There are many elderly people around me who have very high pensions, as high as five figures, which should be considered a rarity in the current society, and it is definitely a minority. What do these lucky old men do?
For example, some professors are rated as full professors and researchers, some are senior engineers and chief physicians, or wear black gauze hats above the department level in the institution, in fact, this kind of person is also in waves.
Many of them were admitted to university in the seventies and eighties, and then came to work in big cities. There are still a lot of public resources here, and there are many opportunities to stand out in big cities.
I now live in Tianjin, and if it were in Beijing, there would be more of these "10,000 yuan" elderly people.
I'll tell you something funny.
A few years ago, my younger brother's son Erhouzi was still in the first and second grades, and one day he suddenly asked his father: "Lao Teng, if you can't go to work one day and retire, can you get a subsistence allowance?"
His father thought for a while and said, "I estimate that the probability of me getting a subsistence allowance is very small." ”
The youngest son's face was gloomy when he heard this, and then he looked at his brother, who quickly adjusted his mentality after hesitating for a while. The brother decided to comfort his father:
"It's okay, Lao Teng, even if you can't get the subsistence allowance, we have two brothers to support you!"
"Well, that's pretty much it. As soon as the monkey father heard this, he hurriedly took advantage of the fact that he was educating the child about paternalism.
He asked his two sons, "If I retire, how much will you give me?"
The eldest son said:
"Well, I'll give you 1/2 of the average local salary, and the remaining 1/2?" he glanced at his younger brother, and the younger brother and the second monkey said in a ghostly manner: "Old Teng, you and I are in charge of food and shelter." deducted. Oh, help me watch the kid again, what money is not money, you just have a little pocket money!
As soon as these words came out, it was said that to his father, the monkey father was so angry that he couldn't wait to pick up the plate and fly away like the faces of his two sons, and the monkey father said angrily with his neck stalked:
"Do you know how much this steak costs for you? You two will eat 1,000 yuan in this meal. ”
He opened his mouth wide and said to his father, "Dad, didn't you say that you don't like steak?
Father Monkey spread this joke to the family group, crying that he could get at most three thousand five from his son after he retired. Everyone laughed when they heard it, and they gave two words:
"Many!"
Compared with the monkey dad who is living in poverty, those old people from 10,000 households can take their pension and go to eat steak with their chests up, then their days must be very beautiful, but not necessarily!
Of course, it is not objective to describe their days as a mess, but it is true that there are many elderly people with 10,000 yuan households whose life in their later years is quite gray.
And for their complaints, others don't like to hear them, so they give three words, I can't think of it!
To tell the truth, I can understand the difficulties encountered by these old people, but not only can't I think about it, but I can't think about it either. For example, I'll give you a few ripe chestnuts!
Take Uncle Zhang as an example.
Uncle Zhang used to be called Zhang Gong. He was a straight old man, able to run and jump, and loved to talk and laugh, which of course was before his son left for the United States.
Uncle Zhang's son is a scholar, and I heard that he is a bully of the best, in the early years, he once represented the school in the national model aircraft competition, went to the University of Science and Technology when he was an undergraduate, and later went to the Chinese Academy of Sciences for graduate school, and then went to the United States, what is his research direction biology.
Indeed, the most cutting-edge technology of organic biology is in the United States, and I originally went there to study for a doctorate, and then I worked as a postdoctoral fellow for three years, and then stayed there. Uncle Zhang and his wife have gone to the United States to visit relatives, and they have been there three times. I stayed there for two months at most.
At first, the uncle was quite excited. Swim in the Great Lakes and go to the West Coast, it's beautiful. I told him that I had always wanted to go to Yellowstone, but I was on a business trip to the United States, so my schedule was not free, not to mention that Yellowstone had to play for a long time!
Within two years later, Uncle Zhang sent me a lot of photos at one time, which he took in Yellowstone Park, oops, just in time for autumn. It's beautiful!
No matter how beautiful it is, although this garden is good, it is not its own home. Life in the United States made Uncle Zhang feel that he couldn't fit in. First of all, the United States is not the same as the United States, the city where he lives is not highly urbanized, it is a small town, and there are only a few people in the neighborhood, in the words of Uncle Zhang, it is actually a strengthened version of Baoding Mansion!
