"She got the person she loved, and that was happiness, and she was satisfied. ”
In the TV series "Parents Love", the most humble role is Jiang Dehua.
She was forced to accept an arranged marriage, but her husband never came back after the new marriage, and was finally taken into his home by his brother, but he had watched the children for decades.
Later, after waiting and blindly paying, I realized the real marriage, gave birth to a daughter, and had a complete home.
Unexpectedly, in her later years, it was not her only daughter Ding Xiaoyan who supported her.
Is Daohua's life destined to be miserable? Why don't even his own daughters care about her?
A "miserable" old age?
A large part of the reason why Dehua and Lao Ding were able to come together was because of Dehua's dedication.
Dehua's kindness to Lao Ding can be said to be unreciprocated, even if Lao Ding refuses, she just feels uncomfortable for a while, and then continues to run to their house the next day.
Since Lao Ding went to the island, the Jiang family has often lacked the figure of Dehua, and when he asks, he will go to Lao Ding's house.
For Dehua's behavior, anyone can see that she is interested in Lao Ding, and in the face of Jiang Defu's reproach, she also said that it was for Xiu'e's sister-in-law and children.
When he was still living in the dormitory of the artillery school, Dehua started the task of watching the children at Jiang Defu's house, and it was here that he met Lao Ding's rural wife Wang Xiu'e.
Because the two of them are from the countryside and have a lot of common topics, they often get together, and Dehua even runs to Lao Ding's house twice in three days.
When Lao Ding went to the island, Dehua didn't see Xiu'e's sister-in-law, and after learning from Lao Ding's mouth that Wang Xiu'e didn't survive the dystocia when she gave birth, she was distressed and regretful.
Maybe at this time, Dehua was indeed taking care of Lao Ding and the children for Wang Xiu'e, but as he got along day after day and year after year, Dehua had already changed his mind.
She has been giving and sending good things to Lao Ding's house, but she can't move the other party, only herself.
After experiencing two failed relationships, Lao Ding finally set his sights on Dehua and proposed to make do with him.
This moment is how long Dehua has been waiting for him, and all his efforts have not been in vain.
But Lao Ding's words seem to be a compromise, as if she didn't love Dehua, just because those two failed relationships made him give up to continue to pursue the so-called "happiness".
You must know that what Lao Ding likes is like An Jie, after Jiang Defu got married, Lao Ding was envious from the bottom of his heart, such a beautiful wife, with culture and connotation, who couldn't be impressed.
But in the end, Lao Ding still married a rural woman like Wang Xiu'e, which seemed to be really his helplessness and compromise.
But fortunately, she gave birth to a daughter after marriage, and this life can be said to be complete.
What makes everyone unable to understand is why after Lao Ding left, during Dehua's old age, it was not his only daughter Ding Xiaoxiang who supported her?
Even she was almost abandoned by Lao Ding's family, and she didn't get the opportunity to be buried with Lao Ding, and in the end, it was her niece Yafei who came forward to say something for her.
Who doesn't say a word about this: Dehua's life is really miserable, she is always giving, and she has not enjoyed any blessings in her life.
Dehua is happy
It seems that Dehua's blind dedication has not been rewarded accordingly, but in fact, she is happy.
When she was bullied by her rural in-laws, it was her brother Jiang Defu who took her to his house and let her live in his own house under the pretext of watching the children.
Although she and her sister-in-law An Jie didn't deal with each other at first, Xiu'e's sister-in-law on the other side of the door had a good relationship with her, and the two always laughed together to relieve boredom.
After blindly paying for Lao Ding, he also gained love in the end, married the person he liked, and had his own daughter.
In her later years, although she almost failed to be buried with her lover who had lived for decades, it was Yafei who stood up for her grievances and finally got a satisfactory solution.
In the end, although Dehua is hard, she is also happy.
After Ding Xiaoyan was born, everyone gave almost all their love to her, as if all of Dehua's efforts were turned into love for her child.
The children of the Jiang family also know how good their aunt is to them, and they were raised by their aunt single-handedly, so they treat Xiaoxiang as if they were their own sisters.
Including An Jie and Jiang Defu, they have always been very grateful for Dehua's dedication to their family.
It can be said that Ding Xiaoyan has gathered love from all people, and he is a pearl held on the tip of his heart.
And it is this kind of pampering that makes Ding Xiaoyan form a pampered character, so it is difficult to have a sense of responsibility, because she thinks that she is the one who is pampered, and she is also used to this kind of life.
That's why, after Dehua got old, Ding Xiaoyan was not by her side to take care of her.
But Dehua didn't blame her daughter, because she thought she was happy, at least she didn't regret living her life.
She has the protection of her brother who is a commander, her sister-in-law, who is smart and educated, and of course, the company and care of a group of nephews and nieces who are sensible and love her.
Dehua was indeed humble at the beginning, and in the face of Lao Ding's ruthless rejection, she would still give Lao Ding the best.
It was because Lao Ding had arthritis that she went to An Jie at night to ask for the bullshit mattress, and she had to send it over overnight, just to see Lao Ding again.
Even if Lao Ding made her angry, no matter how much angry and big words she said behind her back, she was still intimidated when she saw Lao Ding, and blamed Jiang Defu for not drinking expensive wine when he entertained Lao Ding, and forced An Jie to take out Moutai for Lao Ding to drink.
For Lao Ding, she even talked back to her brother and sister-in-law, and the whole person was biased towards Lao Ding.
Everyone persuaded Dehua to give up and asked her not to go to Lao Ding's house to ask for hardships, but she just didn't give up, because she didn't ask for anything in return, she just wanted to be good to the person she liked.
Dehua is a good person, she gives the best to the people around her, and ignores herself.
An Jie and Jiang Defu's children were all raised by Dehua alone, in addition to taking care of the children, she also took care of all the chores of her brother's family.
She cooked for Jiang Defu's family for most of her life, so that their family could live a stable life.
After Dehua married Lao Ding, Jiang Defu's family was visibly unhappy, eating every day was a problem, and without Dehua cooking, they were really not used to it.
Since then, their family has always gone to Lao Ding's house to eat, and Lao Ding said that his family is going to be poor by them.
Dehua's efforts over the years have also been rewarded accordingly, she used to take care of her brother and sister-in-law's family, and when she got old, her brother and sister-in-law became her backer.
So, Dehua is happy!