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Preface
In 2007, Zhao Benshan's eldest daughter Zhao Yufang faced a major choice in her life on the emotional road.
She was deeply in love with a young man named Wang Yang, but this relationship was strongly opposed by her father Zhao Benshan.
Wang Yang is four years younger than Zhao Yufang, and he worked as a quality inspector in a company in Tieling at that time, with a monthly income of only about 2,000 yuan, which is obviously quite ordinary for the children of a star family.
What's more, Wang Yang's parents are simple farmers, in stark contrast to Zhao Benshan's family background as a big star, and the social status and economic status of the two families are very different.
In Zhao Benshan's view, Wang Yang could not match his daughter in terms of economic strength, social status or growth background, so he resolutely opposed Zhao Yufang marrying this young man from a rural background and a poor family.
Zhao Yufang's love for Wang Yang is unwavering, and she resolutely shows her heart to her father: "If you object to me falling in love with Wang Yang, I will not marry in this life." This sentence was like a hammer, striking Zhao Benshan's heart.
In the face of his daughter's resolute attitude, he felt helpless, and his deep love and respect for his daughter made him finally compromise.
He realizes that his daughter's happiness should be chosen and grasped by herself, and as a father, all he can do is respect and support her decision.
In 2008, Zhao Benshan personally held a grand wedding for his daughter Zhao Yufang, which was not only a blessing for his daughter's new life, but also an acceptance and recognition of his son-in-law Wang Yang.
At this luxurious wedding, Zhao Benshan not only generously gave his daughter 3 million yuan as a rich dowry, but also generously presented a mansion and a luxury car to Wang Yang's family as a support and guarantee for the future life of the newlyweds.
Zhao Benshan's move not only shows his deep fatherly love for his daughter, but also expresses his respect for his son-in-law Wang Yang's willingness to accept and take care of his daughter.
Now, 15 years have passed since Zhao Yufang and Wang Yang got married, how is the eldest daughter of Zhao Benshan, who insisted on marrying a "poor boy from the countryside"?
The question not only touched Zhao Benshan's heart, but also aroused the public's curiosity and attention.
People can't help but wonder whether Zhao Yufang and Wang Yang's marriage has withstood the test after the baptism of time and the tempering of life, and whether their lives are as happy and happy as they wished?
[1] Zhao Benshan's two marriages are different
Zhao Benshan, a well-known comedy master, has not only made brilliant achievements in his acting career, but his family life has also attracted much attention.
As we all know, Zhao Benshan has two children, Niu Niu and Qiuqiu, especially the latter, who often appears in the public eye.
What few people know is that these two children were born to Zhao Benshan and his second wife Ma Lijuan.
In fact, before marrying Ma Lijuan, Zhao Benshan also had a marriage, and he and his ex-wife Ge Shuzhen also had a pair of children.
Zhao Benshan was born poor, and his family was not wealthy since he was a child.
With his talent and hard work, he crawled in the entertainment industry, and finally became a typical representative of the "grassroots counterattack".
Although he is talented, his appearance is not outstanding, and he does not have a strong resource background, so he has not been able to get the recognition he deserves in the early days.
Until the age of 22, he had never been in love, which was undoubtedly an older leftover man in the social environment at that time.
The girls in the village thought he was poor and ugly, and always talked about lofty ideals, so they were reluctant to associate with him.
Fortunately, the villagers introduced him to Ge Shuzhen.
Ge Shuzhen's fate is even more bumpy than Zhao Benshan, she didn't even go to elementary school, and she lost her parents since she was a child, and she is also an "older leftover girl" who is difficult to marry.
When she heard that there was a bachelor in the next village, she came to Zhao Benshan's house without hesitation.
Although Zhao Benshan was not at home at the time, she still waited patiently until he returned.
The two people at the bottom of society met in this way, they did not have a romantic love story, but directly discussed the matter of marriage, and came together that night.
It can be said that their marriage is marriage first and love later, full of simplicity and sincerity.
Although Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen's marriage is simple, the two have experienced many hardships together.
They have a pair of children, and although the marriage did not come to an end, they both made great efforts to the growth of their children.
Now, Zhao Benshan and Ma Lijuan have formed a new family, and Niu Niu and Qiuqiu have also grown up under their care.
