In a nondescript office building, Mr. Zhang sits in a warm and quiet consultation room. There was an imperceptible tiredness in the corners of his eyes, and his fingers unconsciously twisted the tissues in his hands. His wife sat next to him, her eyes full of worry and incomprehension, occasionally holding his hand tightly, as if silently conveying support.
Mr. Zhang is a well-known expert in the company, and he can always come up with a solution to get the team out of trouble at the most critical moment. However, behind this personable middle manager, there is a hidden secret. In the virtual world of the Internet, he indulges in pornography that is accessible at the touch of a button, which becomes an outlet for him to cope with the pressures of life.
At home, Mr. Zhang has a dedicated computer with a screen that is always filled with browser windows and shortcuts, which his wife initially thought was needed for work. But as time went on, she began to notice that Mr. Zhang turned off the computer screen more and more frequently, and even the moment she entered the room, he reacted like a child who had been discovered, flustered and embarrassed.
By chance, when Mr. Zhang worked overtime late at night and forgot to turn off the computer, his wife accidentally caught a glimpse of a bright pornographic picture on the computer screen. She was stunned, not knowing what to do. After that, she tried to fill Mr. Zhang's emptiness with the warmth of her family, but found that it was to no avail. Mr. Zhang's addiction is beyond her comprehension, and his dependence on these contents even exceeds his attachment to his family.
In the dead of night, Mr. Zhang would sit alone in front of the computer, his heart full of endless guilt and overwhelming resistance, but the strong desire drowned him like a tidal wave. He began to avoid communication with his wife, avoided the gatherings of family and friends, and the focus of his life seemed to be only the bizarre online world. In real life, he gradually loses his vitality and becomes cold and detached.
Finally, late one night, his wife could not bear the torment of the silence, and she burst into tears and told Mr. Zhang about her pain and helplessness. At that moment, Mr. Zhang seemed to wake up from a dream, he looked at his wife's haggard face and the despair in her eyes, and deeply felt his own selfishness and evasion.
At the insistence of his wife, Mr. Zhang finally walked into the psychological counseling room. He began to confess his predicament, from the initial embarrassment and pain to the gradual relief and recognition. The counselor's words were like a ray of sunshine shining into his dark inner world. In the process, Mr. Zhang began to learn how to face his own problems, how to rebuild his love of life and responsibility for his family. He knew it was going to be a long and difficult battle, but at least, he had taken that most important step.
Mr. Zhang's case is not an isolated case, but a microcosm of the serious problem of sex addiction. Sex addiction, whose scientific name is "sexual dependence", is defined as a mental disorder in the International Classification of Diseases. Patients may experience excessive attention and a strong desire for sex, which can interfere with daily life and work.
"Sex addiction" is a double-edged sword, it not only harms the patient himself, but also his family and social relationships. Just like the ancients said, "If wine enters the bowels, seven points will cause the wind of the moon", but the remaining three points may cause the tragedy of the destruction of the family. The same is true of sex addiction, which brings people a momentary pleasure while gradually eroding the health and happiness of patients.
According to a study published by the Chinese Journal of Mental Health, the incidence of sex addiction has been on the rise in mainland China. Men account for up to 70% of these patients, and most of them are between the ages of 20 and 40. This study also showed that sex addiction has a stronger withdrawal response and patients are more likely to relapse compared to tobacco and alcohol addictions.
With the increasing openness of society, the topic of sex is no longer a taboo to avoid. Today, there is a greater openness to discussing issues related to sexuality and sexual health, and this atmosphere of open discussion is gradually permeating all levels of society, including education, the media, and family and social circles. However, this also makes some people fall into the quagmire of sexual behavior, unable to extricate themselves, "Yellow Emperor Neijing" said: "Lust is uncontrolled, spiritual internal friction", excessive sexual behavior will consume people's energy and will, resulting in physical and mental exhaustion.