What's more, Uncle Zhang is still facing a problem, that is, his wife is not in good health. Seeing a doctor in the United States is very expensive, people like them who don't have local universal medical insurance, they don't even dare to run to the hospital for a toothache, and their son hasn't made a fortune, and he is also a salaryman, so the old couple packed up and returned to China......
To the country, the big fish into the sea, Uncle Zhang and his wife suddenly feel comfortable, old friends, old classmates, old colleagues, old fellow villagers to string these old back and forth, the rest of the time, the travel of the tourism, the leisure of leisure, but the problem is that with the increase of age, Uncle Zhang's life is more and more lonely.
At this time, the son had decided to settle in the United States, and he got married and had a baby there. Someone said to Uncle Zhang, let your son come back often.
It's actually hard too. It is said that there are many holidays in the United States, but if you want to do something in the United States, you have to work overtime. As a university researcher, like a thesis or a project, his work commitment is still very high.
Uncle Zhang was still chatting with me that day, saying that his son was doing okay, and his interest in academics was still there, so he was going to work hard there, and it was estimated that he would not be suitable when he came back. As for the income, it's not low, it's not high. It's good to have a house and a car in the United States, but it's a small town middle class.
In this way, Zhang's father and son have since been divided into two places, and each has been safe!
Subsequently, Uncle Zhang said to me earnestly: "Lao Meng, if you have a child, don't let him go to the United States as a school bully, otherwise you will never be able to warm up in the second half of this life, and you will always feel like you are wearing one less piece of clothing." ”
I smiled and said to you, "I'm really exalted, I'm not in good health, I don't have children." The person who plays the role of my son today is my brother. This guy is addicted to eating, drinking, and having fun, and he has no real skills, and the United States doesn't want him!"
Some time ago, I saw Uncle Zhang again, the old man was alone, and his wife had been hospitalized for a long time. I asked him how his aunt was, and he said:
It's okay, I go to see her every morning now, and then come back to cook and wash clothes, clean up the house, I live a very regular life, I'm used to it. ”
The brainless person asked Uncle Zhang, why don't you hire a nanny?
The uncle smiled and said nothing, and there was an old man next to him who answered for him, and Lao Zhang pointed to do that little housework to pass the time, why did you invite a nanny? The nanny came, and he stood against the wall!
I found that the old men were very direct and impulsive. Maybe at this age, socializing has become simple and clear, everyone heard this, laughed and dispersed, Uncle Zhang often walked back and forth with these old men in the courtyard. Act as a pro bono security guard.
Things gather in kind, people live in groups,
Most of their small group are intellectuals, and they can more or less make a small name in the unit, and their pensions are not low. People give nicknames, senior old men.
The sentence during the Cultural Revolution slipped away, I don't know if anyone still remembers:
High-end snacks, high-grade sugar, high-end old men go to the thatched house, there is no high-end paper in the thatched house, and the angry old man does not......
In fact, at that time, many intellectuals had very high incomes, or how could they arouse jealousy?
However, in the face of the theory that a high pension is equal to happiness in old age, Uncle Zhang himself does not see it that way.
He said: When you retire, money comes second, and children come first.
Next, the uncle sighed to me. He said:
"No matter what you have achieved before, no matter how brilliant you have been before, the quality of your old age is determined by your children. ”
I sound right to this, although we haven't achieved anything, but I really rely on my children in my old age, or rather, I am very dependent on my younger brother who plays the role of a child. Even if he doesn't welcome anyone anymore, I always hope that he will come to see me.
When people reach their old age, they will always feel cold, not only me, a patient, but also many people, the elderly need more warmth and thoughtfulness, care and love, if the child can bring you such feelings, it is even a big fluffy cotton jacket.
It's a pity that some children somehow just don't like their parents. treats them like eldest sons and daughters all day long, such children are more wronged than anyone else, and they all say that their lives are ruined in the hands of their parents. Otherwise, it would have been out of the picture a long time ago!
Such children are wild historians, and the back of the year table is called a clear, and I admire their brains. One more thing, I have been engaged in antique porcelain appraisal for a period of time, and I should have a ability to do this. For example, as soon as the Chenghua money is taken out, you should know which year it is!