[2] Stability and hardship in poverty
From the perspective of family background and values, Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen are a match made in heaven.
Although the woman was born poor, she was not ashamed of it, but believed that as long as she could live a stable life and have a stable life, it would be the greatest satisfaction in life.
After the marriage, the couple's life was generally peaceful and full of happiness.
With her tenacious quality and hard work, Ge Shuzhen keeps the affairs of the family in order and creates a warm harbor for her family.
At the same time, Zhao Benshan was able to focus on career development, although the family was not rich, but the family lived in harmony and happiness, which can be regarded as an ordinary happiness.
In the second year after marriage, Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen welcomed their first daughter.
Zhao Benshan, who is a first-time father, is overflowing with joy, although his own education level is not high, but after some discussion, the couple still gave their daughter a literary name - Zhao Yufang.
The name was quite elegant at the time, and the arrival of her daughter undoubtedly added a lot of warmth and sweetness to this small family.
The turbulence of life has not subsided.
A few years later, they gave birth to a son, the birth of which brought new pressure to the otherwise peaceful family.
Due to the limited level of education, Zhao Benshan named his son Zhao Tiedan, although the name is simple, but it is difficult to hide the optimistic spirit behind it.
Zhao Tiedan's fate was quite bumpy, and he was diagnosed with a variety of rare diseases since he was a child.
This sudden change made the already stretched family financial situation worse, and Zhao Benshan had to do his best to make a living, just to improve his family's life.
Faced with the predicament of her family, Zhao Yufang showed maturity and responsibility beyond her peers at a young age.
Whenever her father was away from home and her mother was busy with odd jobs to support the family, she took the initiative to take care of her younger brother.
Zhao Yufang's sensibility is far beyond ordinary people, from the age of five or six, she can take care of her younger brother alone, and even take charge of the family's cooking affairs, working hard every day without complaints.
Because of her small size, she also needs to add bricks to increase her height when she is busy at the stove to ensure that she can complete all household chores smoothly.
Such a picture not only makes people sigh at the hardships of life, but also can't help but praise Zhao Yufang's tenacity and precociousness.
[3] The performance became popular, divorced and married Ma Lijuan
At the difficult moment when his son was seriously ill, Zhao Benshan worked even harder to perform outside in order to raise high medical expenses, while his wife Ge Shuzhen also went out to do odd jobs, trying her best to earn more medical expenses for her son.
At this moment, a turning point of fate quietly came.
Zhao Benshan successfully created a blind character in the drama "Wrestling the Three Strings" with Cui Kai, and with his excellent acting skills and deep-rooted performances, he became an instant hit, and his acting career entered a new height.
During that time, Zhao Benshan's performance invitations came one after another, and he performed more than 600 times in a row, and the venue was full of seats and made a lot of money.
As his fame soared, all kinds of resources began to pour in him.
Not long after, he was invited by the famous cross talk actor Jiang Kun to go to Beijing and appear on the stage of the much-anticipated Spring Festival Gala.
Zhao Benshan's wonderful performance in the Spring Festival Gala made him instantly become the sketch king in the hearts of the national audience, and his career reached an unprecedented peak.
The substantial increase in Zhao Benshan's income has greatly improved the living standards of the whole family.
He bought a large spacious house in Shenyang and brought his wife and children from his hometown to the city, so that they could live a better life.
Just behind this seemingly happy family, a storm is brewing.
One day, Zhao Yufang, who came home from school, opened the door, but saw her mother Ge Shuzhen sitting in the living room, her face full of tears and heartbroken.
Zhao Yufang anxiously asked her mother what had happened, and if her brother's condition had deteriorated again? Ge Shuzhen endured her grief and told her daughter that her father might have to leave the house, and from then on only their mother and daughter and her sick brother would depend on each other.
Although 12-year-old Zhao Yufang does not fully understand the complex emotions of the adult world, she keenly captures the meaning of her mother's words that her father is abandoning them.
Zhao Yufang couldn't accept this reality, didn't his father say that he wanted to take the whole family to live a good life?
At this time, Ge Shuzhen's heart was also full of helplessness and despair.