Sex addiction, also known as sexual obsessive-compulsive disorder, is a complex behavioral disorder that involves multiple factors such as an individual's personality traits, psychological state, living environment, and social stress. This addictive behavior often manifests itself as an excessive focus on sexual activity and an uncontrollable strong desire to do so, which can seriously affect the individual's daily life and social functioning. This uncontrollable craving can distort an individual's values and behavior patterns, causing serious consequences for their relationships, work, or studies, which in turn can lead to life
In the process of treating sexual addiction, it is often necessary to develop an individualized treatment plan based on the specific situation of the patient. While each patient's condition is different, most treatments emphasize the importance of psychological counseling and behavioral therapy. Counselling is a core part of therapy that aims to help patients understand the root causes of their problems and recognize the psychological motivations behind sex addiction.
During counselling, professional counsellors will build trusting relationships and provide a safe and supportive environment for patients to freely express their inner conflicts and pain. The counselor will guide the patient to explore their personality traits, such as whether they are impulsive and thrill-seeking, and how these traits interact with sex addiction. At the same time, counselors also help patients identify and deal with the stress and psychological trauma in their lives, which can be psychological factors that can lead to sex addiction.
In addition, behavioral therapy also plays an important role in the treatment of sexual addiction. Through behavioural therapy, patients are exposed to a range of techniques and strategies, including cognitive reconstruction, self-regulation, and coping skills training, designed to help them control their desires. These techniques are designed to help patients identify and change the thought patterns and behavioral habits that lead to sex addictive behaviors, thereby reducing the occurrence of impulsive behaviors.
After months of professional treatment, Mr. Zhang was able to control his behaviour and his family relationships improved. In an interview, he said with deep feelings: "Sex addiction is much worse than my previous smoking addiction, it is like a war without gunpowder, and I have to fight against my desires every day, and this process is more difficult than quitting drugs." ”
After a few months of treatment, Mr. Zhang gradually felt the change. He began to realize that the impulses that had once been irresistible were nothing more than the fear and insecurity of his own heart. The counselor's patience and professionalism taught him how to recognize the signs of danger and how to find other ways to release them when impulses strike.
He learned to keep track of his emotions, and when he felt stressed or upset, he would write down his feelings and analyze the causes of those emotions. He also learned to take deep breaths and meditate, techniques that helped him stay calm in the face of impulses. He started joining a support group to share experiences and encourage each other with others who were facing the same problem, which made him feel no longer alone.
At home, his relationship with his wife slowly began to change. He learned to communicate openly with his wife about his feelings and predicaments. His wife also began to try to understand her husband's situation and look for ways to support him. Together, the couple attended a number of marriage counselling sessions to learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy with each other.
Mr. Zhang also started participating in outdoor activities, such as hiking and cycling, and he found that being in nature allows his mind to be more released and calm. He also began to try out new hobbies, such as painting and learning musical instruments, which made his life more colorful.
At work, Mr. Zhang's performance has also improved significantly. Instead of running away from those difficulties and challenges, he learned to face them. His colleagues and superiors also gradually noticed the change in him, and they began to re-evaluate him, giving him more trust and respect.
However, the treatment is not all smooth sailing. Mr. Zhang also encountered a lot of frustrations and temptations during the treatment process, and sometimes he felt that he could not persevere. However, he remembers what his counselor once told him: "It's not how many times you fall that matters, it's how many times you're willing to get up." So, whenever these moments come, he reminds himself to be brave enough to get up even if he falls.
Mr. Zhang slowly realizes that he is not fighting just for himself, but also for his wife and their shared future. His change began to affect those around him, and his story inspired others who were facing the same problem.
The problem of sex addiction is gradually ceasing to be a taboo topic in society, and people are beginning to realize that it is a health issue that needs attention. The community has also begun to provide more resources and support to help those like Mr. Zhang. The education system is beginning to strengthen sex education to educate children on how to recognize sex healthily and how to deal with sexuality-related emotions and stress. The media has also begun to report on the problem of sex addiction fairly, no longer blindly censoring and evading, but in the form of popular science and case analysis, so that the public can have more understanding and sympathy.
Over time, Mr. Zhang's life has changed dramatically. He is no longer the one who is haunted by hidden secrets, but a man who bravely faces his weaknesses and continues to grow himself. His relationship with his wife has also become stronger, and the ordeal they have experienced together has made their marriage even deeper.
Most importantly, Mr. Zhang has regained his love and hope for life. He knows that he still has a long way to go, but he also knows that as long as he is willing to continue to work hard, he will definitely be able to find his own happy sky. #春日生活打卡季#
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