I can't. I can't remember, I can't correspond to it, I can only correspond to the dynasty, my basic skills are not solid, in fact, it's right, I didn't do this in the first place.
But I know a lot of children, they have solid basic skills, of course they are not the identification of what is the Chenghua Doucai Xuande furnace, they are specialized, the parents of the abuse of them identification.
For example, Aunt Wang's eldest daughter. This person can accurately say that she was beaten and scolded by her parents on a certain day, year, month, and day. Just because she did something wrong that shouldn't be called a wrong thing. The mother imposed a heavy fine, which caused her psychological trauma, and the trauma was about the size of a water tank. It was devastating to her life.
In addition, Aunt Wang's daughter is especially good at grabbing seven inches!
The specific operation method is as follows, for example, when the old sun fell westward, she used her mobile phone to send her mother a large piece of small composition, with rich imagination, supported by rigorous historical materials, and outlined her mother's persecution of her mother to her bloody accusation!
Finally, I have to tell her mother that you persecuted me so much, in fact, because of your dark psychology, people like you are called controlling parents, you raised me, just to have a pet that can be completely controlled by you.
Anyway, after reading my daughter's little composition, my mother's heart is like a knife, and she can't sleep all night, thinking about her own sins, gun B is considered lenient treatment, and it should be bombarded!
In fact, everyone understands the reason. This big girl doesn't have any serious work. Three days of fishing, two days of drying nets. works part-time in society, and her mother is responsible for almost all of her expenses.
The seventy-year-old mother, who is still fighting on the front line of saving lives and helping the wounded, really wants to take off her white coat and retreat, but the girl does not allow it! The girl wants her to earn more money, so that she can make up for her own life after earning money, and where does the mother's motivation to make money come from? It comes from the girl's little composition!
This is also a kind of PUA. Let the mother continue to work for her children in line with the idea of making meritorious contributions, alas, such a child is simply a life-seeker!
There used to be an old saying: Kindness does not do deeds!
That is to say, parents' love for their children cannot be seen in superficial behavior, because if you look at superficial behavior, almost all parents are not qualified.
Why do peasant parents let their sons go to the fields to help work at the age of six or seven? Why don't parents of working-class families give their children pocket money? Why do parents who are struggling to make ends meet so angry that their children have broken the bowl at home and twisted a piece of cloth?
If this is a young master, like my brother, who dismantles the TV and camera recorder at home, my dad will still clap his hands and laugh. Say, "Look, my son is interested in mechanics and has grown up to be an engineer!"
But can you say that those workers and peasants, those parents who are living in poverty, do not love their children? I think it is a shame to accuse parents in this way!
In fact, often this kind of child does not mix well in society. They are looking for scapegoats for their failures. When I was young, I saw a lot of filial sons in the agency, and the scene of filial piety was really moving!
At that time, there was a colleague in our unit, I called him Lao Cao, and Lao Cao's father came to Beijing and lived in his house. Father Cao is a rural person, and he is not used to using the flush toilet in the capital. So, Lao Cao got up every morning and took his father on a bicycle to the public toilet a kilometer away. Then, bring Daddy back.
Lao Cao was mixed up at that time. He has just returned to Beijing after being released from a foreign office, and he will be sent to the United States as a visiting scholar the next year. But in the face of the peasant father who didn't know a basket of words, he stood respectfully at the door of the public toilet and waited!
Every time my father is involved, Lao Cao has always said that my father is a stick and raises our brothers, he is not easy!
Once when I went to his house for dinner, I asked Lao Cao in front of his father, "Did your father beat you in the first place?"
Lao Cao jumped up when he heard this: "What's the matter! My old man took a cigarette pot and knocked me on the brain." I'm not tall, and he knocked it on the skull. When he said this, Lao Cao's face was full of sunshine. Daddy Cao on the side, holding a cigarette pouch and smiling, replied: "Yao Catch, Yao Catch!"
Compare the two and the next, between the clouds and mud.
Think of the hard-working Aunt Wang, who worked hard during the day and went home at night to be criticized. In the old age of this intellectual, the whole dream returned to the Cultural Revolution!
I'm not afraid that the child won't be angry, I'm afraid that the child will be angry!
Many of our young people, even middle-aged people, really lack gratitude, and they have very, very high requirements for their parents. So much so that he was able to output: "I will use it for the rest of my life, and I will not be able to get rid of your scourge on me." "That's the case.