She knew that no matter how hard she tried, she would not be able to salvage this marriage that was on the verge of breakdown.
After Zhao Benshan resolutely filed for divorce, Ge Shuzhen could only agree with tears in her eyes, although her heart was like a knife.
On the day of the divorce, Ge Shuzhen cried alone at home, as if she had lost the direction of her life.
Looking at her sensible daughter in front of her and her son in the hospital bed, she realized that she had to be strong and cheer up for the sake of the children.
After the divorce, Zhao Benshan chose to "go out of the house", paid off the child support, living expenses and medical expenses of the two children at one time, totaling about 250,000 yuan, and left a three-bedroom commercial house and a Xiali car to Ge Shuzhen's mother and son to ensure that they were financially secure.
Only a year later, Zhao Benshan tied the knot with Ma Lijuan and started a new life.
[4] After the pain of losing a child, Ge Shuzhen cheered up for her daughter
In the cold winter of 1994, Zhao Tiedan, who was only 12 years old, died suddenly of a heart attack, bidding farewell to his family who loved him forever.
The sudden death of her son was undoubtedly a bolt from the blue for Ge Shuzhen, who not only suffered a huge mental blow, but also fell ill and was immersed in grief and depression all day long.
Zhao Benshan, who learned of this, was heartbroken, and he took his current wife Ma Lijuan to attend Zhao Tiedan's funeral.
Facing his son's cold body, Zhao Benshan was so grief-stricken that he cried bitterly on the spot and almost fainted.
In order to ensure that Zhao Tiedan's sister Zhao Yufang can not be affected and complete her studies with peace of mind, Zhao Benshan decided to let Ma Lijuan temporarily take over the care of Zhao Yufang.
At first, Zhao Yufang was full of wariness and resistance to Ma Lijuan, who suddenly broke into her life, and she thought that this strange woman was a "bad aunt" deep down and was unwilling to accept her care and care.
Ma Lijuan did not flinch because of this, she saw Zhao Yufang's lonely and helpless appearance after losing her brother, and her heart was filled with pity.
At that time, Ma Lijuan did not have a child of her own, so she poured her mother's love into Zhao Yufang and gave her meticulous care.
As time passed, Zhao Yufang gradually felt Ma Lijuan's kindness and sincerity, and she began to realize that this aunt was not as "bad" as she originally imagined, but a kind and considerate person.
In her spare time, Ma Lijuan will also go to Ge Shuzhen's house to try to comfort the mother who is immersed in the pain of losing her son.
She told Ge Shuzhen that despite the loss of the iron egg, life has to go on, she still has a lovely daughter Zhao Yufang, and the days ahead are still very long, and she must cheer up for her daughter.
Ge Shuzhen looked at her daughter being cautious by her side these days, for fear of touching her own pain, and she had mixed feelings in her heart.
She understands that for the sake of her daughter's healthy growth, she can no longer indulge in grief and must be strong.
So, Ge Shuzhen decided to return to society and found a job as a salesman for Zhao Yufang to continue her studies.
In 1999, she was successfully admitted to Dalian University of Foreign Chinese and opened a new chapter in her life.
In order to allow her daughter to study with peace of mind during college, Ge Shuzhen resolutely decided to accompany her, and the mother and daughter went to Dalian together.
During the day, Zhao Yufang concentrates on her classes at school, while Ge Shuzhen works hard in a nearby restaurant to earn living expenses.
When Zhao Yufang returned to her residence after a day of study, she could always see that her mother had prepared a steaming and fragrant meal, waiting for her to return.
Time flies, in a blink of an eye, in 2003, Zhao Yufang graduated from Dalian University of Foreign Chinese, with excellent grades and excellent comprehensive ability, she directly joined the local public security bureau and became a glorious people's policeman.
Seeing her daughter's success in her studies and her successful entry into the workplace, Ge Shuzhen was both relieved and proud.
At this time, Ge Shuzhen, who was working in a hotel, suddenly had a bold idea - she wanted to open her own restaurant and start her own business.
Upon learning of her mother's decision, Zhao Yufang did not hesitate to express her full support, she knew the hardships her mother had worked for the family over the years, and she also believed that her mother had the ability to realize her dreams.
