My daughter has a bad problem, that is, she loves to bite her nails, I used to come back from kindergarten every day when I saw her hands, the nails were "uneven", and the skin next to the fingers was also bitten "flesh and blood".
I told my child many times not to develop the bad habit of biting my fingers, but the child promised that next time he would still see the broken skin of his little hands bitten.
Why children have bad habits
If you look closely at the children, they all have some bad habits, although they are not fatal mistakes, but if you don't change these bad habits, it will affect the child's life.
There are many reasons for children's bad habits, such as shaking their legs, squinting at others, crooking their mouths when talking, biting their fingernails, etc.
For example, children love to bite their fingernails, there are two reasons, pathological and physiological, if parents find out, to see if the child has pathological causes, such as whether children from three to six years old are deficient in calcium, zinc and other trace elements that cause children to bite their fingernails. If this is the case, then give the child trace elements in time.
Physiological reasons are caused by children's emotions, such as children are easily nervous, especially after school, or when they are stressed, they will bite their nails, shake their legs, etc. to relieve their personal tension.
If this is the case, then you need to give your child psychological counseling.
The effects of bad habits
Children between the ages of 3 and 6 have bad habits, parents must correct them in time, because this period is a critical period for children to develop good habits, and if they find that their children have bad habits, they must correct them in time.
For example, biting fingernails for any of the above reasons will have certain disadvantages, hands are the key to children's perception of things, when children's hands touch different things, they will be contaminated with a lot of bacteria, and the act of biting fingers will allow bacteria to enter the body through the mouth, which will bring many potential diseases to children.
In addition, nail biting caused by nervousness can make children develop bad habits and make them more likely to be nervous, which can cause many complications.
For example, when the child is nervous, he can't hear everything that other people tell him, and he only focuses on biting his nails, so that in the long run, the child's concentration will become low.
Behind the bad habits is the child's excessive stress
Through careful observation, parents will find that their children will become very casual and natural when the environment is familiar and the mood is relaxed, with firm eyes, clear language expression, and quick thinking.
However, when children are stressed, they will become unnatural, which is more manifested in slow thinking, stiff movements, and so on.
In fact, behind these are the anxiety caused by the child's excessive stress, and parents must pay attention to the reason for the child's excessive stress.
Some children accidentally make mistakes, because they are too young and do not know how to remedy them, especially some short-tempered parents, will make children "fight" when their children make mistakes, and over time children are like frightened birds, afraid of taking mistakes, afraid of being blamed, and then will use some bad habits to dilute the inner uneasiness.
For example, if a child is always criticized by his parents every time he makes a mistake, whether it is a big mistake or a small mistake, the parent will educate the child in a didactic way, or in the form of beating and scolding. Over time, children will develop a mindset and will be criticized accordingly if they make mistakes. Once you accidentally make a mistake, you will take measures such as biting your nails to relieve your inner tension and anxiety.
How to get your child to quit bad habits
To help children quit bad habits such as nail biting, it is necessary to figure out the reasons for children's bad habits, and the reasons why children have bad habits are nothing more than three points:
One is that children are afraid of being blamed by their parents for doing something wrong, and this reason is the most common;
The second is that the child's mental pressure is too great, such as before the exam, before the stage performance, it will be extra nervous;
The third is that children's jealousy is too strong, some children are easier to be stronger, and they have to fight for the first place in everything, and once other children perform better than themselves, they will "make it bad".
The most important thing for children to quit bad habits is to find out the reasons behind their bad habits, and then give them appropriate psychological counseling, so that children can realize their mistakes and use reasonable ways to remedy them.
So what kind of ways can you get your child to quickly quit bad habits?
1. Divert attention
This method can be used in a variety of situations, such as when the child is nervous, you can ask the child to look out the window, or tell the child a story, or take the child to eat some food, so that the child's attention can be temporarily shifted to other things.
The next-door neighbor's little boy, Mi Li, accidentally smashed the neighbor's window with a stone, and was nervously afraid to go home and clean up, so he peed his pants.
Seeing this situation, the mother first took the child to change clothes, relieved his nervousness, and told him that it didn't matter if he accidentally broke the glass, but after making a mistake, he first apologized to the other party, and then came back to confess his mistake to his mother and then compensated others.
Later, Millet carefully followed her mother's teachings, and after making mistakes, she carefully analyzed her mistakes and corrected them.
2. Participate in outdoor activities often
There are more people and things outdoors, when the child is nervous, you can take the child to participate in more outdoor activities, let your mood relax, play more with your peers, and slowly quit bad habits.
Outdoor activities are not only a way to exercise their bodies, but also a way for children to expand their social circle and cultivate good manners. Outdoor activities can relieve children's nervousness, for example, children can take children to outdoor activities the day before the exam, so that children can relieve inner tension and brain tiredness by freeing their limbs.
3. Listen to music
We will find that when children listen to DJ music, their bodies will involuntarily sway to the music, and their mood will become lighter with the music, and when they hear sad music, they will become sad with the ups and downs of the music.
When the child is nervous and anxious, let the child listen to some music to relax.
To sum up, most of the inducements behind the formation of children's bad habits are caused by excessive mental tension of children, parents must pay attention to it, and correct the children in time at the beginning of the children's habits at the age of 3 to 6, so that the children can develop a good attitude and the ability to deal with emotions.
Author: Wait for the wind to come
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