After the age of fifty, I have seen a lot of people and things, and sometimes I suddenly understand a lot of problems, the quality of a woman's life does not depend on her husband, but on herself. Don't make these four mistakes, and life won't be difficult. Everyone's tasting.
One, don't overestimate your body.
A woman is weak and a mother is strong, but if she is overconfident in her body, the consequences will be very serious, and she will suffer from human nature.
I know a beautiful woman who is 51 years old, very capable and very strong. When she got married, she didn't have a penny, so she cut money from her diet and lived frugally. She is on shifts, so she opened a snack shop in her spare time, working day and night, running very well, with high income, and then she opened a restaurant when she became bigger, the business was good, the money was there, she was still so picky, she had nasal polyps, in order to save money, in order to run the business, she had been dragging it out, at the age of 47, the syncope caused by nasal polyps, made her a vegetative person, her husband soon took the money she earned, organized a new family, not only divorced her, ignored her life and death, only suffered her own children, the children in order to take care of her, did not finish college。 Her sadness comes from being overconfident in her body.
Second, don't overestimate your abilities.
In this life, it is not good to be unconfident, and it is even worse to be overconfident. Overestimating one's abilities will make one's life even more difficult.
There is a case around me about a beautiful woman who loves her man very much, and raises him as a son, asking for the stars instead of the moon. When the salary was more than 200 yuan, her husband wanted a motorcycle, she went back to her parents' house to borrow money to buy, her husband was chic, she began to repay the debt, and it was easy to pay off the motorcycle debt, her husband began to like cars, this car is not less money, she doesn't buy a man to make trouble, drop things all day long, find fault and fight, she has a thin face, afraid of the neighbor's jokes, so she took out a loan to her husband to buy a car, this loan made her breathless, in order to make money to start a funeral business, when she went to buy goods, because of tiredness, there was a car accident, her husband did not serve her for a day, or suffered the child.
In this life, women should not overestimate their abilities, do not spoil men, put their whole lives into it, and finally suffer a lot, which is meaningless.
Three, don't overestimate your own conditions.
A woman's self-confidence often comes from her own conditions, and if she thinks that the conditions are good, her in-laws will look up to her, and the heart of Our Lady will be overflowing, which is a manifestation of immaturity.
Any relationship in marriage is a game, and the same is true for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you overestimate your own conditions before marriage and pay too much to your mother-in-law's family, you will definitely be a hard-working person.
The women around me who are about 50 years old are too good to their mother-in-law's family before marriage, but they are not good after marriage. Because these people don't understand human nature.
Excessive virgin heart before marriage will only increase the status of your mother-in-law's family, and your mother-in-law will think that you are pleasing and want to marry into their family, and she will not look down on you. Life in marriage is not easy, the more you pay in marriage, the less free you are, the sunk cost is too high, and the more difficult life passes.
Fourth, don't overestimate the value of your appearance.
A woman's beauty is not as beautiful as her life, her beauty when she is young is given by her parents, and her appearance after the age of fifty is carved by life. Overestimating the value of your appearance will make a mess of your life.
I had a colleague before I retired who was so beautiful that women liked her. But her life has not been smooth, and now she is living even worse. has been married three times in her life, and the three times have not gone well, she just overestimates the value of her appearance.
Women should understand a truth, men approach you based on their appearance, but more on their own worth. If you have a face but no wisdom, you are also a miserable person.
After the age of fifty, I suddenly understand life, so I wrote it for everyone to taste, we must teach our children a correct outlook on life, as well as a view of love, marriage is mutual achievement, not unilateral payment and sacrifice. Everyone said that this is not the case.
I am Sister Mi Li, a post-70s generation who loves to share, I like to share, remember to like and support to show encouragement. Thank you!