The road to entrepreneurship was not all smooth sailing, and Ge Shuzhen, who was new to the catering industry, encountered many unexpected difficulties due to her lack of experience.
But her tenacity and persistent character that do not admit defeat make her firmly believe that as long as she persists, she will be able to run the hotel well.
After experiencing countless setbacks and difficulties, Ge Shuzhen's restaurant business gradually got on the right track, expanding in scale, and even opened several branches, and business was booming.
As a result, the lives of the mother and daughter have undergone earth-shaking changes, and their lives are getting better day by day, and they have proved with practical actions that as long as they have faith and are willing to work hard, they can get out of the predicament and embrace a better future.
[5] Father-daughter grievances go from misunderstanding to reconciliation
Since Zhao Yufang and her father Zhao Benshan lived separately, she couldn't suppress the longing and pain in her heart every night, crying and screaming to find her father.
As she grew older, she gradually understood that her father chose to leave her and her mother, and this realization gave rise to an indescribable antipathy and hostility towards Zhao Benshan in her heart.
Especially when her beloved brother was seriously ill and dying, Zhao Benshan did not appear for a long time, and he did not come in a hurry until his brother died.
This indifferent performance made Zhao Yufang's disgust with her father reach its peak, and even had the decisive idea of "not getting along with him for old age".
Zhao Yufang inherited her mother's tenacious and unyielding spirit, and vowed to break out of the world, coupled with her hard work and good conduct since she was a child, her academic performance improved by leaps and bounds, and she was finally admitted to Dalian University of Foreign Chinese as she wished.
At that time, she secretly thought to herself: "I'm so good, my father will definitely be jealous of me when he finds out, right?" In the early morning of the second day when she fell asleep with mixed emotions, there was suddenly an extra 50,000 yuan in her bank card account.
This unexpected move made Zhao Yufang suddenly wake up: it turned out that her father was not as narrow-minded as she imagined, but silently paid attention to her, and sincerely hoped that she could get better and better.
From this moment on, the relationship between father and daughter has gone through the process of releasing previous suspicions, and gradually moving towards reconciliation and repair.
[6] Zhao Benshan wanted to take care of his daughter, but Zhao Yufang said that he didn't want to get married
In 2004, this year was of great significance to Zhao Benshan, who personally founded the company "Benshan Media", marking an important step in his layout in the entertainment industry.
With the establishment and operation of the company on the right track, Zhao Benshan had an idea in his heart, that is, to let his daughter Zhao Yufang join the company, so that she can not only exercise and grow in the workplace, but also care for her more after work.
Zhao Benshan knows that it is not easy for Ge Shuzhen, a single mother, to raise Zhao Yufang alone, and he hopes to take this opportunity to provide more love and support for his daughter.
After Zhao Yufang learned of her father's idea, she first consulted her mother Ge Shuzhen.
Ge Shuzhen is well aware of her daughter's personality and ability, she believes that this is a rare opportunity to learn and grow, and working in her father's company can indeed get more care and protection.
With the support of Ge Shuzhen, Zhao Yufang officially joined Benshan Media in the same year and became a staff member of the Academy of Arts.
Here, she can not only get in touch with rich art resources, improve her professional quality, but also start her career with peace of mind under the protection of her father.
As Zhao Yufang's work at Benshan Media gradually got on the right track, her life became more and more stable.
At this time, Zhao Yufang had reached the marriageable age, and Ge Shuzhen, as a mother, and her father Zhao Benshan began to worry about their daughter's lifelong affairs.
They used their connections and influence to actively find suitable candidates for Zhao Yufang, and introduced many young talents with superior conditions.
Among these young people, there are not only the rich second generation with a solid family background, but also the highly educated people who are knowledgeable and have a successful career.
What Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan didn't expect was that no matter how many high-quality young people they introduced, Zhao Yufang seemed unmoved and expressed dissatisfaction with every blind date.
What made Ge Shuzhen even more worried was that Zhao Yufang even revealed that she didn't want to get married, which made her feel troubled and worried.
Ge Shuzhen knows that marriage is an important choice in her daughter's life, and she respects her daughter's choice, but as a mother, she also hopes that her daughter can find her own happiness as soon as possible.
