Realistic version of "Burning Winter"
In the world of love and marriage, everyone is a unique painter, drawing their own picture. The love story of Malaysian female singer Aislin is like a collage, full of the diversity of modern society. The 42-year-old singer and her 45-year-old husband Wan Mohd Hafizam entered the palace of marriage together, but soon after they got married, they took the initiative to find another partner for their husbands, realizing a kind of "It turns out that you also have your own burning winter". Is it a normal phenomenon in the context of polygamy allowed in Malaysia, or is it a helpless act for some unknown reason?
Originally "Pure Love"
The story of Aisleen and Hafizam was at first like many love stories. Both of them were divorcees, and with their respective pasts, they met and sparked new sparks. Hafizam was the first person in Malaysia to donate a liver, and this selfless dedication fascinated Aisleen. On September 11, 2021, they chose to hold a simple and warm wedding in the shadow of the epidemic, with no luxury celebrations, no wedding photos, everything followed the regulations, but they saw in the details how serious and simple they were about marriage.
Under the careful management of the two, their married life has not become dull because of the simplicity of the wedding. Not only did Aisleen reveal the happy news of her marriage on social media, but she also developed a warm relationship with Hafizam's son, which from an outsider's point of view is a happy new family. However, Aisling has a busy career of her own, and frequent business trips make her feel unsure, perhaps it is this busyness that prompts her to finally make up her mind and make a surprising decision.
Work together
The heavy workload prevented Aisling from taking care of her husband's daily life in the first place, which made it difficult for her to settle down. So after much deliberation, she offered to find another partner for her husband. Such an arrangement seems to be a pragmatic consideration of marriage, but it also touches the boundaries of traditional values. In Malaysia, polygamy is legal, but not everyone can accept such a lifestyle. Under this premise, Aisling and her husband found a 26-year-old female doctor, and soon began a life together with the three of them. At first, the husband rotated between the two wives every three days, but later it was adjusted to rotate every seven days due to practical life considerations.
Such a life may be difficult for many people to understand, but Aislin insists that she feels very happy. She believes that this is not only a sign of responsibility for herself, but also for her family. She believes that when three people are together, they can support each other and create a more harmonious home together. However, this decision has also sparked a wide discussion in society, with some praising her open-mindedness and generosity, while others have questioned this non-traditional family model.
In the functioning of this family, a special partnership was formed between Aisling and the doctor. They are involved in family matters together and even support each other in child-rearing. This model breaks with the conventional family structure and presents a new web of intimacy. In this family, there is no jealousy and strife in the traditional sense, but instead cooperation and win-win.
Although such a family arrangement seems complicated to the outside world, for Aislin, it is her unique pursuit of happiness. She is not bound by formalities, bravely breaks the rules, and tries to explore and practice her understanding of family. For her, as long as family members can understand and tolerate each other, and work together to create a new harmony, then she will feel that it is a success, no matter what the outside world thinks.
Different forms, same happiness
Aisling's story is like a bridge between tradition and modernity, allowing us to re-examine the nature of love and marriage. Does love have to follow a set pattern? Does the family have to be built on a traditional structure? A personalized pursuit of happiness that breaks the convention and is not understood by outsiders may be the best way of life for the person concerned. It can be seen that happiness is not static, it can be a traditional monogamy, or a new type of family like Aislin.
The true meaning of love may not lie in the form, but in the sincerity and dedication in it. Every family is unique, and their happiness takes on its own form. Each of us has a different definition of family, some people think that marrying two people at the same time is a betrayal of love, while others think that several people are responsible for the family to take care of the family together. We may not be able to dismiss what others think of as happiness, but we can still stick to our own ideas and get what we think of as happiness. So in everyone's hearts, what does the desired marriage and family look like?