Ladies and gentlemen, before reading, I would like to remind you that although this article is interesting and philosophical, it is for entertainment reference only, and you should not be superstitious!
In the land of China, the concept of family has always been regarded as the cornerstone of society. As the "University" says: "The so-called ruler must first gather his family, and his family cannot be taught but can teach others, there is none." "The harmony and stability of the family, the cell of this society, not only has a far-reaching impact on the fate of the individual, but also has a bearing on the peace and prosperity of the whole society.
Everything is prosperous and must decline, and some families cannot escape the fate of decay.
This kind of decay is not achieved overnight, but is hidden in some seemingly insignificant daily trivialities.
Sometimes, some seemingly inconspicuous strange things may be a sign of family decay.
There is a proverb in ancient books: "If you have been sick for a long time and have no filial son, your family will be ruined and there will be evil people." This sentence profoundly reveals two major signs of family decay.
When the elders in the family are sick in bed for a long time, the children may be able to take care of them wholeheartedly at first, but with the passage of time, the torture of illness and daily chores will make some children's patience wear out, and filial piety will also be indifferent.
"There are evil people in the family" refers to the appearance of some members of the family who have bad conduct and bad intentions.
As the ancients said, "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" Harmony and order within the family cannot be maintained, so how can such a family be expected to cultivate moral and talented children and contribute to the prosperity of society?
Next, let's explore each of these strange things that may indicate the decline of the family.
The first thing, "there is no filial son after a long illness".
The saying "there is no filial son after a long illness" expresses the coldness of the world and the cruelty of reality.
Filial piety comes first, filial piety, the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation that has lasted for thousands of years, has been repeatedly mentioned in the Confucian classics, as the "Book of Filial Piety" says: "Filial piety, the scriptures of heaven, and the righteousness of the earth." However, in the complex realities of life, this old proverb is often severely challenged.
Thinking about the story of "Huang Xiang Wen Xi" in ancient times, Huang Xiang knew to be sympathetic to his parents when he was young, and used his body temperature to warm the quilt for his father, and his filial piety was passed down as a good story. Nowadays, some people gradually show impatience and boredom after their parents have been ill for a long time, and the initial filial piety seems to be consumed by the trivial care day after day.
This is reminiscent of Dostoevsky's depiction in Crime and Punishment, that even the most intimate relationships can become fragile in the face of long-term illness.
"There is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness" does not mean that children are not filial by nature, but that under the pressure of long-term care for patients, some people may choose to escape.
In the face of this situation, we should bear in mind the teachings of the ancients, as stated in the "Zengguang Xianwen": "The sheep has the grace of kneeling and the crow has the righteousness of feeding." "Animals still know how to repay their parents' nurturing kindness, let alone people?
The fast-paced life of modern society often makes people lose sight of those closest to them, especially those who need our long-term care.
It is these trivial efforts day in and day out that form the most solid pillar of the family. We can't forget the original intention of filial piety because of the busyness of life, and we can't let "no filial son after a long illness" become a portrayal of modern society.
The second thing is that "there are constant family strife".
Family strife is constant, and this is indeed a sign that the family is in the middle of the road.
The wisdom of the ancients succinctly reveals the intrinsic connection between family harmony and prosperity. Thinking about the story of "bringing harmony" in ancient times, the dispute between Lin Xiangru and Lian Po was finally resolved due to national interests, and they jointly assisted the king and achieved the prosperity of Zhao.
Nowadays, some families are alienated due to trivial disputes, and the family road is gradually declining.
"The Yellow Emperor's Neijing" has a saying: "Anger hurts the liver, joy hurts the heart, thoughts hurt the spleen, sorrow the lungs, and fear hurt the kidneys." "Family strife, mutual suspicion and quarrels between members is an invisible harm to the physical and mental health of every family member.
Long-term internal friction will not only wear down the will of family members, but also make the family gradually lose the warmth and harmony of the past.
Just like the ordeal experienced by Paul Kochagin in "How Steel is Made", the cohesion of a family is also revealed in the constant challenges and difficulties.
When a family is caught up in endless quarrels, this cohesion gradually disintegrates, and is replaced by apathy and estrangement.
Many stories from history also tell us that family harmony and stability have a crucial impact on a person's growth and development. For example, Mengzi's mother moved three times, in order to give Mencius a good growth environment.
In modern society, we should cherish family harmony, learn to communicate and understand, and not let disputes become a stumbling block to family happiness.
The third thing is that "children do not do their jobs."
The failure of children to do their jobs is a sign of the decay of the family. Every parent hopes that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix, and they hope that their children can get ahead and win glory for the family.