In the face of Zhao Yufang's resolute attitude, Ge Shuzhen fell into deep thought: What is the reason for her daughter's rejection of marriage? How should she guide her daughter to view marriage correctly and find her own happiness? These questions lingered in Ge Shuzhen's heart, making her feel anxious and helpless.
She understands that as a parent, she needs to have in-depth communication with her daughter to understand her true thoughts and help her solve her inner confusion and find her own path in life.
[7] Zhao Benshan respected his daughter and gave him a 3 million bank card to help her marry her poor boyfriend
Faced with her daughter Zhao Yufang's marriage problems, Ge Shuzhen was anxious, she knew that she was powerless to solve it, so she handed over this important task to her ex-husband Zhao Benshan.
After Zhao Benshan took over the task, he began to look for a suitable partner for Zhao Yufang.
After some screening, he introduced Zhao Yufang to a young man who worked at a local bank.
This young man not only has a stable job and a handsome appearance, but also has a gentle personality and is quite good in all respects.
Although Zhao Yufang has dated him a few times and has a good impression of him, she has never been able to establish a deep relationship in her heart.
When getting along with him, Zhao Yufang always felt a little awkward, and the two were more like friends than lovers.
Faced with this situation, Zhao Yufang mustered up the courage to confess to Zhao Benshan: "Dad, don't help me find a partner anymore, my happiness, I want to make my own decisions." After hearing this, Zhao Benshan suddenly realized that he had been thinking about his daughter's future, but he ignored the most important question - what his daughter really liked.
So, Zhao Benshan decided to respect Zhao Yufang's choice, and he told himself that even if Zhao Yufang couldn't find a suitable partner for the rest of her life, he would ensure that she had no worries about food and clothing and lived a comfortable life.
Fate often surprises people inadvertently.
Just when Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen were worried about Zhao Yufang's marriage, Zhao Yufang unexpectedly met her true son - Wang Yang.
Wang Yang was born in poverty, and his monthly salary was only 2,000 yuan, which made Ge Shuzhen very dissatisfied.
She knows the reason for her divorce from Zhao Benshan, and she never wants to see her daughter repeat the mistakes of the past and marry a man with such bad economic conditions.
When she learned the news of Zhao Yufang's relationship with Wang Yang, she immediately resolutely stated: "I absolutely don't agree with you being together." Zhao Yufang is also a stubborn girl, in the face of her mother's opposition, she did not flinch: "I will marry him, if I are someone else, I will never get married for the rest of my life!" Ge Shuzhen was angered by her daughter's stubbornness, and even wanted to cut off relations with her for a while.
You must know that Zhao Yufang has always been well-behaved and obedient, and rarely disobeys her mother, but this time's resoluteness made Ge Shuzhen unacceptable.
In desperation, she found Zhao Benshan, hoping that he could help persuade Zhao Yufang.
To Ge Shuzhen's surprise, Zhao Benshan actually stood by her daughter's side in this matter: "Oh, as long as my daughter feels happy, we parents don't need to meddle so much." In the face of Zhao Benshan's "defection", Ge Shuzhen was speechless for a while.
At this time, Wang Yang couldn't bear the huge pressure from Ge Shuzhen, and even had the idea of suicide for a while, but fortunately he was discovered in time to avoid the tragedy.
Seeing that Wang Yang was so affectionate to Zhao Yufang, Ge Shuzhen had mixed feelings in her heart, and finally could only pinch her nose and accept the marriage.
At the wedding of Zhao Yufang and Wang Yang, Zhao Benshan gave a heavy gift as his father - a bank card of 3 million.
He told his daughter: "Wang Yang's family conditions are not good, don't embarrass him, keep this money for you to get married and use in the future." At the same time, he said to Wang Yang: "Don't be too tolerant of Xiaofang just because I am my daughter Zhao Benshan, don't dare to say anything if you have grievances, you come to me, I will definitely call the shots for you." Zhao Benshan's move not only shows his love and concern for his daughter, but also shows his trust and respect for Wang Yang, the future son-in-law.
Since then, Zhao Yufang and Wang Yang have entered the palace of marriage hand in hand and started a new chapter in their lives.