But what is the basis of the theory of the child who said this?
It's because his parents were reluctant to buy him a pair of designer sneakers when he was in junior high school, and although he already had three pairs, he thought that tennis shoes, jogging shoes and basketball shoes were different...
Because the food he brought him during the spring outing was not good......
Alas, forget it, sometimes when I mention this, my head hurts, but there are not only those aggrieved and sad old people in this world, in fact, the old people who are filial to their children and are sunny and happy still account for the majority.
The biggest regret in my life is that I didn't serve the elderly. My parents left early, and the one who was able to make up for my regret was my nanny.
By the time I was in college, my nanny had already started to enjoy it. In the early 80s, my father gave my mother a sum of money to repair the homestead in her hometown.
After the completion, the mother sent us a few photos, I didn't see clearly, when I went back to the countryside of Hebei to see her in my freshman year, I entered the village and drove around, and when I found the gate of her house, I was very open!
It was two black gates, and when they were opened, there was a large and wide courtyard. The road is paved with bluestone slabs on the ground, and on both sides, all kinds of melons and vegetables are planted on one side, and honeysuckle is planted on the other side.
Niangniang always thought about me, she dried the honeysuckle, sent it to Beijing, let me boil water to drink, she said that when I was young, I always had a sore throat, just take this thing to boil water.
Entered the courtyard, stride forward, a very spacious three large tile houses, with two ear rooms, it appears in front of you, the foundation of this tile house is quite high, I remember that you have to go up three steps, go inside, it is also bright.
The four white floors are heated, and the furniture is exquisitely placed in the house. The one on the right hand side of the door is a bedroom. Half-spread kang, well placed there. Climb to the kang and lean on the quilt and look at the flowers and plants in the yard, oops, it's very pleasant.
In the winter, the kang is warmed, and in the summer, the mother puts the Simmons mattress directly on the kang, and I estimate that most of the use of this mat is to show off.
In this way, the kang was divided into two parts, one part was higher, Simmons was laying a cowhide mat on the mat, the old lady slept very comfortably with it at night, and the lower part was used for the activity area, where she and several other old women often fought cards.
There is an ear room with a bedroom next to it, which serves as a small toilet. At that time, their family made a flushing design, which is said to be very troublesome, but it is convenient to live, just like the people in the city, and at that time their family had to receive sightseeing groups every once in a while. There are many villagers who came from dozens of miles away to see his house, saying that they want to go back and do it!
Niangniang's life was very comfortable as soon as she entered the 80s, when her grandson vigorously went to join the army, learned the craft in the army, learned to drive and repair cars, and set up a car repair shop in the town after returning. Good income.
Dali's daughter-in-law said very early, she is a handsome little girl, two years older than Dali. By the way, my mother advocates early marriage and early childbearing, and she said that she is anxious to meet the fourth generation.
A handsome little daughter-in-law. It is said that the mother's family is very poor, after arriving at the mother-in-law's house, looking at the living standard of the meat, the little daughter-in-law is happy in her heart, but I have to say that after all, it is the eighties and nineties of the last century, the village still has some feudal thoughts, it is said that the granddaughter-in-law will sometimes be squeezed by the mother to say a few words, and the redness of the eye circles is also there, but in the words of the mother, when I give her two more good snacks, she will be happy. Those are all good snacks that I lifted!"
My mother loves to eat dim sum in her life, and I think many old people have this hobby. Niangniang is not at a loss in this regard. Sitting in the countryside of Hebei countryside, life. But the mother's hand can be stretched very long!
I often ask someone to bring her snacks twice a month. From Dashun Zhai in Daoxiang Village in Beijing, to Blue Can Cookies in Hong Kong, and Scones in Shanghai Red House. I collected all the snacks from all over the country for her, all kinds of dishes, dazzling, and after the mother received these snacks, they were also put in a lying cabinet, in a small cabinet next to her big kang, our hometown called this Taiwan!
The granddaughter-in-law sometimes pouted and pulled her face, and the mother conjured two pieces of dim sum from the cabinet and stuffed them into her hands, just like that, the young lady broke into tears and laughed, think about the original mother, when she was a girl in my grandfather's house, it is estimated that it is also like this!
