Many times, we think that we are the only one for the other person, so we will give recklessly.
The result is often the opposite, and what you get is the disgust and betrayal of the other party.
Relationships are like this, the way two people get along and the state of getting along will determine whether a relationship can go long-term.
In this relationship, the more you love someone, the more likely you are to be hurt by someone.
If you want the other party to be 100% happy for your feelings, you must learn to control your emotions and not hurt the other party at will.
Because once you do these few things wrong, the relationship between you will break down, and you will never go back to the beginning.
- "Don't bother me"
Some men, when they are in love, can't wait to stick to you every day, and they can't wait to know what you're doing all the time. As long as I have free time, I will want to talk to you.
Therefore, in their opinion, lovers should always keep in touch with each other.
As soon as you don't reach out to him, he'll be upset.
Therefore, he always likes to say the word "don't bother me" and always deliberately makes you angry.
In fact, for men, this sentence of a woman represents a woman's distrust of herself. That's why men want to stick to a woman all the time, for fear that she will leave him.
This behavior is very stupid because doing so will only make the other person feel that you don't value his existence.
When two people are together, they must trust each other, and never always say things like "don't bother me" to each other. Over time, the relationship between you will become weaker and weaker.
- "You don't love me anymore"
The phrase "you don't love me anymore" is fatal to everyone.
If a person doesn't love you anymore, then there is no point in your giving.
You don't need a reason to love someone, as long as you love him, you will be willing to do anything for him, because your love and giving are willing.
And a person who doesn't love you, no matter what you do, he will have excuses and reasons to refuse. If one day he doesn't like you anymore, then he will use this phrase as a reason to break up.
Because when he doesn't love you, he shows you the worst side of himself.
As said in the movie "Wu Wen Xidong": "If you understand the life you have to face in advance, I don't know if you will have the courage to come."
In this relationship, if there is no one who is right or wrong, it is only because they love too deeply that they ignore the feelings of the other party.
If a person doesn't love you anymore, then no matter how hard you try to save the relationship, it's useless. Because in his heart, there is no longer a person like you.
So remember: if someone doesn't love you anymore, don't bother the other person anymore.
- "Why are you?"
There is a saying: "If a woman is in love with a man, then the woman will unconsciously want to give everything for the man." ”
It is true that when we fall in love with someone, we develop a sense of dependence and possessiveness towards him. Seeing the other person getting too close to other members of the opposite sex can lead to jealousy and dissatisfaction.
In fact, this kind of emotion is understandable, after all, everyone has possessiveness and control, which is also a normal psychology of people.
But if you blame and blame the other person for this reason, then it is disrespectful. Because in a relationship, the most fearful thing is that both people are selfish and unwilling to pay for each other.
When you always blame and complain about someone, this is also telling the other person in disguise: You are not worth so much from me. This will only make the other person more and more disappointed in you, and then they will choose to leave.
Therefore, in a relationship, you must know how to understand and tolerate each other, and don't easily blame and blame each other.