When children are not engaged in their jobs and are idle all day long, the hope of the family is like a shadow and difficult to reach.
The ancients said: "If the young and strong don't work hard, the boss will be sad." This sentence profoundly expresses the truth that if you don't work hard when you are young, you can only leave regrets when you are old.
If children are decadent and degenerate, they will not only overshadow their own lives, but also put the whole family in trouble. As described in "The Red and the Black", one person's behavior often affects the fate of the entire family.
There is a folk proverb: "The upper beam is not right, the lower beam is crooked." This means that parents' behaviour and attitudes can have a profound impact on their children's development.
As parents, it is our responsibility to guide our children to establish correct values and outlook on life, and encourage them to work hard and contribute to the prosperity of the family.
Further, "Plant melons and get melons, sow beans and get beans." "Parents' investment and attention to their children's education often determine the future direction of their children.
If we want our children to become responsible and responsible people, we must cultivate in them from an early age the spirit of hard work and self-improvement.
In this era of rapid change, "sail against the current, and if you don't advance, you will retreat." "If children fail to keep up with the times and improve themselves, they may be eliminated from society.
The fourth thing is, "The family is unfortunate, and disasters are frequent."
The family is unfortunate and suffers frequent disasters, which is a sign of the decay of the family.
When a family encounters misfortunes one after another, such as the pain of the death of relatives, the suffering of illness, and the misfortune of property loss, it seems that the heavens are not beautiful, and the foundation of this family is hit again and again.
In ancient legends, there is an existence called the "God of Doom", which invisibly entangles certain families and causes frequent misfortunes.
In the ancient wisdom book "The Yellow Emperor's Neijing", it is also mentioned: "Righteousness is stored in the body, and evil cannot be done." It means that as long as the family is united and upright, it will be able to resist many misfortunes and difficulties in the outside world.
In ancient and modern folk customs, there are often many rituals to drive away evil spirits and avoid harm, in order to seek the peace of the family and the prosperity of the descendants.
These customs are people's deep anxiety and helplessness about the misfortune of their families. However, "there are unforeseen circumstances in the sky, and people have good and bad luck." In the face of these sudden misfortunes, families must learn to unite and face difficulties together.
"Adversity sees the truth. "In the midst of successive disasters, mutual support between family members is particularly precious. It is these difficult times that can truly see the cohesion and centripetal force of a family.
Therefore, although family misfortune and frequent disasters are signs of family decline, as long as family members can work together to overcome difficulties, it can revitalize and revitalize the family.
The fifth thing is, "There are wicked men in the house."
There are evil people in the family, which is really a taboo in the family. The "evil people" here refer to those who have evil intentions, play tricks, and specialize in destroying family harmony. They are like viruses lurking in the shadows, waiting for an opportunity to move and silently eroding the health of the family.
"Tao Te Ching" has a saying: "What people are evil, I will hate." These evil people take advantage of the weakness of human nature to create conflicts, sow discord, and even sow the seeds of discord among family members.
Their actions are tantamount to throwing stones on the surface of a calm lake, causing ripples and disturbing the peace of the family.
What's more, these evil people will lure family members astray and embark on the road of no return to breaking the law and committing crimes. As depicted in Crime and Punishment, once you fall into the abyss of sin, you can't extricate yourself. We must be vigilant, keep our eyes open, and recognize the true colors of these evil people.
"You can't have the heart to hurt others, and you can't have the heart to prevent people. This sentence still has profound relevance today.
In the face of the evil people in the family, we must not take it lightly, let alone be deceived by their sweet words. It is necessary to see through their disguises in time and remove them from the family completely.
The foreign masterpiece "Les Miserables" also reveals the complexity and sinister nature of human nature, reminding us to always be vigilant. As the folk proverb goes, "If you hurt others, you will hurt yourself." "These wicked people will eventually pay the price for their evil deeds.
In the face of these strange things that may indicate the decline of the family, we must be vigilant and take adequate measures to deal with them.
First of all, we must carry forward the spirit of filial piety and take care of the elders in the family;
secondly, strengthen communication and understanding between family members to resolve disputes and contradictions;
Thirdly, guide children to establish correct values and outlook on life, and cultivate their sense of responsibility and responsibility;
bravely face the misfortunes and difficulties encountered by the family, and support each other to tide over the difficulties;
Be wary and stay away from those "evil people" who may disrupt family harmony.
"Home and everything is prosperous. "A harmonious and prosperous family requires the joint efforts and dedication of every member of the family.
When we encounter these strange things that may indicate the decline of the family, we must face them bravely and take effective measures to solve them, so that we can jointly protect our family and make it the warmest harbor in our lives.
Here, may every family live in harmony and prosper!