Recently, a topic about "poems that you don't read until you grow up" exploded on the Internet.
Everyone recalled the poems they had read when they were young.
It's just that I was young at the time, I only knew poetry and beauty, and I didn't understand its meaning, so I always swallowed dates and memorized it messily.
It wasn't until many years later that I experienced the ups and downs that the poet had experienced, and I experienced the bitterness and helplessness in the poem.
It was the bullet that was fired when we were young that it hit us in the eyebrows.
We finally understood the sentence:
"One can never have youth and the feeling of youth at the same time. ”
After going through the vicissitudes of life, and then looking back at the previous poems, we found that it had already written through the deepest regret in our hearts.
I used to feel that reading was tormenting, but it wasn't until I went through thousands of sails that I finally knew how important reading was.
The black hair does not know how to study early, and the white head regrets studying late.
- Don Yan Zhenqing "Persuasion"
When there is less to do, we all feel that reading is the first drudgery in the world.
The boring textbooks that we can't read, the classwork that we can't write, and the painstaking teachings of the teachers all make us feel unbearable.
I just hope that I can get out of class soon, get out of school soon, and get out of school as soon as possible.
I don't know that those seemingly boring days pave the way for a person's hope and future.
Later, we finally escaped from that place and came to the society, thinking that we would have a smooth journey, but we repeatedly hit a wall.
When you enter the factory to work, you are faced with low wages, poor benefits, and a hopeless future;
Start your own business, and you have no money, no resources, and no background.
Over the years, I have been seeking business in all directions, running around and running around, but nothing has been accomplished.
At this moment, we finally understood: although reading is hard, it is the best way to walk in our lives.
However, at this time, if I want to go back to school to read more books and learn more knowledge, I can't go back for a long time, so I can only continue to live this hard life day after day.
The first reading is poetry, and the second reading is life.
I hope that every child who still has a choice will never repeat the old path we have taken.
The person I liked when I was young disappeared into the sea of people with graduation, and I realized in retrospect:
The face of the person does not know where to go, and the peach blossoms are still smiling in the spring breeze.
- Don Cui Hu "Title Capital City Nanzhuang"
Some people say:
"When you are young, you can't meet someone who is too amazing, once you meet too early, either the rest of your life will be her, or the rest of your life will be memories. ”
When the poet Cui Hu was playing in the southern suburbs of Chang'an, he met such a woman under the peach blossom tree.
Although it was only a one-sided relationship, Cui Hu kept the woman's smile in his heart.
A year later, he returned to that place again, looking forward to reuniting with each other, but what he was waiting for was that the peach blossoms were still there, and the old man was hard to find.
Reading this, I remembered Sanmao's sentence:
"All kinds of things that come because of fate, there will be a time when fate will end and part. ”
The person we loved when we were young will also disappear into the torrent of time with graduation and changes in the world.
Since then, she has become a white moonlight, a cinnabar mole, and the person we can't ask for and can't let go of in our hearts.
Love rises with the wind, and the wind stops.
The appearance of some people is destined to only stop at their lips and teeth, and hide them over the years.
When a fate is destined to have no result, you and I have to tell ourselves: some people and some things, it is enough to be happy for a lifetime.
After that, it's good to be nostalgic, don't be attached, don't look back.
The former good playmates, because of the different life experiences, became the strangers we are most familiar with, and they recalled:
Things are people, and they don't have to do anything, and tears flow first.
——Song · Li Qingzhao "Wulingchun · Spring Festival Gala
When we reach a certain age, we will have fewer and fewer friends around us.
Those who once said they would be friends for life will disappear into the sea of people when they turn around;
Those who used to talk to you every day will gradually lose contact with you;
Those childhood friends who played well finally met and found that they no longer had a common topic with each other.
The fading and disappearance of these friendships is not because of quarrels and contradictions, but because of time and experience.
Writer Su Mei said carefully:
"Once two good friends who had no guesses, the true love is still there, but there is a river in the middle.
This river is too wide, and it is full of the ups and downs of life, and it can no longer be crossed. ”
The relationship between people is seasonal, and the scattered friendship is the normal state of life.
Now that you have stood at both ends of the road, you can say goodbye and go your separate ways.
In this way, it is not in vain to meet at the beginning.
The two people who once loved each other, but later became strangers in the stumbling of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and finally couldn't help but sigh:
If life is only as first seen, what is the autumn wind and sad fan.
——Qing · Nalan Rongruo
Magnolia · Quasi-Ancient Decisive Words Cambodian Friends
There are many kinds of love in this world, and the most regrettable one is that it is extremely gentle at the beginning and full of devastation at the end.
However, the vast majority of people have experienced this regret themselves.
Therefore, Nalan Rong Ruocai sighed, if life is like the first time we met, how beautiful it would be.
It's a pity that life is not only the romance of wind and snow, but also the blandness of firewood, rice, oil and salt.
As long as you get along with each other, you have to face the life of chicken feathers, and there will be countless misunderstandings and quarrels.
Some people reneged on their promise to stay together for the rest of their lives, and some people derailed their families while they lived.
waited until the relationship was completely broken, and the two people who had loved each other calmed down and looked back on the past, and felt deep in love.
