The warm winter sun slanted on the bluestone pavement of the ancient city
People are busy buying New Year's goods, looking forward to the arrival of the new year.
There is an old saying in the festive season: "If you don't marry, you can't get married".
It seems to be incompatible with the jubilant wedding atmosphere, what kind of deep meaning does it contain?
Explore the reason for "not ordering".
The wax moon is in the cold winter wax moon, everything is withering, and the cold wind is cold. At this time, the yang energy is weak, and the yin energy is extremely strong, which is a season of lack of vitality. Marriage, as a major event in life, naturally hopes to be prosperous and lively. Getting engaged in the month of Layue seems to be contrary to the beautiful meaning of marriage. The wax moon is the month of preparing for the New Year and being busy for the New Year, and every household is preparing for the New Year, and there is little leisure to take care of the wedding. The ancients formed the custom of "indefinite relatives in the wax moon".
What's the deal with "not marrying"?
The first lunar month, the beginning of the Lunar New Year, is a month full of festivity and peace. During the New Year, people are busy paying New Year's greetings, visiting relatives and friends, and every household is immersed in the joyful atmosphere of the festival. Getting married during this time period can easily disrupt the New Year's greeting plans of relatives and friends, and you may also neglect your blessings to the couple because you are busy. New Year's weddings can also be misunderstood as "double happiness", and in the traditional view, overly flamboyant celebrations can attract unnecessary gossip. The ancients formed the custom of "not marrying in the first lunar month".
With the changes of the times, these ancient customs gradually lost their binding force. In modern society, more attention is paid to personal wishes and actual circumstances when choosing a wedding date. The phenomenon of getting engaged in the lunar month and getting married in the first month of the month is also not uncommon. This does not mean that these traditional practices can be completely abandoned. Carrying the wisdom and experience of our ancestors is an important part of national culture.
In terms of marriage, in addition to the emphasis on "not marrying, not engaged", there are many other traditional customs. For example, when choosing a wedding date, we will refer to factors such as the yellow calendar and the eight characters in order to get an auspicious day. During the wedding process, there are also cumbersome etiquette and customs, such as worship, toasting, and haunting the cave room.
While respecting traditional customs, it is necessary to maintain a rational and scientific attitude. The happiness of marriage does not depend on the choice of marriage date, but requires the joint efforts and management of both husband and wife. When choosing a wedding date, it is necessary to respect traditional customs and pay attention to personal feelings and needs in light of your actual situation and wishes.
The saying "if you don't marry, you won't get married" has been circulating for a long time, and in modern society, it is no longer a rule that must be followed in marriage. These traditional customs should be treated with an open and inclusive attitude, and individual choice and freedom should be emphasized in the inheritance and promotion of national culture.
(Information source: Internet comprehensive materials)
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