[8] Zhao Yufang and Wang Yang have been married for 16 years, and their love is as good as ever
In 2024, Zhao Yufang and her husband Wang Yang have gone through a 16-year marriage journey hand in hand, and they support each other as Zhao Benshan expects, and jointly create a warm and harmonious family.
In 2011, the crystallization of the couple's love, their son Wang Han, fell to the ground, bringing endless joy and hope to their lives.
Zhao Benshan loves this grandson very much, and even arranged for him to play the role of his grandson in the TV series "Liu Laogen 3", which shows his love and expectation for his grandson.
During the period when Zhao Yufang had just given birth to her son, Wang Yang knew the hardships and difficulties of becoming a first-time mother, and in order to give more love and care to his wife and newborn, he took the initiative to apply to the unit to adjust his working hours.
During the day, Wang Yang devotes himself to his work and does his duty, and at night, he becomes a caring father, taking care of the children and allowing his tired wife to rest at ease.
Seeing her husband working so hard, Zhao Yufang asked distressedly: "You are so tired from work every day, and you have to take care of the children after work, will it be too hard?" Facing his wife's concern, Wang Yang replied with a smile: "As a husband, this is my responsibility."
It's not easy for you to give birth to our baby in October, and I don't want you to be overworked. Wang Yang's words poured into Zhao Yufang's heart like a warm current, making her deeply feel her husband's affection and responsibility.
Over the years, Zhao Yufang has been bathed in the meticulous love of Wang Yang.
Whenever Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen visited their daughter and son-in-law and asked about their living conditions, Zhao Yufang would always be happy and say: "Fortunately, I married Wang Yang, and now I feel that I am about to be spoiled by him as a princess." The satisfaction and sweetness revealed between the words made people really feel the deep affection between their husband and wife.
As long as Wang Yang is mentioned, Zhao Yufang's face is always filled with a happy smile.
Recently, some netizens shared a set of photos of Zhao Yufang returning to her hometown with her son on social platforms.
In the picture, Zhao Yufang is full of smiles, talking and laughing with the people around her, and she looks very happy.
The son Wang Han on the side has also grown up a lot, lively and cute, and the interaction between the mother and son is full of love.
It is not difficult to see from these photos that Zhao Yufang's life is now full and tasteful, sharing ordinary and happy times with her family.
Looking back on Zhao Yufang's growth process, her childhood life may not be happy in the eyes of most people, and she has experienced family changes and ups and downs in life.
It is these bumpy experiences that have shaped her tenacious character and made her cherish the happiness in front of her even more.
Today, she has a husband who loves her deeply, a lively and healthy child, and a warm and harmonious family, which make her life full of sunshine and hope, and also makes people sigh that no matter how many ups and downs she has experienced in the past, as long as there is love in her heart, the future will always be full of infinite possibilities.
epilogue
When Zhao Yufang and her current husband entered the marriage hall, there was no shortage of doubts from the outside world, and many people asserted that the man took a fancy to Zhao Yufang's rich net worth.
Some netizens ridiculed: "If I have an old man who marries 3 million, I am willing to treat him as a god!" Even Zhao Yufang's mother has reservations about this marriage.
When Zhao Benshan's career was in full swing, he not only purchased real estate for his ex-wife and children in the county town to ensure that his daughter received a good education, but also personally looked for a partner for his daughter, and generously contributed 3 million yuan to help his daughter buy a house and settle down, fulfilling his responsibilities as a father.
In this regard, Zhao Yufang is extremely satisfied with her married life, and those external material conditions are no longer important in her opinion.
She believes that the worldly ideas of the outside world should not be imposed on them, and that their happiness and contentment depend entirely on their own feelings.
It is true that in real life, money is often seen as a crucial factor, but in some cases, the power of feelings is enough to surpass money.
Everyone's view of money and feelings is different, and they have their own opinions on the trade-off between the two.
For example, the answer to the old question, "Would you rather cry in a BMW or laugh on a bike?" will probably vary from person to person.
At least in Zhao Yufang's place, she and her husband live a rich life, the relationship between husband and wife is deep, and the family is harmonious, which is her ideal happiness.
She understands that excessive desire will only make life a mess, and only by cherishing the present moment can we truly experience the beauty of life.