Text/Flying Fish
Marriage is a very important thing in life, and a good marriage is based on reciprocity, and it also requires two families to support each other, tolerate each other, and respect each other.
Marriage is a lifelong affair for children, and for parents, it is the beginning of making a family of in-laws, and there is another relative, and the relationship between parents and families actually plays a very important role in the marriage of children.
If both parents don't see the marriage well and don't support it from the beginning, then the children's marriage will also be affected.
As parents, once the children decide to get married, then when the two families come out to meet for the first time, they also need to pay attention to words and deeds, words and deeds reflect the family style of a family, and also reflect a person's quality and conduct, because some careless, ill-intentioned words may have adverse consequences.
When the in-laws meet for the first time, it is best not to say these three sentences, which are very cheap and easy to ruin the happiness of the children.
1. Look down on the other party's family, and don't say anything about the other party's high climbing.
The first time the in-laws came out to meet to discuss the marriage of their children, they began to agree to this family affair from the consciousness, and then they came out to meet and discuss.
But when you sit together to eat and chat, if your family conditions are good and the other party's family conditions are not as good as yours, then you don't show the other party's face, don't say that the other party is climbing their own family, saying that the other party should be grateful, and being able to find your home is burning high incense.
Even if you are very rich, don't look down on your in-laws, marriage is chosen by your children, as long as the happiness of your children is the most important thing, if because the two families sit together and talk about discord, it will only make the atmosphere more embarrassing, and even have a conflict, then this family affair may not be concluded.
Mai Chenghuan and her boyfriend in "The Story of Chenghuan" are about to get married, so the man's family asked Mai Chenghuan's family to come out to meet, the two families met for the first time, the man's family relied on their own money, and deliberately booked a super luxurious place to eat, and then the man's sister began to humiliate Mai Chenghuan as soon as she sat down, looking down on her family, and the man's mother also disagreed in her heart, feeling that Mai Chenghuan's conditions were poor, and they climbed themselves.
Because the man's family spoke too hurtfully, the first meeting made the two families very unhappy, and the marriage was put on hold for the time being, and Mai Chenghuan saw that his family was humiliated because of his marriage, and he blamed himself, so he decided not to get married.
Therefore, when the in-laws meet for the first time, don't say that they look down on people, if you don't agree, there is no need to meet, and if you meet and say that you look down on people, you will have no character.
2. Question the words of the other party's tutor.
When Mai Chenghuan's family and her boyfriend's family met for the first time in "The Story of Cheng Huan", the man's family would only question Mai Chenghuan's tutor, because Mai Chenghuan scolded her boyfriend's sister, and her boyfriend's sister was unforgiving everywhere, saying, "Your child has this kind of tutoring, but you don't have education, okay", "Just like this, is it still worthy of our family?" and so on.
Mai Chenghuan and her boyfriend have been together for three years and decided to get married, and the in-laws only began to meet for the first time, but the atmosphere at the dinner table became very embarrassing after what her boyfriend's sister said, and Mai Chenghuan's parents have always defended their children.
Therefore, when the in-laws meet for the first time, they will only blame each other and question each other's tutors, which is actually very cheap.
3. Regarding the wedding arrangement, don't say that the other party's family is incapable and embarrassed.
In "The Story of Cheng Huan", when Cheng Huan's family and her boyfriend's family sat together to discuss marriage, Cheng Huan's parents thought that they also needed a few tables of people here, because they wanted to invite some relatives and friends.
But my boyfriend's family thinks that their family will embarrass their family, saying that they are all people with heads and faces, and the wedding will be handed over to the hotel, do you have any money?
The man thinks that the woman has no money, so he looks down on the woman, and even denies the idea of the woman's family, saying that they will let them go out to travel and get married, and there is no need to organize the wedding, etc., and he does not respect the woman's family at all.
In fact, between in-laws, relying on their wealth and power, they don't respect each other and start unequal behavior, so it is actually very difficult to get along, even if the child is married, it is difficult for the child to be happy.
Remember, when family members meet, in addition to respect, what is needed is kindness and understanding, and it is necessary to look at each other's differences with an open and accepting mind, so that children can have a happy marriage.
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