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My name is Zhang Shufen and I am 55 years old. Once upon a time, I was a beautiful and elegant housewife. My husband, Wang Wei, is three years older than me, the general manager of a well-known company, and has a successful career, which can be described as a veritable self-made man. Our only daughter, Wang Xiaoli, 28 years old, is an independent and self-reliant professional woman who has a somewhat distant relationship with us.
"Honey, are you working overtime again tonight?" I asked helplessly, watching Wang Wei hurriedly put on his coat, "We haven't gotten along well for a long time." "
He didn't look back and said, "Sorry dear, the company has a big project recently, and I have to work overtime." After saying that, he left in a hurry.
I stood alone, looking out the window at the night, feeling extremely lonely and neglected. Is our married life coming to an end? Am I just a dispensable supporting role in his life? A kind of disappointment in married life arises spontaneously. I sighed and sat alone at the table, looking at the cold meal, tears streaming down my face.
"Honey, I'll go out for a while and I'll be back shortly. Wang Wei said to me, hurriedly put on his coat, and left the house without looking back.
Tears welled up in his eyes unheededly. I tried my best to pull myself together, but I couldn't contain the pain in my heart. I desperately told myself that maybe this was only temporary, and Wang Wei was just too focused on his work. However, the reality was right in front of me, and I did feel the taste of being neglected.
Is there anything else to look forward to in my life? Should my life be spent in such a boring and boring way? An inexplicable sense of anxiety arose, and I began to doubt my way of life and had the idea of changing.
I try to think back to my old self, the energetic self who pursued my dreams. However, at some point, I seem to have completely buried myself in my family life. I began to reflect on my life and question whether I had made the right choice.
"Mom, you seem to have changed a lot lately?" Daughter Wang Xiaoli called, with a hint of surprise in her tone.
I was silent for a moment and said, "yes, I feel like I've changed a lot, too." "I'm tired of living like I used to, I need to change, I need to find myself again.
From that day on, I started trying new things and rediscovering my hobby. I signed up for a yoga class and started learning to illustrate and draw. Gradually, I found that I had found a new joy in life and began to regain my self-confidence.
One day, I put on a stylish dress and took care of my makeup. As I walked out of the room, Wang Wei was clearly stunned by my change.
"Honey, you're so beautiful today. He exclaimed, his tone full of surprise.
I smiled and said, "yes, I've decided to live a new life." "
Wang Wei doesn't seem to fully understand what I mean, but I know that this is just the beginning. I have made up my mind to find a new way of life for myself and not to live a passive, self-losing life.
Just as I was gradually finding the joy of life, Wang Wei began to express dissatisfaction with my change. One night, he suddenly got angry at me.
"What the hell has happened to you? I don't recognize you at all!" He said angrily, "Are you out there any man?"
"How can you say that about me? I just don't want to live that passive, selfless life anymore!" I retorted loudly, tears streaming down my face.
The two of us had a big fight, and finally I slammed the door and left the suffocating home. I made up my mind to start living an independent life and not going back no matter what!
After leaving home, I rented a small apartment and started living alone. Although I was a little uncomfortable at first, I gradually realized that living independently gave me more freedom than I had ever been. I can live at my own pace and no longer be tied down by my family.
"I've decided that I want to live my life and won't look back no matter what!" I said to myself, with a lot of determination and courage in my heart.
I began to pursue my hobbies to the fullest and live the life I had longed for. Although I sometimes feel lonely, I know that this is the price that must be paid. I'd rather be alone than go back to my old life of losing myself.
Just after I started living independently, Wang Wei seemed to start reflecting on what he had done. One night, I forgot the keys to my new home and had to go back to my hometown for a night.
When I walked into the living room, I saw Wang Wei sitting alone at the dining table, with a plate of cold food in front of him. His eyes were dull, and his face was full of vicissitudes and exhaustion. I can't help but think of my old self, which seems to be like this.
"Honey, I was wrong, please give me a chance. Wang Wei suddenly spoke, his voice full of remorse and pain, "Am I too focused on my career and neglected you and my family?" I know what I did wrong, but please give me a chance to start over." "
Looking at his painful appearance, I couldn't help but feel a wave in my heart. Scenes from the past began to come back to me, and I began to wonder if I had made the right choice.
From that day on, Wang Wei began to go all out to try to save our marriage. He was no longer as obsessed with work as he used to be, but began to take the initiative to care about family life.
