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Editor / Tommy
In contemporary society, many young people have little time to socialize due to their busy work, and the opportunity to find a partner of the opposite sex has become scarce. As a result, blind date activities are increasingly becoming the preferred path.
However, blind date occasions are often mixed with all kinds of people, etc., which makes people overwhelmed. In this process, some participants do not participate with a sincere heart, but out of short-term entertainment or spiritual loneliness, they often hide their true appearance, exaggerate their abilities and even fabricate experiences, so that the blind date loses its essential meaning.
Still others behave in an unpredictable manner, appearing to lack basic interpersonal skills in social situations and often exhibiting disrespect.
In particular, there are two special groups of blind dates - the "mom bao man" who relies too much on his mother and lacks the ability to stand on his own, and the "brother demon" who grew up in a sexist family environment and only cares about the welfare of his younger brother.
The former refers to men who are overly dependent on their mothers and lack the ability to be independent, and they are accustomed to obeying the arrangements of the family.
Even after entering marriage, he still maintains a baby-like dependence.
The latter came from families where patriarchal attitudes were deeply entrenched, and women were instilled with the idea of sacrificing themselves and serving their younger brothers wholeheartedly.
In this context, they often fail to realize that they are being exploited and are accustomed to acquiescing and adapting to self-sacrifice and unequal treatment.
However, with the development of society and the rapid circulation of information, more and more women have begun to awaken, and they no longer simply sacrifice themselves for the family, but begin to pursue their personal dreams and values, and find their own life light.
In this context, a new group of blind dates emerged, known as "pastoral women", a group of women who often used their gender identity to seek privilege, claiming that women should be given unconditional preferential treatment. However, rights and obligations should be reciprocal, and this applies to both men and women.
If a person focuses only on his own rights and neglects the corresponding duties and responsibilities, then he is pursuing privilege rather than true equality. Equality means that everyone should have equal rights and opportunities, as well as corresponding obligations and responsibilities. While pursuing our own rights, we must respect the rights of others and fulfill our responsibilities as members of society.
It is an idea and movement that pursues gender equality and eliminates gender discrimination. It emphasizes that everyone, regardless of gender, should have equal rights, opportunities, and dignity.
Feminism advocates that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities in the social, political, economic and cultural spheres, and opposes any form of gender bias, including but not limited to equality in work, education, political participation and decision-making.
In addition, feminist ideology also requires that housework in the family should be shared equally and that most of the housework should not be done by women or men alone. Men should be actively involved in household chores, share family responsibilities with women, and share care for children and the family.
At the same time, feminism also emphasizes women's economic independence, women should have equal job opportunities and career development, be able to earn money independently, and have an equal voice in family economic and financial decisions.
However, the so-called pastoral feminist concept is actually far from the real feminist concept, and they only want to enjoy the benefits of rights, while refusing to take the corresponding responsibilities and contributions.
This group of people expects special care in all aspects, such as not having to worry about livelihood or household chores, not having to strive for progress and success through personal efforts, and expecting everything to be arranged and presented to them by others.
This mentality, in the final analysis, is nothing more than a mutation of the traditional patriarchal society thinking, and the roles are reversed to women.
Most of the so-called pastoral girls come from moderately well-off families, they have a higher level of education, and they have grown up with the expectations and doting of their parents.
These people have been spoiled by their families since childhood, and have long believed that the world should work this way, but over time they have gradually lost their ability to be independent and have begun to rely on others to meet their expectations.
In modern society, self-improvement women are quite common, they are diligent, positive, have a strong faith and a commitment to excellence, and are equally happy in family life, but pastoral women only focus on the surface of the happy life of these successful women, and ignore the sacrifices and dedication they make behind them.
For those women who have had successful careers and have invested a lot of energy in balancing work and family life over the years of their lives, including multiple aspects such as family entertainment and personal growth, they have achieved their dreams by setting clear goals and plans.
In general, rights and obligations always coexist, and only when this basic principle is understood can people achieve the happy life they envision.
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