feeling of suffocation. Gu Jasmine loves her husband very much in her heart, but if it continues, getting along with each other must be painful.
So I can only pretend to end the marriage, but without the marriage certificate, the sense of trust and responsibility of the husband and wife has changed.
Zhu Jincao reached middle age, his career also suffered changes, and when he was most helpless, his father never gave understanding and support.
Having a strong and domineering father in the family is the beginning of disaster.
Not only are children unable to succeed, but it is also difficult to maintain a happy marriage, and there is little hope in life.
Zhu Dali in the TV series soon fell ill and passed away directly, which is already very lucky.
But in reality, there are too many fathers with dark hearts who have lived for a long, long time, so that the whole family cannot live in peace.
02: Over-indulgent partner's mother
Women in the 60s were extremely lacking in spirit and could only rely on men for life and happiness.
Although the partner they chose had a very poor character and even betrayed their marriage many times, they still treated each other as treasures and always obeyed men unconditionally.
Over-indulgent of her partner's mother, she tends to play the victim.
When I can't get the respect and love of my husband, I will feel dissatisfied in my heart, but I don't dare to fight for my rights and interests, so I can only complain to my children.
Because children love their mothers and feel sorry for their mothers, they will stand up for her. However, when you confront your father, your mother immediately stands on your father's side, and will accuse you of being ignorant, no big or small.
For such a mother, the inner energy must be weak, and the negative emotions are very serious.
She will continue to consume the happiness of her children, especially for her daughter, when she feels happy, she will have a strong sense of guilt.
I feel that my mother is still suffering from the pain of marriage, and what qualifications do I have to enjoy life?
In the relationship, girls will also become very humble, unconsciously please, and with a better man, they dare not keep the bottom line, and they are reluctant to leave if they are hurt.
It is difficult for a mother to be woken up if she overindulges her partner.
Although she will complain and speak ill of her other half in front of her children, in their hearts, her husband is still unique and worthy of worship.
Such mothers have been domesticated to be docile and loyal, but whenever someone advises them to divorce, to rebel, etc., their attitude will start to attack you.
When a family has such a mother, the most painful thing is the children.
You have to accumulate energy, fight against the complex human heart and society, and when you return home, you have to face a mother who is full of negativity and a father who has no bottom line.
No matter how hard you work, how diligent, and how kind you are, you will not be productive in this life, and you will not even be able to maintain a good marriage.
It's not your fault, it's not that you're not good enough, not good enough. It's the circumstances of your birth that prevent you from spreading your wings.