One day, when I returned home from work, I was surprised to find that Wang Wei had been waiting at home for a long time, holding a large bouquet of flowers and a box of heart-shaped chocolates with a sincere smile on his face.
"My dear, I'm so sorry for my previous behavior. I know I was wrong, but I really hope you'll give me a chance to start over. As he spoke, he fell to his knees, humble.
Looking at him like this, I couldn't help but have mixed feelings in my heart. The pain, anger and reluctance of the past began to churn in my heart, but on the other hand, I also felt his sincerity and determination. I began to seriously think about whether I should give him a chance to start over.
After living independently for a while, I began to waver in my decision. On the one hand, I enjoy my independent and free life, but on the other hand, I also start to miss my old family life.
"Mom, have you been bothered lately?" My daughter Wang Xiaoli seemed to see my inner struggle, "If you want, you might as well talk to me." "
I was silent for a moment, and finally spoke: "I don't know if I should forgive your father and start our married life again. On the one hand, I enjoy my current freedom, but on the other hand, I am also starting to miss my old life. "
The daughter listened attentively and did not comment immediately. After a while, she said, "Mom, I think the most important thing is that you have to listen to your inner voice. Whatever decision you make, I will respect and support you. "
After listening to my daughter's words, I seemed to have some awakening in my heart. Yes, I had to listen to my inner voice and make the best choice for myself.
After a long period of deliberation, I finally made up my mind to give Wang Wei a chance to start over. Although the pain of the past is still vivid, I believe that as long as both of us can truly cherish this relationship, we will be able to regain our former happiness.
One day, I took the initiative to find Wang Wei, and as soon as he saw me, his eyes flashed with expectation.
"My dear, I forgive you, but we have to start over. I solemnly said, "We must be considerate of each other, cherish each other, and no longer treat each other as coldly as before." Only then can our marriage be revitalized. "
As I spoke, I hugged Wang Wei tightly, and tears welled up uncontrollably. Wang Wei also burst into tears and nodded vigorously.
From that moment on, I knew we had found each other again and regained our affection. Although the road ahead is still full of thorns, as long as we work together, we will be able to move forward.
After that embrace of determination to start anew, Wang Wei's life and I began to change dramatically. Like young people in love, we start a new life.
We would walk the streets hand in hand and with a light walk, as close as we did when we first fell in love. Wang Wei began to take the initiative to share the housework and help me take care of the family's affairs. Sometimes, he would even surprise me by coming home early from work and cooking a delicious meal for me himself.
"My dear, we have finally found each other again. "Once, I leaned on Wang Wei's arms, and my heart was full of happiness and expectation.
Wang Wei hugged me gently and said, "Yes, we must cherish this hard-won fate." "
We also began to mend our relationship with our daughter Wang Xiaoli. Once, we went on an outing as a family and had a picnic on the grass. Looking at my daughter's sunny smiling face, my heart was extremely gratified. yes, that's what our family should look like.
Gradually, I found myself starting to love life again. Every day I wake up, I look forward to a new day. I am no longer the housewife who is bound by family life, but a woman who is brave enough to pursue herself. At the same time, I also have a loving family and a warm haven.
Looking back on this experience, I am deeply moved. Marriage does need to be given and cherished by both parties, otherwise it will be on the verge of breakdown. If Wang Wei has been immersed in work and neglected family life, our relationship will come to an impasse sooner or later. And I shouldn't passively accept the status quo and give up on myself completely.
Everyone should pursue the realization of self-worth and live the life they yearn for. Only in this way can we not be bound by life and can truly love life. Of course, self-pursuit does not mean abandoning family, but learning to find a balance between work, family, and personal development.
The most important thing is that both parties need mutual understanding and tolerance, whether it is marriage or personal development. Only by understanding each other's needs and truly cherishing this relationship can we maintain a long-lasting relationship and walk through every stage of life hand in hand.
Just like Wang Wei and I, we have experienced the intricacies of separation, integration, and entanglement, and finally chose mutual understanding and tolerance. We rediscovered each other, and we rediscovered the courage and strength to love life.
This may be the true meaning of life, not smooth sailing, but in the alternation of sunshine and rain and dew, to cherish the people in front of you. As long as we firmly believe in this, we will be able to go through every detour in life and finally reach the other side of the ideal.