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My name is Li Ming, I am 28 years old this year, I work in an Internet company, and my monthly income is about 20,000 yuan. As the only child in my family, I have always been pampered and expected by my parents. Until one day, I met Faye Wong at a class reunion.
Faye Wong is a very beautiful girl with a very kind and gentle personality. We quickly developed a crush and soon established a relationship. After more than half a year together, we decided to introduce each other to our parents and express our desire to get married.
That day, Faye Wong and I came to her house to visit. My parents also came to Faye Wong's house together. We sat at the coffee table, and Faye Wong's parents asked me about my family situation and economic conditions.
"Li Ming, we also know a little about the situation in your family. We know that you work in an Internet company, and your monthly income is about 20,000 yuan, which is indeed a good income level. However, you are an only child in your family, and our daughter is also an only daughter, so we hope to receive a larger bride price. Faye Wong's father spoke.
I cautiously responded, "Uncle, auntie, I know your concerns. As an only child, it is true that we will not have other heirs in our family. However, the bride price of 300,000 yuan is still a big expense for me. Although I earn 20,000 yuan a month, I have worked for less than one year, and I still need to save some money to buy a house, buy a wedding, etc. Can you consider a slightly lower bride price?"
My parents also chimed in: "Yes, Feifei's parents, 300,000 bride price is indeed a lot of money for our son. We know this is an industry practice, but we hope you can understand the actual situation. Your daughter is also an only daughter, as long as you can marry a good man, can the bride price amount be negotiated?"
Faye Wong's parents were silent for a moment, and then spoke: "I understand your difficulties, but the 300,000 yuan bride price is already our bottom line." This is a common practice in the industry, and we cannot reduce the bride price just because of your financial situation. Our daughter is also very good and will definitely be able to live a good life in the future. So, we're not going to lower that number. "
Hearing that Faye Wong's parents were so persistent, Faye Wong and I felt very embarrassed. I knew I wouldn't be able to raise $300,000 in bride price, which was a huge burden for me. But I was reluctant to give up my relationship with Faye Wong.
I looked at Faye Wong, and her eyes showed helplessness and worry. I took her hand and whispered to her, "Fei Fei, I know this question is really difficult for us. But I believe that as long as we communicate with our hearts, we will definitely find a solution. We work together and believe that we can eventually reach the other side of marriage. "
Faye Wong nodded, her eyes slightly red. I know she's also worried and distressed about it. We looked at each other and smiled, trying to comfort each other in this way.
When I got home, I confessed my predicament to my parents. I said, "Mom and Dad, I really like Faye Wong, and our relationship is very good." However, the bride price of 300,000 yuan was indeed a huge pressure for me. I know it's an industry practice, but can you understand my actual situation?"
My parents were silent for a while, and then my dad said, "Obviously, I know that your situation is really difficult right now. However, to be able to marry a virtuous and kind daughter-in-law, it is also worth it for us to spend 300,000 dowry. After all, you are our only son, and we want you to live a happy and fulfilling life. "
My mom went on to say, "yes, yes. Although your current income is not bad, we also know the various expenses that need to be spent on getting married. Although 300,000 yuan is a lot of money, as long as you work hard, I believe you will be able to raise enough. As parents, we will fully support you. "
Hearing my parents' words, my heart was filled with contradictions and pain. On the one hand, I really like Faye Wong and am unwilling to give up this relationship; On the other hand, the bride price of 300,000 yuan is really a huge burden for me, and I really can't afford to come up with that much money.
I was in a dilemma. I want to continue to be with Faye Wong, but I am worried that I will not be able to afford the bride price. I was so troubled, anxious and painful, I didn't know what to do.
In the end, I plucked up the courage to meet Faye Wong frankly again and expressed my inner troubles and concerns to her.
"Fifi, I know this issue is really tricky for us. I really like you and don't want to lose you. However, the bride price of 300,000 yuan is really a huge pressure for me, and I really can't come up with that much money. I didn't know what to do, I was struggling. I said to Faye Wong sincerely.
