We have a well-known saying that motivates children to study, "If you don't suffer from studying, you will suffer from life", encouraging children to study hard and have a good life if they find a good job in the future. If you squander your youth now, you will definitely regret it later.
This sentence is quoted by almost all parents, from an early age to educate children to endure hardships and study, grow up to enjoy a happy life, no one has ever questioned its correctness, I want to ask the current parents do you believe in this sentence?
Children who are working hard
绝大多数孩子吃完学习的苦再吃生活的苦，苦不堪言
Learning is very hard, now the children do their homework every day at eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening, get up early in the morning, I really don't know how the children hold on, many children bend over early and hunch over and wear glasses, there is no meaning of youth, no laughter and happiness, no vitality, one by one like a little old man, by the heavy academic pressure can not lift the head.
The children have a lot of schoolwork
Almost every child is suffering from learning, and a few children want to get rid of this hardship and be a happy scumbag, but they disappoint their parents and are criticized by the society, as if they are an outlier, and I think I am not very comfortable in my heart.
But most of the children even if they work hard, they can't do academic success, and there are still a few children who achieve a counterattack in life through learning, a large part of the high school entrance examination is brushed, part of the college entrance examination is brushed, and some of them enter the society to be brushed, and then continue to suffer the hardships of life after eating the hardships of learning.
It's brushed down again and again
Even if you are a paper king, you try your best to be admitted to an undergraduate or a good school, but it is difficult to find a job, and it is difficult to enter the society, and it is difficult to continue to endure hardships, which is simply a sea of suffering.
Sometimes I think that if parents use this sentence to motivate their children from an early age, and the children find that it is not the same thing to enter the society after they work hard, even if they are admitted to a good university, they cannot avoid the hardships of life.
一个苦接着另外一个苦，人生就是来吃苦的吗？
If you don't suffer from studying, you will suffer from life, this is a multiple-choice question, depending on which one the child chooses? The meaning is very clear, you must endure hardship, just choose one to suffer.
What is the most important thing for us to come to this world? I think it is not to endure hardship, but to enjoy, to enjoy the beauty of life, to enjoy three meals and four seasons, spring, summer, autumn and winter, to enjoy love and friendship, to enjoy the beauty of nature, if we are born to endure hardship, what is the meaning of life?
Do we have a choice, we can choose not to endure hardship when we come to this world, and can enjoy the beauty of life to the greatest extent.
In fact, life is not so complicated, all people's pain comes from their own desires, and has nothing to do with their own economic conditions and social status.
The middle class wants to become a wealthy class, and they work hard every day to be anxious and depressed, and they are not happy. Ordinary people have a job, a house, a lovely child, and can live happily even if they have no money, which is the impact of the three views on people's lives.
There is a well-known saying on the Internet, if you don't touch the mortgage, car loan and inheritance, you will be very happy and happy with a salary of 3,000 a month, I think this is the real sobriety in the world.
We can live a low-profile life, live a simple life, live in a house of dozens of square meters, drive a car of tens of thousands, and be happier than a lifetime of hardship and pursuit of unattainable ideals.
I think in the Internet era, people's three views are undergoing great changes, the main driving force of this change is the solidification of class, people can not break through the class barrier, helpless to lie flat, this is really not a bad thing for the bottom people, may let them live a truly worthwhile life.
If it is the fate of the bottom people to endure hardship, it is better to suffer the hardships of life after a happy childhood.
I think that the phrase "not suffering from life" is an anesthetic, and it is the self-comfort of the people at the bottom.
No matter how hard you work in school, finding a good job depends on your connections and identity, only to find that it is useless to study hard when you enter the society, and the bitterness of learning is in vain.
Parents, as adults, can see through this better than children, so stop pouring poisonous chicken soup on children, stop deceiving yourself, and admit that the hardships of learning cannot change the hardships of life.
If your child doesn't like to learn, and is not good at learning, lie down together, accept the reality, and give your child a happy childhood and teenager, maybe many children will have to suffer the hardships of life after decades of learning, at least the child's childhood and teenagers are happy, much better than those who have been filled with poisonous chicken soup since childhood and suffered for a lifetime. Do you admit it?