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A mother in the Bao Ma group said that last week, her mother-in-law took her 4-year-old daughter to the playground to play and saw a more suspicious person. The man was in his 50s, wearing a mask and a hat, staring at the children who were playing.
Bao's mother said: The mother-in-law didn't pay attention at first, but later found that she had been staring at her daughter, which felt a little wrong, and the mother-in-law was afraid that she would encounter a snatch of the child, so she hurriedly took the child home.
When I came back and talked to my family about this, although I wasn't sure what the man was going to do, my family was still scared for a while.
I have to say that this mother-in-law's vigilance is really high. Whether it was a misunderstanding or not, her vigilance deserves a thumbs up.
After all, in real life, the wrong person is recognized, and incidents of snatching children by mistake happen from time to time.
When you encounter a trafficker, don't just shout "I don't know him"
A few days ago, I swiped a video explaining the new routines of human traffickers, and I couldn't calm down for a long time after watching it.
The video tells the story of a mother waiting for the train with her children at the station and meeting an aunt who was on the same train with her.
After chatting a few words and getting ready to get in the car, the aunt said intimately: You take too many things, I'll help you get them.
This mother really couldn't carry too many things with her child, so she was very grateful to let the aunt help get the car.
With the previous episode, after getting in the car, the aunt naturally talked to the mother. We talked about everything from how old the child was, what his name was, and where he was going.
Originally, my mother thought that she had met a kind person during the trip, but when she was about to get out of the car, the aunt suddenly shouted, "You want to take my grandson, no way!"
At that time, my mother's mind was blank, and she instantly reacted that she had encountered human traffickers. He was shocked and panicked, "I don't know you, what are you shouting?"
But the aunt cried unrelentingly, "My son didn't do anything to be sorry for you, you have to divorce, and now you have to take my grandson away, you give my grandson back to me." ”
The mother hugged the child and shouted, "I don't know her", but the people around them mistakenly thought that the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law had a conflict, and no one stepped forward to help.
Until this mother panicked, grabbed an uncle's arm, cried and shouted: She is a human trafficker, I don't know her, please help me call the police.
Only then did the onlookers sense that something was wrong, and surrounded the child and the mother in the middle, confronting the old woman. Then the old woman saw that the timing was not right, and slipped away in the chaos.
Although I don't know where the events in the video happened, I have to say that if it is true, the traffickers are too rampant.
After becoming a mother, I have been afraid to watch such videos, and it is easy to substitute.
But there are some things that we are not afraid of and will not happen. For the safety of children, there are some things that need to be understood.
When you're in danger, do it!
When people are in danger, their first instinct is to ask for help from those around them. Especially when there are more onlookers, we subconsciously think that more people will come out to help.
But did you know that the opposite is true, the more people watch, the less likely people are to lend a helping hand.
This phenomenon is known in psychology as the bystander effect, also known as "pluralistic ignorance".
This phenomenon originated in March 1964 in New York, New York, a murder case that shocked the world.
At 3 a.m. on the night of the crime, a young woman named Genoves was killed by a gangster with a knife on her way back to her apartment.
But shockingly, the whole murder process took more than half an hour, during which the girl repeatedly screamed and shouted for help, and the cries for help were heard by all 38 neighbors of the victim, many of whom went to the window to look for a long time.
But no one came to her rescue, and no one even raised their hands to call the police, making a tragedy that should not have happened a fact.
This phenomenon caught the attention of social psychologists John Daly and Bibo Rata, who designed a psychological experiment.
They found a group of people and divided them into groups of two, three, and six, which can be simply understood as two-person calls, three-person calls, and six-person group calls.
But in fact, all the participants heard were recordings in which a boy complained about the stress of life and study, and said that he would develop asthma and epilepsy under high pressure.
As he spoke, the boy would begin to breathe rapidly and call for help until the sound died down.
Finally, the researchers counted the probability of helping, and they found that:
- When there are only two people talking, 80% of them will help;
- When there are three people talking, this probability is reduced to 60%;
- When there were six people talking, only 31% would take action.
This experiment is a good explanation that if you are in danger and you are the only person by your side, the motivation to participate in the rescue will be greatly increased.
And if you're just one of the onlookers, you'll feel like it's not about you, and there's always someone to help.
The experiment also taught us that if we encounter danger, such as a child snatched by a human trafficker, we should not just shout for help, but rather catch a specific person and ask him for help.
Whoever it is, grab him and tell the other person "Big brother/big sister, she's a human trafficker, help me call the police!"
In this way, the ignorance of diversity will be broken, and 100% of the responsibility will be placed on the other person, and the other person will be forced to help.
Check in the bud
Nowadays, parents' safety awareness has become higher and higher, but the fraud methods of human traffickers are also gradually escalating, so we must also be vigilant in daily life, and we must also understand some of the routines of human traffickers.
Like what:
●Common locations of crimes
Traffickers often choose high-traffic and confusing locations to commit crimes, such as train stations, supermarkets, schools, residential areas and park gates.
Parents should pay special attention to their children's whereabouts in these areas to ensure that they are always in sight.
●Target population
Elderly people and women with babies alone are the easiest targets for traffickers.
The elderly are old and frail, with relatively slow reflexes, and are easy prey to human traffickers. And some women may be distracted when they take their babies out, which is also an opportunity for traffickers to take advantage of.
Therefore, the elderly and women should be extra careful when taking care of their children and try to avoid traveling alone with their children, especially in places with high foot traffic.
●Means of Drafting
Traffickers use a variety of modus operandi, including outright stealing and blatant snatching. They often take advantage of the negligence of parents and quickly take their children away.
When some parents take their babies out, they may let their guard down by chatting with acquaintances, causing their children to be taken away by traffickers.
In addition, traffickers may also trick children away by tricking them or impersonating acquaintances.
Parents should always be vigilant not to let their children out of their line of sight, and be especially careful when accosted by strangers.
Finally, I want to say: safety is no trivial matter, "safety education" should not only be paid attention to by parents, but also to improve children's safety awareness.
It is recommended that parents can guide their children in relevant aspects through "picture books, documentaries, or anti-trafficking theme education".
Today's topic: Have you taught your children about this topic and how did you do it?