However, everything is irreparable.
Lin Yutang once said:
"The so-called happy marriage is nothing but the result of the accommodation and habits of the husband and wife, like an old pair of shoes that become suitable after a long time. ”
The relationship that can go to the end is never the years, but the mentality.
When two people know how to tolerate and understand, treat well and compromise, then there will be a lot less tragedy and regret in life.
When I was a child, I desperately wanted to escape from the place, but when I grew up, it became a hometown that I could never go back to, and I finally felt:
Children don't know each other, and they smile and ask where the guests are old.
——唐 · 贺知章《回乡偶书》
Everyone in a foreign land has had such moments.
When I return home after a day's work, I see that the house is dark and none of the lights are lit for myself, and I will inexplicably feel a sense of wandering in my heart.
When we were young, our hearts were higher than the sky, and we always longed for the outside world, thinking that there was a vast sky for us to soar.
When I grew up, I realized that the outside world was not satisfactory, and the hometown we were familiar with had already become a foreign country.
When He Zhizhang was young, he also left his hometown for more than 40 years in order to be an official, and when he came back, he was already full of gray hair.
The children who passed by did not know him, so they smiled and asked him where he came from.
He Zhizhang sighed at this time:
"How desolate it is that I have become a stranger. ”
When people reach a certain age, they will begin to understand the meaning of hometown and the weight of hometown in their hearts.
Unfortunately, before we know it, there is an invisible boundary between us and our hometown.
Never get closer, never leave.
can only be in every night of wandering in a foreign land, nostalgic for the people and scenery of the hometown, chat for comfort.
When we look back on the past, but find that our youthful face has grown old, we finally understand:
The most important thing is that the world can't stay, and Zhu Yan is a flowery tree.
——Modern · Wang Guowei
Butterfly Love Flower · Reading the End of the World, Parting Bitter
The vast majority of people in this world are unable to face their own aging.
Even Wang Guowei's wife, when she saw her haggard self in the mirror, and wrinkles gradually crept up in the corners of her eyes, she felt irrepressible panic in her heart.
Because people are powerless in the face of aging.
You can only watch it take everything from you, but you can't resist.
That's why the writer Philip Ross said:
"Aging is not a war, it's a slaughter. ”
No matter how hard we try to stay young, we can't stop the traces of time.
This is the law of life, and it is also a fact that we must face.
There is a saying that is quite true:
"No one can be eighteen forever, but there will always be eighteen. ”
Instead of blindly lamenting your old age, it is better to live a little more transparently, keep your own calmness, and appreciate the beauty of others.
Or to try something new, to travel to a favorite place, to live poetically in the moment.
正所谓:
"If the heart is young, the years will not grow old. ”
When you no longer lament aging, but just feel life to the fullest, you can make the twilight years alive again.
I had the things I once dreamed of, and I went to the place I wanted to go most when I was young, but I have long lost the feeling of childhood, so I realized:
If you want to buy osmanthus and carry wine, it is not the same in the end, and you will travel young.
——Song · Liu Guo's Tang Duoling · Luye Manting State》
At the age of 18, you can finally afford the snacks and soda you wanted most when you were younger, but you can no longer eat the taste of your childhood.
At the age of 28, you get a comic that you once loved and you can't get back the urge to read it as a young manga;
At the age of 38, you finally have the ability to see the world, but you have traveled a lot of places, only to find that the scenery is not enough.
At this time, you may deeply realize that the kind of things expressed in the poem are human and wrong.
Because life is like this, many things, once you miss it, you can't go back.
But don't overly lament this, what I want to tell you is that life is not only about the past, but also about the present.
The regrets of the past have taught us that they should not be just sentimental.
"Shangyang Fu" says:
"What is unattainable in youth will be trapped in his life.
But in the end, we will finally solve our lifelong puzzles because of one thing and one thing. ”
So live in the moment, if you have something you want to do, do it immediately;
If you have a place you want to go, go now.
The answer is on the road, freedom is in the wind, and instead of leaving regrets in vain, it is better to cherish the moment.
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Someone asked:
"Why is it that when I read the poems that I didn't feel when I memorized them before, I feel that they hit the soul?"
A sentence from Zhang Chao, a literati in the Qing Dynasty, I think is the best answer:
"A teenager reads like a peek at the moon in a gap;
Middle-aged reading, such as looking at the moon in the court;
Reading for the elderly, such as playing with the moon on stage.
All of them are based on the shallow depth of experience, and the shallow and deep ears obtained. ”
When we were young, we couldn't experience it, we couldn't read the regrets in the poems, and then we experienced a lot of disappointments, and then we finally really understood those poems.
It's a lot of emotion at the moment, but don't be too sentimental about it.
Because our life is still very long, there is a journey of scenery, and a mountain has a mountain of staggeredness.
The scenery that you didn't see at the age of eighteen is nothing to enjoy at the age of thirty;
It is also beautiful to cherish the people who didn't catch up when you were young.
In this fireworks world, everything is regrettable, and everything is worth it.
If you can regret and cherish the present, then all the future experiences will allow you to encounter the most beautiful scenery in your life.
Source: One book per night