My hometown is in a small village in Henan, the old house has not been lived in for more than ten years, dilapidated, back to the hometown to build this topic my father mentioned many times, my sister and I disagreed, Qingming went back to my hometown, I suddenly realized that we seemed to be wrong.
My name is Wang Chaoyue, I am 48 years old this year, I work in a unit in the city system, my wife works in a bank, and I am usually very busy at work.
I have an older sister who is 4 years older than me and is retired. My brother-in-law is a university professor who lives in another city 200 kilometers from us.
The house where my father and mother lived in my hometown was left by my grandparents, and they got married in the old house, they were poor at that time, and they had no money to build a new house, so it was very good to get married and have a house to live in.
My sister and I were born in this old house, and our childhood memories are all related to the old house.
When I was a child, when there was a thunderstorm, it was thundering and raining, and the east part of the old house began to leak, so we took the bucket and put it on the ground, hoping that the weather would be clear.
Later, it was repaired several times, but because of the age, it was broken here and there.
Gradually, my sister and I grew up, and our academic performance was not bad, my sister was admitted to a financial college, and I was admitted to a judicial college.
After graduating, my sister worked as an accountant in a state-owned enterprise, while I entered the system.
When I first got married, because my wife's career was on the rise, I was busy, and after my wife became pregnant, my mother was not at ease, worried that she would not eat on time when she was busy, which would affect the children, so she came to us from her hometown 500 kilometers away.
Under the care of her mother, her wife's body was really well adjusted, and she gave birth successfully after 9 months, giving birth to a baby boy who weighed six pounds and eight taels.
The mother was too busy to take care of the children and the confinement wife, so the father also came out of his hometown.
Father and mother helped us run the house and help us take care of the children.
My wife and I are also getting busier and busier, relying on our parents for everything in the house, so they rarely go back to their hometown.
Even if you go back to worship your ancestors once during the Qingming Festival, you will stay in a hotel for a day or rush back on the same day.
The house in my hometown was already old, and for several years there was no one living in it, and it became more and more dilapidated, and in some places it even collapsed, and the yard was overgrown with wild grass.
Perhaps because of his age, in recent years, his father has always proposed: to go back to his hometown to rebuild a house.
My sister and I disagreed at first for two main reasons:
It's because we don't live in our hometown now.
Since I was admitted to university, I went back to my hometown twice during the winter and summer vacations, that is because my parents are there, and I am too busy after work, so I go back to my hometown once a year, and then my parents come to the city, so I basically go back to my hometown once a few years, and the hotel is more convenient if I stay for one night.
We belong to a relatively remote small village, and the houses built in the countryside can only be lived in by you, and have no commercial value.
Simply calculated, the houses built now are built with two or three floors, which look like single-family villas in the city, and my brother-in-law also said: "Either you don't build it, or if you want to build it, you have to build it better." "If you build a three-story building, it will cost at least seven or eight hundred thousand yuan, we are all ordinary office workers, and our children spend a lot of money to go to school and study in the private sector, and it is somewhat unbearable to take hundreds of thousands of yuan to build houses in the countryside.
If you spend so much, it can have investment value, and it is also a family property to leave to the next generation, but self-built houses in rural areas can only be used for one's own living.
When you go back and build a house, someone has to be there for a long time.
We don't live in the village now, I still have to go to work every day, I don't have that much time to star, my father said he went to star, seeing that he was 80 years old, we didn't worry about him being there alone.
So my sister and I couldn't think of a good way to do it for a while.
This year, during the Qingming Festival, my old father was going to worship his ancestors, and I was worried that he would run all the way, so I drove him back to my hometown. I haven't been back for three years.
I parked my car in the open space next to the old house, and my father said to walk around the village with him, so we got down and walked.
As I walked, I saw that the village where I had lived for more than 20 years had completely changed its appearance, and I followed my memory to find that the road had become narrower and less walked, and a wide and long road was opened on the west side of the village, and now I take that road.
Families have built two-storey western-style buildings, and some even have three floors.
As we were walking, we met Uncle Wang, who pulled us to his house to sit down.
As soon as I entered the courtyard, I was fascinated by the sight of the courtyard.
There is a stone path in the middle, which curves to the door, and on the left is a garden, planted with a few moon flowers, hydrangeas, and flowers that cannot be named, and on the right is a fish pond, in which six or seven koi fish are placed, which is very energetic.
On the edge near the door, a pavilion was specially built, in which a tea table was placed, tea sets were placed, and there were a few chairs.
Uncle Wang took us into the hall, the decoration layout of the room was clean and tidy, very spacious, much more spacious and comfortable than the living room in the city.
Uncle Wang said that there is a small courtyard in the back, which has been opened up and cleaned up, which is used to grow melons, fruits and vegetables, self-produced and eaten, which is more assured, fresh and healthy.
Think about it in the city, even if you buy a green onion and a garlic, it costs money.
Uncle Wang's life is exactly what I dreamed of.
But these are just envy me, what really shakes me is my father's words on the ancestral grave.
We said goodbye to Uncle Wang, took the paper money, and walked towards the ancestral tomb.
At this time, when spring returns to the earth, it is the time when wheat grows, walking on the country road, the fragrance of the soil in the face, mixed with the taste of wheat seedlings, fresh and natural.
When he came to the ancestral grave, before his father put down his hand, he poured a few glasses of wine, took out a lighter and lit the paper money.
The father said to the ancestral grave, "Father, mother, my son has come to see you." The son is not filial, and he has only come twice this year. Your grandson is too busy, and I'm too old to come. ”
"But don't worry, my body is still quite strong, and I haven't had any problems. Everything is fine at home, your grandchildren are fine, your grandson is still busy with work, but your granddaughter has retired, you can rest assured over there. ”
"Dad, mother, I'm just worried that I'm getting older and older in the future, I can't walk, I'm far away in the city, I want to come to see you, I'm afraid I won't be able to come, will you blame me then." ”
As he spoke, his father burst into tears.
I suddenly discovered that the bitterness in my father's heart and the worries hidden in my heart could only be said in front of my grandparents' graves.
It turned out that I had never really understood my father's heart.
My father was still talking to my grandparents, and I couldn't hear what my father was saying.
In the end, with tears in his eyes, the father sprinkled the wine in his hand on the ground and said goodbye to his grandparents.
My father looked back at every step he took, and reluctantly said goodbye to his grandparents.
On the way back to the city, I said to my father, "Dad, you said before that you want to build a new house in the village, so let's build it, and I will discuss it with my sister." ”
My father looked at me in surprise, and then wiped the tears from the corners of his eyes.
As a son, I didn't know my father's true heart, but now I suddenly understand.
Parents have worked hard for us all their lives, and it is time to enjoy happiness in old age, I have always thought that filial piety is to let them eat and drink well, but what they want more is inner peace, their hometown has people they care about, their hometown is their roots, and people want to return to their roots when they are old.
As children, in addition to taking care of their bodies, we must also understand their hearts, so that we can truly achieve "filial piety" and "obedience".
I discussed with my sister, if we build two or three floors like other folks, and then decorate it inside and out, it is indeed a big expense, everything costs money in the city, but my brother-in-law means to build a little better, and my parents can live if they want to live in the future, and we will go back more frequently in the future, and we will have a place to stay.
Now I don't know what to do, how do you think a house is suitable for a situation like ours?