On a cold winter day in 1972, Yan Bingyan came to the world. However, she was rejected and neglected by her family at the beginning of her birth. The mother takes on the burden of raising independently, and she has to work and take care of her daughter's upbringing.
The father has repeatedly suggested that his daughter should be entrusted to her grandmother to raise, but the mother has never been able to let go of this maternal love. Until Yan Bingyan's illness, her parents were busy and finally had to leave their daughter in the care of her elderly grandmother.
It wasn't until she was 6 years old that Yan Bingyan was picked up by her parents. But in the same family, the relationship between the three is not harmonious. Yan Bingyan is often troubled by her parents' quarrels, and she longs to return to her grandmother's warm embrace.
Whenever she expressed her desire to go back to her grandmother's house, her mother would ask sadly, "I am your relative, which side do you prefer?" This sentence was like a sharp knife piercing Yan Bingyan's heart, and she fell into a deep contradiction that she couldn't choose.
In a conflict with the boy, Yan Bingyan did not hesitate to break the opponent's nose bone with a brick. When the mother came home, she was shocked by what she saw, and angrily whipped her daughter, who was crying bitterly.
Yan Bingyan shouted loudly: "It's obvious that he provoked me first, why do you want to punish me!" However, in the face of authority, her roar was not heard, and in the end her parents were forced to pay a lot of money to resolve the conflict.
Since then, this innocent girl has been labeled as "willful" and "rebellious".
Even so, Yan Bingyan still maintains a firm belief that "being bullied will fight back". She was warned by her mother, "It's better not to have children, because I don't have enough time to take care of you."
This clip fully shows the intricate relationship between Yan Bingyan and her mother.
In this difficult upbringing, Yan Bingyan discovered her artistic talent. At the age of 11, she was admitted to the Beijing Song and Dance Troupe with excellent results, and finally got rid of the troubles of family disputes and began to pursue a free and easy life.
Since then, instead of parent-child affection, they are more like two like-minded colleagues. It wasn't until one day, when Yan Bingyan felt the warmth of her mother's kiss on her forehead in a dream, she couldn't help but have all kinds of thoughts in her heart, and she realized that the great mother's love was so deep.
The road of perseverance and self-improvement
Since entering the Beijing Song and Dance Troupe at the age of 11, Yan Bingyan has started her own independent life. Although her mother occasionally cared about her current situation and asked if she needed help, Yan Bingyan always replied firmly: "I will face these problems alone."
Since then, their relationship has become more like two like-minded colleagues than a close mother and daughter.
Until one day, when Yan Bingyan felt the warmth of her mother's gentle kiss on her forehead in a dream, she couldn't help but have all kinds of thoughts in her heart. At that moment, she realized that the great mother's love was so deep.
Since then, she has begun to work hard in her acting career, leaving almost no time for herself to rest.
While launching many excellent works one after another, Yan Bingyan has also won important awards such as "Golden Rooster Award" and "Huabiao Award" with her outstanding performances, and her career is thriving.
These dazzling honors undoubtedly prove her outstanding acting skills.
But just as Yan Bingyan's career took off, a sudden bad news befell her - her mother unfortunately fell seriously ill and only had three years to live. Faced with this reality, she who had always been tough and self-contained collapsed instantly.
She realized how ridiculous and ridiculous her years of alienation and indifference to her mother were.
In order to save her dying mother, Yan Bingyan resolutely took on the burden of all medical expenses. Regardless of her self-esteem, she asked her relatives and friends for help one by one, and finally raised a huge amount of nearly 300,000 yuan.
In that era when the material level was not high, this was undoubtedly an astronomical amount, but it was only a drop in the bucket for today's hundreds of millions of celebrity salaries.
However, these savings and loans were already the limit of all her strength for Yan Bingyan at that time. Faced with her mother's desperate sickbed, the sadness in her heart was indescribable.
During this difficult period, Yan Bingyan's acting skills and dedication to her career have become a source of motivation for her to support her progress.
Life and death struggle, with love to support the forward
In order to save her dying mother, Yan Bingyan resolutely took on the burden of all medical expenses. Regardless of her self-esteem, she asked her relatives and friends for help one by one, and finally raised a huge amount of nearly 300,000 yuan.
In that era when the material level was not high, this was undoubtedly an astronomical amount, but it was only a drop in the bucket for today's hundreds of millions of celebrity salaries.
As a result, Yan Bingyan accelerated the pace of finding a suitable marriage partner. She met with three or four men, but each time they failed to accept the burden of the family.
Until her mother held her hand tightly before she died, and said with tears in her eyes: "Daughter, mom is really sorry for you, I dragged ......you down" Yan Bingyan gently wiped away her mother's tears and responded firmly: "Mom, don't say that, you are always my favorite mother."
In the grief of bidding farewell to her mother, Yan Bingyan, who lost her loved one, fell into endless pain. She was locked in the room alone, tears welling up like a broken embankment, and her father's persuasion finally cheered her up: "Your mother must want to see your smile, because your smile is most like her ......" After this ordeal, Yan Bingyan finally understood that her mother's smile was a solid support for her to move forward.
At this moment, Yan Bingyan received an invitation to the movie "Teeth of Love". This work required her to perform from girlhood to middle age, which was undoubtedly a big challenge for her at that time, who had not yet experienced the world.
But the care and encouragement of her family has become a source of motivation for her to forge ahead. In the end, she won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress with her excellent acting skills.
has a successful career, but the relationship is bumpy
Just when Yan Bingyan won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress, she and actor Li Naiwen had a lot of intimate interactions in "The Teeth of Love", which triggered the audience's speculation about the relationship between the two.