Niangniang beat her waist hard in the village. Yes, our hometown has a high social status, which is called waist beating. The reason for this? It's because she's very good at giving herself a good price. There are six large picture frames hanging in her hall. It's full of big and small photos. Niangniang turned her hall into a historical museum, and she came to be a docent.
The theme of the exhibition at this family history museum is called: My Glorious History.
Through detailed pictures and historical materials, Niangniang told her tortuous experience of being sold in the old society because of escaping famine, and later being bought by Mr. Kanqing on Zhuangzi and sent to Beiping Mansion as a little girl. This is a legendary counterattack life. Niangniang believes that it should be recorded in history forever.
I remember that the mother was holding a tickle in her hand at that time, and she was wearing a straight tweed material, the kind of lapel lady Lenin suit. God knows why she likes this style, it doesn't look like a country woman at all. But as long as she likes it, I still take her to make inches and do several bodies.
The bare mother with her hair comb is there to explain to the visitor:
This is the house I was in before, you see that there are masters, wives, and grandmothers in our house...... My mother hung all the pictures of our family on the wall of her house, including mine.
From the eve of the Anti-Japanese War to the reform and opening up, I feel that I can go to her to find my life!
The old ladies on the wall, some of them went to Hong Kong, some went to Taiwan, and some even went to the United States......
You think it's all you need to have international friends. Cut, where is this?
There are also some four-pocket cadres in this museum, such as my mother, my father, and my stepmother, all of whom have been recorded in history later.
Niangniang took the trouble to tell the guests what the relationship between these people and her was, which made the listener feel like a cloud, but it didn't matter, many people liked the photos at that time, and I have to say here that Kodak's film is really good, and it will not fade for a long time. The year before I wore the mask, I went back to my hometown to see my mother's grandson, Dali, and took a look at the door. Oops, the photos of the eighties and nineties are still quite bright now.
The historical retrospective exhibition held by the mother, so far, has not been dismantled!
Of course, after entering the 90s, new people were added to the exhibition wall, and my boyfriend and I also topped the list. In this way, there is a great gathering of ancient and modern Chinese and foreign countries. The two sides of the strait gathered.
Here, you can see the fashionable young people in the old Tianjin Concession, you can also see the old ladies who became overseas Chinese in the 80s, and even the air force officers in military uniforms like Comrade Chen Da. Oops, looking at this exhibition I organized, my mother laughs every day!
In fact, my mother's fate is quite bumpy. Oh no. It should be said that the fate of their generation was bumpy, and her parents died early in the old society, and her family fled the famine to Hebei to join her relatives, but her relatives did not vote.
So she was sold. Niangniang was still young at that time, so she worked as an errand in the house steadily, and for some reason, that period of life in the house was always mentioned by her repeatedly, with a look of contentment and intoxication.
Thinking about it now, this may be equivalent to passing the school recruitment at the moment and being admitted to a very good big factory. The treatment is good, the food and shelter are managed, and the mother often proudly says to people that at that time, how good the food and clothes in the house are, everything is good anyway, not to mention that she also made very good little girlfriends there.
Of course, girls, there is also a small group, for example, she is good with a girl named Yu'er, but it is not good with Xiaohong Xiaoyu, and she can't come.
is such a happy collective life, which makes her very resistant to marriage, because if she gets married, the girl will have to go to the house, and the adult maid in the house will have a limited number of places to call the little mother at that time, so the mother has been reluctant to get married, until the end of the liberation, most of the real estate in this house has been donated, and she returned to the countryside of Hebei with a farmer.
The rest of the days were bitter. In the 60s, there was a lack of food and clothing. At that time, the Cultural Revolution had not yet begun.
My father said that when my mother was in the 60s, she had been to Beijing twice, mainly to ask for help, and it was estimated that the life in her hometown was too difficult, and my father gave her a big bag of compressed biscuits, as well as some national food stamps. I don't know if I can help her through the famine.
It was also in those difficult days that Niangniang lost her husband and eldest son in two years. The house suddenly collapsed.
In the mother's life, there are also hunger, cold, and sorrow, as well as frustration, crying and wailing.
