My name is Wang Minghua. He used to be a business elite with unlimited scenery, a successful career and a happy family. But as the years passed, I also became aware of the deep fears in my heart.
This story takes place when I have just retired. I thought that after retirement, I could enjoy my old age in peace, with my children as companions, and enjoy the warmth of family. However, things are not as rosy as I imagined.
After retiring, my wife and I decided to move to a small mountain village in the countryside. The environment here is beautiful, the air is fresh, and it is suitable for the elderly. And I can finally put down my busy work and enjoy life.
However, life doesn't always go the way people want it to. Although the children called from time to time, they rarely came to visit us. When I asked my wife why our children came to see us so rarely, she just smiled and didn't give me a definite answer.
Time passed slowly, but the attitude of the children has not changed. I began to feel anxious and uneasy, and an inexplicable fear welled up in my heart. I don't understand why my wife and I have been raising them for so many years, why they are so cold to us.
Until one day, I accidentally saw a WeChat message from my son. He said in the group: "Mom and Dad called again, I'm annoyed!"
I was shocked and looked at my phone screen in disbelief. I began to understand that my children did not care about me and my wife as much as I imagined, they just saw us as a burden, a responsibility, a burden.
I felt like I couldn't accept such a cruel reality. I began to wonder to myself, could it be that I had raised them for so many years, and their love and gratitude for me was just a false appearance?
My wife saw my mood and asked softly, "Minghua, what's wrong with you?"
"I don't know, I don't understand why our children are so indifferent to us. We've raised them for so many years, don't they feel sorry for us?"
My wife stroked my hand and comforted me softly, "Minghua, don't be sad. Maybe they have their own lives and busyness, maybe they just ignore us. But we still have each other, and we have to support each other and spend our old age together. ”
I nodded gloomily, but the doubts and fears lingered. Why do people become afraid of their children when they get old? Why are they so indifferent to us because they are in our blood? These questions have always lingered in my mind and cannot be dissipated.
However, the passage of time has not stopped, and the pace of the years has not stopped. My wife and I are still living a peaceful and peaceful life, but the fear and anxiety in our hearts are still there.
Until one day, I suddenly found a comment. A netizen named Xiao Ming shared his own experience in the comments: "When people get old, why do they start to be afraid of their children? Because they are afraid of loneliness, abandonment, and no one to take care of them. We should cherish the loved ones around us and not regret it until we lose it. ”
Reading this comment, I felt as if I was touched to the depths of my soul. Yes, when people are old, what they fear most is loneliness and helplessness. Perhaps, it is not that our children do not care about us, but they are just busy with their own lives and ignore our existence. We must learn to understand and tolerate, and not to deny their love for us because of a moment of indifference.
So, I decided to change my attitude and take the initiative to communicate with my children and express my concern and love. Although the process may be difficult, I am willing to work hard for the harmony and happiness of my family. Because, when people are old, the most important thing is the relatives around them, no matter what difficulties and challenges they encounter, they must support each other and face them together.
As I thought more and more about this issue, I began to realize that the children's indifference to us was not out of malice, but because they had their own lives and pressures. Perhaps, they are also running around for life, busy for their families and careers.
So, I decided to take the initiative to communicate with my children and express my feelings and concerns. I wrote them a long letter telling them about my feelings and confusion, hoping to understand and empathize with our feelings.
"Dear children, I know that you all have your own lives and busyes, but I want you to remember that we are your parents and we need your care and companionship. I hope you can spend more time with us, care more about our life and health, and don't make us feel lonely and helpless. ”
Soon after, I received a reply from my children. They expressed their understanding and apologies for me and promised to care and take care of us more. A stone in my heart finally fell to the ground, and I felt the love and warmth of my children.
Since then, our children have come to visit us regularly and spend our old age with us. They brought us endless joy and joy and made us feel the warmth and happiness of family.
Gradually, I also understood that when people are old, the root of their fear of their children is not because of their indifference, but because we are afraid of losing their companionship and love. It is only through communication and understanding that this fear and uneasiness can be resolved.
Eventually, my relationship with my children became more harmonious and harmonious. Our love and trust for each other has also deepened, making our family full of happiness and warmth.
When people are old, the problem of fear of children may be widespread, but as long as we understand and tolerate it with our hearts, we can resolve this fear and make the family more happy and happy. That's the most important thing I've learned from this, and that's what I'd like to share with you.