Faye Wong was silent for a moment, her eyes revealing a little helplessness and worry. She took my hand and whispered, "Obviously, I know this problem is difficult for us to deal with. However, we have always had a good relationship and I really want to marry you. Maybe we can talk to my parents again and see if we can negotiate a suitable bride price?"
Hearing Faye Wong's words, I felt a glimmer of hope. We decided to visit Faye Wong's family again, hoping to reach some kind of consensus.
This time, my parents also came to Faye Wong's house together. The two sides once again engaged in a heated debate over the issue of bride price.
"The bride price of 300,000 yuan is indeed a big expense for my son. While we know this is a common practice in the industry, we hope you'll be able to lower it a bit. After all, we only have one son in our family, and we hope that he will be able to live a happy life in the future. My father said firmly.
"I know your concerns, but 300,000 yuan is really the bottom line for us. Our daughter is also very good and will definitely be able to live a good life in the future. So, we're not going to lower that number. Faye Wong's father responded strongly.
Faye Wong and I sat on the side, watching the two sides face each other, and our hearts became heavier and heavier. We looked at each other helplessly, filled with pain and anxiety.
We looked at each other and wept, both hearts tormented by tearing pain. Even though we love each other deeply, the reality of the predicament still prevents us from moving on.
"Fifi, I'm sorry, it looks like we really can't solve this problem. I'm really reluctant, but I really can't get a 300,000 yuan bride price now. Let's break up, you will definitely meet someone more suitable for you in the future. I said with a shudder.
Faye Wong couldn't cry, she grabbed my hand tightly, choked up and said, "Obviously, I don't want to give up our relationship." But the reality is really too harsh. I hope we can still keep in touch and be each other's best friends even if we can't get married. "
Witnessing our painful scenes, both parents could not help but shed tears. They realize that this relationship is still difficult to maintain in the face of reality.
When I got home, my face was full of tears. Seeing this, my parents hurriedly hugged me and tried to comfort my grief.
"Obviously, I know you must be in pain right now. However, the loss of this daughter-in-law does not mean that you will not have a happy future. Your happiness is the most important thing, and we will always support and understand you. My father said mildly.
I nodded, feeling still sad, but I also felt the love of my parents. This experience taught me that sometimes money does not completely determine a person's character and quality of life.
Through this experience, I began to reflect on my own views on marriage. I realized that marriage is not just a transaction, but should be based on mutual understanding, love and respect.
Perhaps I was too attached to the tradition of bride price and neglected the importance of affection. However, this experience made me realize that even if there is no high bride price, as long as both parties truly love each other, they can still build a happy family.
I also understand my parents' stance and considerations better. They may be too attached to the tradition of bride price, but they all want me to have a happy and healthy life. As an only son, they naturally hoped that I would marry a virtuous woman and live a decent life.
Although I eventually gave up my marriage to Faye Wong, I also learned some important lessons about family, marriage, and money values. I realized that sometimes money is not the only criterion that determines a person's character and quality of life.
This experience gave me a clearer idea of my future marriage. I hope to find a partner who shares my interests and respects each other, and we can build a happy family together. I will face the future path of life with a more mature attitude, and I believe that one day, I will definitely meet a partner who truly loves and understands each other.
Although I lost Faye Wong temporarily, I did not give up looking for my own happiness. I regrouped, continued to work hard, and started actively participating in various social activities in the hope of meeting my partner.
I also cherish my existing family even more. I understand the good intentions of my parents, and although they are sometimes stubborn, they want me to live a happy and fulfilling life. I will continue to communicate with them and let them feel my growth and change, so that our relationship becomes more harmonious.
I believe that as long as I maintain a positive and optimistic attitude and maintain an open and inclusive mind, I will definitely have my own happiness in the near future. I will meet the future life path with a more mature attitude, and I believe that one day, I will be able to meet a partner who truly loves and respects each other, and we will work together to create a better tomorrow.
Despite losing Faye Wong, I did not give up looking for my own happiness. After this painful emotional experience, I reorganized my mind and resolved to face the future with a more positive and optimistic attitude.
