The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been the most difficult interpersonal relationship to deal with since ancient times
Women are born with a small pattern, love to find faults, and pick bones in eggs
If two "bar spirits" appear in a family, the consequences can be imagined!
01
On April 7, several screenshots of WeChat chats sparked heated discussions among netizens
The content is: WeChat sent by my mother-in-law when I was 12 weeks pregnant
The reason is that the heroine had a cat before marriage
I've been raising it for seven years, and she (mother-in-law) has always been against it!
Later, I thought it was too difficult to communicate with her, so I simply said that I would make friends and raise her
A few years ago, my in-laws came to our small house to move things, and my mother-in-law saw the cat climbing the frame
So there were these words after the year
The first picture is the chat between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law:
As soon as the mother-in-law came up, she asked, "Did the cat get rid of it?"
After not seeing her daughter-in-law's reply, she left a message saying:
I'll go over on Monday, and I'll throw it at you if it's still there!
An hour later, the mother-in-law spoke again, saying:
I told you, don't be embarrassed for my son, or throw it away, or you rent a house and live with a cat, you choose yourself, you can't exceed Monday!
The daughter-in-law responded: I have rented a single house, so I will look for a house and move on the weekend!
The mother-in-law immediately replied:
You can't go through it alone without a divorce certificate!
Things have developed here, and I believe that many friends have smelled the smell of "suffocation".
The daughter-in-law is 12 weeks pregnant, which is a good thing
The mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law will not have a cat, because having a cat will affect the birth of a child, which is also a good thing
How did two good things turn into "you live or die" bad things?
The reason is that there is something wrong with the mother-in-law's attitude!
The cat was raised by the daughter-in-law before marriage, and she already has feelings, how can she say that she will throw it away?
When my mother-in-law expressed her thoughts, she casually said, "If you were there, I would throw it away for you"
Isn't this a naked threat to a daughter-in-law?
It can be seen from such details: this is a very strong mother-in-law, who is used to being in charge!
When I learned that my daughter-in-law was going out alone
She began to play scoundrels, saying that "you can't pass alone without a divorce certificate"
This is really a big joke in the world, what does it have to do with the divorce certificate?
Is this mother-in-law legally blind?
There's a detail here
The first time the mother-in-law informed her daughter-in-law that she was going to throw the cat away
The daughter-in-law spoke to her husband on the phone and told her about it
The mother-in-law's attitude was: Don't tell my son about this!
It means that this mother-in-law is only arrogant and domineering to her daughter-in-law, she spoils her son very much, and she is unwilling to embarrass her son!
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I can't convince my mother-in-law
The daughter-in-law left a message directly to her father-in-law, and the original words are as follows:
Dad, what I want to say today may not sound good, about cats
I've asked a lot of questions and I'm looking for friends to help with it, but it will take time
I'm still worried that my mother will come and throw it away
If it really happens, then we can only have a fetus and divorce
After thinking about it for a long time, I still feel that the ugly words have to be said in front, so that everyone has a number in their hearts, I'm sorry, I don't want to say that, it's also hurtful!
It can be seen from this passage that the daughter-in-law likes to raise cats very much, and has regarded cats as family!
But there's clearly something wrong with her ways!
Reading between the lines, he threatens his father-in-law
Because a cat is going to have an abortion? Is it going to be divorced?
Could it be that neither her husband nor her children have a better place in her heart than a cat?
It is true that there are many people who like to have pets and have a good relationship with them
But that doesn't mean pets can be a substitute for loved ones!
I wonder what this father-in-law will think after seeing his daughter-in-law's message?
The life of his future grandson was actually controlled by a pet cat!
03
Let's sort out this farce:
A girl who loves cats like her life is married to a weak husband who dotes on his wife and doesn't dare to lose his temper
My husband's mother is a strong mother-in-law who is dictatorial and commands
The only thing I am glad about is: my husband's father is sensible!
How to solve this farce?
Chase the cat away?
This road obviously does not work, cats are the life of girls, and pregnant women are easily excited
Let the mother-in-law compromise?
The mother-in-law, who has been strong all her life, obviously will not bow her head easily, if she is good at talking, this matter will be solved long ago
The most reasonable thing to do: the girl should find out why her mother-in-law refuses to have a cat
Are you unwilling to raise a small couple?
Or is she annoyed when she sees the cat and wants to drive it away?
If it is the former, the girl can ask her mother-in-law to take care of the cat temporarily and wait for the child to be born before dealing with it
If it's the latter, the girl can consider having her parents pick up the cat
After taking care of the cat's affairs
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should sit down and have a good chat
In a healthy family, the mother-in-law should be like the mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law should be like the daughter-in-law
Don't give random orders, and don't intimidate others
A bad mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship will only turn the home into hell!
A few days ago, Chongqing's mother threw her child in a high-rise building to subvert many people's three views
How can a mother bear to throw her child down the stairs
Through people familiar with the matter, we learned:
There are contradictions between the woman and the mother-in-law, and they often quarrel!
The suffocating family atmosphere allowed the woman to suffer from severe depression
Once her anger had built up to the limit, she began to explode
first slashed his mother-in-law, and then fell into the air
04
On the other hand, Shenyang's mother-in-law is a different scene
The daughter-in-law had just given birth and was unable to move, so in order to make her return home more comfortable, the mother-in-law spent 200 yuan to hire a crane to send her to the seventh floor of the house
Why is the mother-in-law so good to her daughter-in-law
Because she understands a truth: being good to her daughter-in-law is good to her son and grandson
Only by properly handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can the family be harmonious
It seems that the mother-in-law spent 200 yuan to send her daughter-in-law to the seventh floor
In fact, she bought the warmth with 200 yuan
Similarly, if the mother-in-law of a girl who is 12 weeks pregnant understands this truth
Take the initiative to help your daughter-in-law solve the problem of a good cat
For example, take care of yourself temporarily, such as finding a reliable pet store and spending money to hire someone to take care of it
Will the daughter-in-law still have the idea of going to extremes?
The reason why there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is because they do not treat each other as family
I won't put myself in the other person's shoes
A cat can make several adults "live and die"
After really having children, can the family's life be peaceful?
Therefore, both the girl and the mother-in-law should reflect on it
The way they communicate is problematic
The world of adults should not be about fighting and killing, but about human feelings
Empathy is a powerful tool to solve contradictions!