I'm 64 years old, and when I look back, I can't help but have mixed emotions in my heart. Since I decided to provide for my son's Ph.D. and took on a huge debt of 300,000 yuan, life has been like a long battle, sometimes magnificent, sometimes dangerous. Now, when my son mentions his desire to buy a house again, I wonder if I have made a mistake, should I be burdened with a heavy burden for him again? This is a difficult decision, and I need to look at my choice and explore many aspects of this issue.
It was a decision of mine to send my son to a Ph.D. degree. At that time, I looked at the desire and expectation in my son's eyes, and felt a deep sense of responsibility and mission in my heart. He is the hope of our family, and his ideals may change the fate of our entire family in the future. So, even though our family was not wealthy, I still had no hesitation in raising tuition fees for him, and I was saddled with a huge debt. This is out of love for our son and hope for the future, but it is also based on a gambling mentality – the stakes are the future of our family.
However, it turns out that gambling doesn't always win the day. After my son graduated, his development did not go as smoothly as we expected, and he did not make enough money as quickly as we would have liked to have been able to pay off his debts. So, when he offered to buy a house again, I started to think: should we pay for him again, should we take on more debt for his future again?
This is not a simple question, and it involves many considerations. First of all, we have to consider the financial situation of the family. We are already saddled with a debt of 300,000 yuan, and refinancing to buy a house will undoubtedly add to our burden. As parents, of course, we are willing to provide the best conditions for our sons, but we also have to take into account our own affordability. We've already done a lot for him, is it worth it to take on more debt? Is it practical?
Secondly, we also have to take into account the independence and sense of responsibility of our son. As an adult, he should be aware of his responsibilities and should learn to support himself. He cannot rely on his parents' funding forever, but should be responsible for his own future. If we buy him a house again, will it make him more dependent on us, will it make him lose the ability to think and act independently?
Finally, we also have to take into account the stability and harmony of the family. Financial problems are often the trigger for family conflicts, and if we buy a house for our son again, will it lead to tension and discord in the family relationship?
Faced with these questions, I was extremely confused. I don't know what I should do to be right, and I don't know how to weigh the pros and cons. But I know that whatever decision I make, it must be based on deep thinking and rational analysis of my family and my future. I can't be swayed by my feelings, and I can't let myself be caught up in blind decision-making.
Perhaps, the ultimate answer is not whether to buy a house for our son, but whether we can understand and support him. Perhaps, we should communicate openly with him and discuss our future plans and plans. Perhaps, we should make him aware of his responsibilities and let him learn to support himself. Only in this way can we truly get out of the predicament and achieve harmony and stability in the family.
I don't regret my decision to let my son do a Ph.D., because it was based on love for him and hopes for the future. But I also don't want to take on more debt for him again, because that would be irresponsible to the family. I hope that he will understand my struggles, share the responsibilities of the family with me, and be able to face the challenges of life with me in the days to come.
I don't know if I'm doing it right, but I believe that as long as we can unite and face life's difficulties together, we will be able to get out of it and meet the challenges ahead. This is perhaps my final view on this issue, and my truest hope for the future.
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