I saw such an incident: a mother said that I just heard her daughter-in-law make a loud noise, and my heart ached, I was in my own house, and they were in the living room.
My son didn't know what he had done wrong, and his daughter-in-law was making a loud noise, and my heart was about to jump out of my heart, which was originally calm, let her make such a noise, and her heart hurt, and I was scared when I heard her quarrel for some reason.
It's okay not to quarrel, how to live if you want to quarrel, I want to go back to my hometown immediately, I was angry and cried, I didn't quarrel with him, my son didn't quarrel with her, and no one spoke.
There are times when the thoughts of husband and wife are not unified, but there are really few times, and the form of quarrel is not uniform in speech, and when they tell each other about their views, they are no longer hypocritical.
There are two reasons, (1) because the average life expectancy of men is shorter, in order to let my husband accompany me for a few more years, (2) most of the men let women eat and wear, as long as men do not gamble and prostitute, they are all good men!
Now these women who can blame their mother-in-law for anything and blame their mother-in-law, do they have a premonition that they will die young and will not live to the day when they become their mother-in-law? Do you know what the present world newspaper is? How do you treat your mother-in-law now, and what your daughter-in-law will do to you in the future?
Just like when I went to the supermarket yesterday, I heard two people saying that today's young people in the 90s and 00s don't talk about any affection, they are justified by themselves, and all of them are based on their own needs. But they don't want to think about whether their needs are not to be met by others, and why should others satisfy them.
If the son is at fault, the mother-in-law can't protect the shortcomings, you should let the son realize the mistake in time, and let him apologize to the daughter-in-law, if the son is right, your daughter-in-law is messing around, don't hide.
Hiding is habitual, you have to say it, if she is unreasonable, you don't have to be afraid of her, let your son look like a man, don't be scolded by unreasonable women, no manliness is the most annoying.
If you don't see yourself as a human being, your daughter-in-law will not take care of your feelings, otherwise you won't make a big noise in front of you, you do things fairly and justly, don't be partial to your shortcomings, and the younger generations should be tolerant if they are wrong, but they must speak out if they are wrong, and the family lives a life and understands each other.
If the son is at fault, the mother-in-law cannot protect the calf, criticize the son and ask the son to apologize to the daughter-in-law. If the daughter-in-law is the kind of vexatious type, then the mother-in-law can't hide, hiding is habitual, and she still has to say it.
When you encounter an unreasonable person, you have to solve it, hiding is not a way, whether it is an in-law or a daughter-in-law, it is the same, people who are not used to three views are not right, and Hu Jue's troublesome troubles all day long are the most annoying.
Some people think that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also have a headache if they don't handle it well, and sometimes they think about it, why can't they treat their daughter-in-law as a daughter? If you treat her well, she will naturally know how to be grateful.
Some women nowadays are very selfish and have no self-awareness, my neighbor told me: good enough for my daughter-in-law, but she does not approve and rejects it from the heart. I only cook, laundry detergent, mop the floor, buy groceries, and take the child to kindergarten, she always feels that she has not done anything well, and she is not qualified.
In the morning, I have to take my child to send her to the place where I picked up the car, and at night I have to take my child to the station to wait for her to pick her up, sometimes at 7:30 in the evening, sometimes 8 or 9 o'clock before getting off work.
What do children eat every morning, what do they eat at noon, what snacks do they eat for waist meals, what do they eat for afternoon tea, how much they eat, etc., even is asked whether it is hard or Xi, and every day WeChat is like writing a work report, but it is still not done.
It's not that I don't do it, I do what they ask, and I know that their children are important and demanding, but I'm just here to help, I'm not a live-in, I'm not a nutritionist, and I don't have a kindergarten teacher certificate, so I can't do such a professional thing, and I'm tired.
There is a friend who also feels the same way, he is afraid that the little couple will get angry and fight, he and his son and daughter-in-law live up and down the stairs, as long as they fight in the past few years, my friend is scared in the heart, and he does not dare to mix, for the sake of his grandson endure it, no matter how good the grandparents are, they can't replace the love of their parents.
After all the hardships, the delicate little princess seems to have adapted to the simple and unmeticulous life of her in-laws, and the two have not fought for several years, and she is not bad to her in-laws.
Now that the grandsons are eleven years old, they have finally survived all the hardships, it seems that silence is golden, and the two of them are fighting, and they don't persuade themselves. Let it be!
There are too many such daughters-in-law now, when the mother-in-law ignores it, the daughter-in-law will think that you are facing the son, if you talk, you will be nosy, the grandson is a little ignorant and you still manage the child, if the child is older, when he hears the adults quarreling, he immediately puts on his shoes and goes out, 36 counts to go up.
The daughter-in-law can still be saved, there are only two reasons, her own family of origin is loveless, insecure, and very sensitive.
Your son didn't take into account his feelings in time, and your daughter-in-law needs to provide emotional value, and your son can't cultivate at the moment. The second is that your son has some problems, and the daughter-in-law has not been able to accept it. So the outbreak.
Of course, your child is very well educated, and has always spoiled your daughter-in-law so that she has nothing to fear. Children are growing up and need time, but mother-in-law should usually care more about her daughter-in-law.
It is not right for the mother-in-law to uphold justice from a position of impartiality and hide and ignore it. The daughter-in-law is so angry, and her health is not good when she is angry, she should care about her, and if she gets the care of her mother-in-law, her anger will subside.
Family and everything is prosperous, chickens and dogs are jumping all day long, which makes people's hearts unbearable, and it is really difficult for every family to have a difficult life to remember! No wonder young people are unwilling to get married, they are really afraid.
You should ask what the situation is, and if you are at fault, you have to say it, or you can say it together, and you have to have a position, so why bother.
As a mother-in-law, you must stand up and ask the reason, if it is a small matter, make a joke and mediate, if it is a big matter, you must find the cause, whose fault is corrected, and never make peace with Xi Ni, otherwise the contradiction will become more and more serious in the future!