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Preface
Where are you going to go during the May Day holiday?
Although it is only mid-April now, friends who want to travel on May Day can already start to prepare, because most tourist attractions and cultural venues have implemented an online reservation system.
And you don't have to guess to know that this year's May Day holiday will be very popular, and there are a lot of people who go out to travel.
And friends who plan to travel on May Day, it is best not to travel with their good friends, only in this way, may have the best holiday experience.
There are three main reasons why you should never travel with your best friends.
There will be disagreements in any case
It is said that when traveling with friends, you must find someone who matches the three views, but the fact is that no matter how the two have similar interests and the three views are the same, it is still easy to have contradictions and differences.
Because traveling together, the test is the tacit understanding and endurance of two people, whether it is consumption, or itinerary formulation, all aspects must be considerate of each other, if you do not do this well, it is easy to cause friction.
Take my personal experience as an example, when I was in school, I had a very good friend, and I usually went out to play together many times, and there was no conflict, and then when I graduated, I thought about picking a far place and traveling together, which can be regarded as a souvenir.
But it's this time of travel, there was a contradiction, anyway, it's quite regretful, when I first started, it was quite pleasant, everyone has three views in line with each other, and the concept of consumption is basically the same, basically AA system, sometimes she pays, I will also ask the other party to be a similar, no one takes advantage of whom, no one makes anyone suffer.
Because the two of us are still students, this time when we go far away, my parents will inevitably be a little worried, so my parents booked me a relatively expensive hotel, which costs hundreds of yuan a night.
All of a sudden, the contradiction came out, my friend felt that the price was too expensive, and it was not cost-effective to stay only one night, if she was AA with me, she would be a little distressed, but if she lived in vain, she felt uncomfortable.
I also know that her family background is not very good, usually I will deliberately take care of her, choose some places with low consumption, but this time it is really an accident, I have booked it, and it is troublesome to change it, plus I have been out for a day, and my legs and feet are tired, so I thought about being generous and invited the other party to live directly, anyway, they are all friends, and it is nothing to suffer a small loss once in a while.
However, what I never expected was that just such an incident began to make our trip unpleasant, and the itinerary that had been booked was suddenly changed by her, and she didn't plan to go to the place where she had discussed before.
When I asked her why, she said that I had changed my mind temporarily, and she didn't live in a cheap hotel, and now she changed these itineraries, just because she was afraid that I would suddenly change my mind and cause some accidents, so that if I was changing my hexagram, according to her travel plan, she could afford to live.
When I looked at her travel plans, they were all the places she wanted to go, and these were put forward when they were discussed before, mainly some places that were not distinctive, mainly cheaper and cost-effective, and we had discussed these places before coming, but they were all eliminated.
After all, it is difficult to go out to play, or want to go to those impressive, more interesting places, even if it costs a little more, it is acceptable, just come this time, you must have a good time.
But I didn't want to, the other party still thought it was better to save some money, and in desperation, I could only follow her plan and accompany her to the place where I wanted to play, after all, I broke my promise first, but in the end, I wanted to go to the place where I wanted to eat, and none of it was completed.
When I went home, I sat in the car and thought about it all the way, no matter how I thought about it, I felt that I had finally gone out of the house, as if I had specially accompanied her to play, and I felt panicked.
This is the first reason why you can't travel with friends, that is, everyone's ideas are different, usually it's okay to say, but when you go out to travel, just a little time and money, each has its own ideas and situations, if you take care of each other, you will not be happy, not satisfied, and finally make a depressed return, it is better to go to yourself more happy.
Taking a picture is also a problem
There is also something that has nothing to do with the character of the three views, that is, the problem of appearance, two people put together, there will always be a difference between beauty and ugliness, and I usually don't feel anything, after all, the other party looks good or not, and it doesn't affect my own eating, and I don't think there's anything wrong.
But when traveling, you will feel that it is not a taste, because travel, it is rare to see the scenery that is rarely seen in ordinary life, and it must be to take a photo and record life.
At this time, whoever is ugly will be embarrassed, after all, the two of them are shooting the same scenery, and the only difference is people, at this time, the comparison came out all of a sudden.
If the difference between the two people's appearance is too big, like the kind of flowers and green leaves, then needless to say, even if the flowers don't care about this, the green leaves will definitely not feel good in their hearts after seeing them, after all, this gap is too big, and there will be some discomfort in my heart when I look at it, and I will feel that they are all people, why are they so much worse than themselves.
There is also an idea that there is no self-knowledge, everyone is a friend, and they are all clear about each other's appearance, and they all know whether the other party looks good or not.
But on the contrary, it is obviously not good-looking, and after taking a photo, there is no self-knowledge, blame this and that, and even blame the other party for not having good photo skills and making himself ugly, which is another contradiction.
In short, when friends travel with each other, unless they don't take pictures of each other, there will be some embarrassing contradictions, and if one is not handled well, it will make a trip extremely disappointing.
But then again, I finally got to a place and saw a beautiful scenery, but as a result, everyone didn't take pictures to record this beautiful moment, which is definitely unrealistic, if you just take pictures of the scenery, you will feel monotonous, and the scenery without people is soulless.
Therefore, when traveling with friends, you must face this problem, which is unavoidable, unless both of them don't care about their appearance, they just want to have fun, but people who don't care about their appearance are still quite rare.
Physical strength does not match
Another point is that people and people's physical strength are not the same, friends go out to travel, go slower or faster, can not come as they want, must take care of each other can not adapt, will not feel tired.
Sometimes I am tired, but the other party still wants to continue shopping, at that time, I can only continue to hold on, and I can continue to rest when the other party is tired of playing, otherwise the other party will not have fun and I will not be able to get over it.
In addition, when friends travel out, generally in order to save money, everyone will choose to live in a room together, at this time, the problem comes, a person, how much still need some private space, if there is no private space, then it will feel very uncomfortable.
For example, if one person is tired and wants to sleep, but another person is out for a day, not sleepy at all, and wants to play, what should I do at this time, and when the time comes, it will be a while of unhappiness.
The benefits of traveling alone
When you go out to travel, you still have to choose to go out alone, or go out with your family, travel, just to relax yourself, purify your soul, go out with friends, or at the social level, the whole person will inevitably have some feelings that you can't let go, more or less, you have to care about each other's feelings.
It's a very simple truth, when you travel, you want to eat what you want, you don't have to think about anything, but when you travel with friends, you have to ask if you want to eat, at this time, if your friends also want to eat, then everyone is happy, everyone sits happily and eats together.
But if a friend doesn't want to eat, wants to eat something else, then it can be depressing, on the one hand, they want to eat, if they miss it, the next time they come again, I don't know when they will be able to eat, and on the other hand, it is a friend who wants to eat, if you don't take care of other people's feelings, your friend is unhappy, then you also feel uncomfortable.
So the best way is to go out to travel by yourself, what do you want to do when the time comes, you won't get along with yourself, a person is relaxed, the inner pressure tends to be no, a trip down, the whole person is in a relaxed state, especially beautiful.
Of course, if you are lonely, it is actually a good choice to travel with your family, after all, family is our haven in this world and our spiritual harbor.
The family has been together for so many years, and the tastes and temperaments between each other have long been run-in, even if they go out to travel, everyone will not have too many contradictions, and they will be very relaxed with each other, and they don't need to worry too much.
conclusion
Finally, with the May Day holiday approaching, where will you choose to go and who will you hang out with? No matter how you choose, you must remember that having fun is the most important thing, after all, this is the true meaning of a journey.
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