I continue to work hard to improve my career skills and income level. At the same time, I also started to take the initiative to participate in various social activities, hoping to meet like-minded partners. I believe that as long as I keep an open and inclusive mind, I will have my own happiness waiting for me in the near future.
By chance, I met a girl named Li Xue at a friend's wedding. She is a university teacher, gentle and generous, and very knowledgeable. We quickly developed a crush and began to fall in love.
In the process of getting along with Li Xue, I felt her kindness and wisdom. Not only was she very considerate to me, but she also respected my family. When I confided in her about what happened before, she was understanding and gave me a lot of encouragement.
"Obviously, I know that thing must be painful for you. However, you have come out of the gloom and embraced life again, and this courage deserves my admiration. I will always be by your side, and we will work together to create a better future. Li Xue said softly.
I was touched by her words. I hugged her tightly, filled with gratitude and hope. I finally found a partner who could truly understand and support me.
At the same time, I also started to reconnect with my parents and let them feel the change in my heart. I told my parents that I understood what they were thinking at the time, but now I have a new understanding and a new plan.
"Mom, Dad, I know you were out of concern for me. However, after going through that incident, I understood that marriage is not just a simple transaction. I found a girl who really loved me and understood me, and we had a good relationship. I believe that as long as we respect each other, we will be able to build a happy family. "I said this to my parents sincerely.
The parents were silent for a moment, and then the father spoke: "Obviously, we are really relieved to see you face life so positively. We also understand that money is not the only criterion that determines a person's happiness. As parents, we just want you to find someone who truly loves you and shares your interests. As long as you love and respect each other, we will fully support you. "
My mother hugged me tightly, tears glistening in her eyes: "Obviously, we are really happy for you. You have grown up and matured, and we sincerely wish you to find your own happiness. "
Hearing my parents' words made me feel extremely warm and comforted. I know that with the support and understanding of my parents, I will be able to move towards a better future.
After gaining the understanding and support of my parents, I was even more determined to move towards a new path in life. Li Xue's relationship with me has also become more and more stable, and we have begun to talk about marriage.
"Obviously, I know you've had a lot of setbacks before. However, I want to create new happiness with you. I am willing to build a warm family with you, even if there is no high bride price, as long as we love each other, we will be able to live a happy life. Li Xue said to me sincerely.
Hearing Li Xue's words, I felt extremely relieved in my heart. I hugged her tightly and responded sincerely, "Cher, I love you too." We will definitely work together towards a happy future and create a better life of our own. "
With Li Xue's company, I gradually walked out of the haze of the past. Together, we discuss the wedding and plan for the future. Although our economic conditions are not rich, we have a rich spiritual world and beautiful love.
When we introduced each other to our parents, my parents, like Li Xue's family, expressed their heartfelt support and blessings. They finally realize that money is not the only criterion that determines a person's happiness, and it is more important that both parties can truly love and respect each other.
With the encouragement of our parents, we successfully completed the preparations for the wedding. Although the scale of the wedding may not be as high as Faye Wong's family at that time, we did our best to create a warm and romantic atmosphere for this most important moment.
When I took Li Xue's hand and stepped into the palace of marriage, my heart swelled with great joy and gratitude. I finally found a partner with whom I could build a happy family. We looked at each other and smiled and vowed to work together towards a better future.
In the days that followed, Li Xue and I worked hard together to save money for our future lives. I also began to think about how I could make my parents live a more comfortable and healthy life in their later years to show my gratitude to them.
After that failed marriage, I have a more mature perspective on life and marriage. I understand that happiness is not just about money and conditions, but more about mutual understanding, respect and dedication.
Li Xue and I got along well, and our lives gradually got on the right track. When we chat warmly at home, I think back to the beginning. Although that experience made me feel painful and sad, it also gave me more thoughts about life and marriage.
I sincerely thank my parents for their support and understanding, and I am also grateful for meeting Li Xue, a kind and virtuous other half. I believe that as long as we cherish our present happiness, we will be able to write a happier story together.