The blow of fate requires her, a widow, to grit her teeth and go to the top. But fortunately, there is still a rush in the days, and the mother still has a grandson, vigorously. The old lady guarded her grandson like this. She also raised me, the daughter of the former eldest lady of the mansion, during the Cultural Revolution. She supported me for seven years, and after the Cultural Revolution ended, my father came back to take me back to Beijing.
You said that this spring of grace, why don't we have to carry a bucket to repay it!
Luckily, everything was in time.
Niangniang's big tiled house was built at my family's expense, and every month my father gave Niangniang a filial piety money, of course, in my name. What makes me particularly pleased is that my mother has a happy old age.
Since the age of 60, she has stopped doing any housework, that is, doing some housework.
She was the first person in our village to go on a tour, to Shanghai, Hangzhou and Nanjing, and she was also the first old lady in our village to wear a watch, and she was the first person in our village to see a color TV, a refrigerator, and a washing machine, but she said that her granddaughter-in-law washed cleaner. Small clothes are still washed by grandchildren and daughters-in-law. Large-scale reuse machines.
Niangniang lives a decent and magnificent life in the village, which can be described as content.
After I worked, I once wanted to take my mother to Beijing to be raised, but she politely refused. She said: "I am very good in the countryside, and how comfortable life is in the countryside. If you go to Beijing, I'll hold you too much. Nor is there a light burden on you. Hua, you can come to the village to stay, and rest for a few days, just to see me.
What's in the show. It's just occasional. She always wanted me to see her, but that was a real flaw. Because I don't go to see her much, that is, I go once in the summer, she celebrates her birthday in the summer, and then before the Spring Festival, I go on a trip in the wax moon to send some New Year's goods. Other times, it's really inseparable.
The first time I took my object, Comrade Chen, back to his hometown. The mother pulled him to look left and right, her face full of joy. She looked at the big one very pleasing to the eye, and said vigorously:
"Oh, what a neat boy. ”
is a big and good revolutionary family, so he can describe it as Rongning's second mansion. This is a bit backward to say, and it makes the big guy blush!
However, this "son" did not have any arrogance in front of the mother, but behaved quite positively.
On the first night of arriving at his hometown, the big one moved the big iron pot on the stove, and took it to the bottom of the water pipe next to it, saying that it was to be scrubbed and washed. caused a group of big daughters and daughters-in-law to laugh:
"That big iron pot isn't like that!"
In summer and autumn, the big man is shirtless and collects beans with everyone, builds a pigsty, and repairs a chicken coop. He works hard.
On the contrary, my little daughter-in-law felt sorry for him behind his back, afraid that he would suffer a shoulder injury.
Looking at the stupid big man who was working hard in the courtyard, I sat on the kang in the room with my mother and muttered, "Old lady, how about the grandson-in-law I found for you?" Good. Even if it is in the village, we can find such a solid offspring, we are content!"
Speaking of this, Niangniang smiled proudly, Niangniang smiled beautifully, thin cheeks, pointed mouth, and narrowed her eyes beautifully, like a fox who ate a chicken.
But the fly in the ointment is that Niangniang did not think of a long life, and when she was about to touch the edge of 65 years old, she suddenly got a vicious disease, and she had no symptoms before, and it was too late to find out. Three months later, Niangniang lay on the warm kang and died in a not too painful coma.
Her funeral was very grand, a large wreath was placed, and the yard couldn't be put down, also because of my face, whether it was in the commune, the county or even the city!
The cars of large and small leaders blocked the entrance to the village. Looking at the banquet spread out on a large slope, I don't know why there is always a vicious energy in my heart. I wasn't willing for her to leave so early.
Seven days later, my godgranddaughter, who was holding the portrait, accompanied the grandson of the mother, under the escort of the solid officer, took his wife and children, wore linen and filial piety, and ceremoniously sent the old man up the mountain.
In our hometown, the most important step of the funeral is called: going up the mountain.
Amid the crackling sound of firecrackers, the officer was born in front of her grave and kicked in a circle. Then he solemnly gave her a military salute! After the salute, Mr. Dabai shouted: "Return to the soil"!
Sun Tzu's first shovel of earth was scattered. Behind him knelt down a piece of filial piety and virtuous grandson!
Raised before death, honored and mourned after birth.
The legendary life of an old lady in the countryside has come to a successful end!
I hope that all the old people in the world can have such a good old age.