But Yan Bingyan firmly denied it, and she admitted that the two were just "flawless girlfriend relationships". In fact, since the death of her mother, she has been unable to let go of the longing in her heart, so that she has no time to think about emotional issues for the time being.
At the same time, she is also well aware of the falsity of hype, so she has always kept a low profile, firmly believing that real acting skills are the ones that can conquer the audience the most.
Since then, Yan Bingyan has successively participated in many works such as "Come Again" and "Ten Thousand Arrows Pierce the Heart", and won the honor of "Huabiao Award" Outstanding Actress with "Ten Thousand Arrows Piercing the Heart".
During this period, she has always been strict with herself, devoted herself to shaping every role, and never did anything that violated her bottom line. Even some traffic stars invited her to make a cameo in order to improve the quality of her works, but she resolutely refused.
Perhaps it is this cautious and serious attitude that makes Yan Bingyan's works not rich. But every character she portrays is undoubtedly a wonderful movie-watching experience.
Since 2015, she has successively participated in many word-of-mouth masterpieces such as "Mr. Sheng's Flowers" and "Hong Kong Rescue", which has further consolidated her position in the film industry.
However, although her career is in full swing, Yan Bingyan's emotional road has been full of ups and downs. She has always been single, much to the anxiety of her father and mother.
Regarding her parents' worries, Yan Bingyan did not show too much anxiety. She clearly understands that her acting career is the most important pursuit, and as for feelings, it is only a small part of life, not necessary.
It was during the difficult period when her mother was seriously ill and fundraising that she truly grasped the meaning of life. That profound experience of insight into life and death made Yan Bingyan have a new understanding of life.
Peace of mind and face life head-on
Today's Yan Bingyan has entered the middle-aged stage of her life, her acting skills are becoming more and more mature, and her career is taking off, but her relationship situation still troubles her relatives. Parents can't understand why this daughter, who once longed to "enter the palace of marriage", is now so indifferent to it.
In fact, after experiencing the huge blow of life and death struggles and the death of her mother, Yan Bingyan's heart has already undergone a huge change. The girl who was looking for a lover is gone, replaced by a solitary, mature woman.
She clearly understands that her acting career is the most important pursuit, and as for feelings, it is only a small part of life, not necessary.
It was during the difficult period when her mother was seriously ill and fundraising that Yan Bingyan truly understood the meaning of life. In her mother's dying words, she finally understood that her smile was her mother's greatest wish.
This profound experience of insight into life and death gave Yan Bingyan a new understanding of life.
At that time, she was troubled by the inability to have a happy relationship, but now she has transcended this chaotic thought. Even when she is suffering from emotional problems, she can face it calmly.
For her, superb acting skills and love for her career are her most important pursuits at the moment.
Perhaps it is this indifferent state of mind that allows Yan Bingyan to focus on her acting career. In the 90s, she won several heavyweight awards for her outstanding performance, but now she still maintains a low-key attitude and never deliberately hypes her reputation.
On the contrary, she devotes herself to the creation of each new character, striving to present it to the audience in the best possible condition.
Such persistence and focus are undoubtedly the greatest consolation in Yan Bingyan's current life. In the face of her inner struggle, she never shied away or gave up, but walked forward more resolutely.
As she said to her father, "If fate comes, what if you are destitute?" For her, only using the purest acting skills to move the audience is her greatest pursuit in this life.
Standing in the middle of life, Yan Bingyan has long transcended the hustle and bustle of the world and embraced the purest peace in her heart.
And behind this tranquility is the tenacity that she has forged over the years.
Lacking the love of her parents since she was a child, she was once in a state of rejection in the family, and she developed a self-leading personality in her childhood. Even on the road of acting later, he never gave up because of any setbacks.
On the contrary, she always faced all difficulties with tenacious determination and never flinched.
Her mother's illness is undoubtedly the biggest haze in Yan Bingyan's life. In order to raise high medical expenses, she did not hesitate to ask relatives and friends for help, and finally scraped together 300,000 yuan, which was undoubtedly a huge amount of money for her at that time.
Even in such a difficult situation, she has always maintained a deep attachment to her mother. Her mother's dying words were deeply imprinted in her heart and became her driving force.
And just after her mother passed away, Yan Bingyan faced the heavy pressure of life alone, and her many attempts to find a marriage partner ended in failure. These setbacks may have caused her to sigh, but she chose to face them peacefully.
When the relationship problem bothered her parents again, she said indifferently: "If fate comes, why not be poor?" This sentence reveals her heart's acceptance.
It is in the difficult experience that Yan Bingyan's inner quality has been fully forged. She has transcended all the expectations of the world and firmly locked the focus of her life on her career.
Whether it is rejecting the invitation of traffic stars, or insisting on presenting every role in the best state, her principles and bottom line have never wavered.
This kind of pious and dedicated work attitude has made Yan Bingyan continue to make breakthroughs in acting, and she deserves to win many awards. But she is not complacent about this, but always maintains a low-key and humble attitude.
In today's industry where celebrity hype and false images are rampant, she still insists on impressing the audience with sincere acting skills, which is undoubtedly admirable.
Someone once said that only after experiencing the storms and storms of life can you truly embrace inner peace. This sentence may best summarize Yan Bingyan's current situation.
After experiencing the rejection of her family, her mother's illness, emotional setbacks and other blows, she learned to face life with a peaceful mind and pursue excellence in her acting career with a professional attitude.
Perhaps in the eyes of the world, she still has regrets in her life. But for Yan Bingyan herself, she has found inner peace, which is her biggest gain.