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Many times, life is like an unknown journey. In this world, countless stories are playing out every minute. Some are warm and touching, and some are cruel and cold-blooded. But in any case, those things that happen around us can always bring us more or less touch and reflection.
The other day, a video caused an uproar online. In the video, an old man slapped his grandson several times in front of everyone in a restaurant. And the heartbreaking thing is that the little boy neither dodged nor cried, but just silently lowered his head, looking like he was used to it.
Seeing this scene, as a mother, my heart is about to break. Think about it, how many times does a child have to experience such violence before he becomes so numb, and how deep should the wound be in his heart?
Later investigation found that the boy was a picky eater during eating, and his grandfather asked him to finish the meal, but he did not comply, which led to a beating. It's ridiculous that some people even say that today's children are spoiled, what's wrong with being beaten a few times, and they will have to be grateful to their grandfather in the future.
I was really shocked to hear such remarks. Which child is born sensible and obedient? They are just a blank sheet of paper that needs to be patiently taught and led. But if we use violence at every turn, and let fear envelop their hearts, then what do we expect to gain?
In my opinion, this is not education at all, but a disguised form of domestic violence. What it brings is the loss of children's self-esteem, the distortion of the mind, and the breeding of violent tendencies.
I once saw a case of a mother who had been subjected to domestic violence for many years, and her child grew up to be a domestic abuser. When asked why, he said, "This is what I saw since I was a child, and I thought this is what married life should be."
It can be seen from this how much damage the failure of family education can cause to a person. Not only does it ruin a person's childhood, but it can also ruin their entire life. What a sorrow!
As bystanders, we all feel angry and upset. But what can we do when it's happening around us? I think at least we have to speak out and condemn and stop this kind of violence. At the same time, we also call on all sectors of society to pay more attention, improve relevant laws, and strengthen the protection of child victims.
In this case, it was reassuring to know that there were well-wishers who were willing to lend a helping hand to help the poor child. But at the same time, it is worrying that the parents of the children do not seem to be aware of the situation and do not show a positive attitude. This makes people wonder, what kind of family education will cause children to suffer such harm, and what role do parents play in this?
I remember a few years ago, a friend once asked me, "What do you say is wrong with this society, why is there news of child abuse everywhere?" I replied at the time, maybe it is not that society has become bad, but that it has been exposed more. In fact, many tragedies have always existed, but we just turn a blind eye and do not hear them.
Now, now that we have a voice, and now that we have attention, we have the responsibility and obligation to make some changes. For example, strengthen publicity and education on anti-domestic violence and raise parents' awareness of parenting; For example, improve the social welfare system to provide more shelter for child victims; Another example is to increase the intensity of judicial punishment and make the perpetrator pay the due price.
Of course, the most important thing is that each of us must start from ourselves and the small things around us. We need to learn to respect our children and treat them as equals, rather than treating them as our own. We need to learn to listen to our children's voices and understand their emotions, instead of blindly forcing and suppressing them. We need to water with love, not with violence.
That's what a civilized society should look like, isn't it?
When I was a child, I was beaten by my father, although he always regretted it afterwards. That fear and grievance still make me unable to let go. So, I vow that I must be a different parent, and I will give my children a loving childhood.
In the comment area, I saw a sentence that I thought made a lot of sense. The man said that beating and scolding children to the point that they don't like to cry is the most cruel education. I think this is not only cruelty to the child, but also cruelty to the abuser himself. Because, when love and hurt are out of balance, the child is never the only one who is hurt.
Finally, let's pray together for all the children in the world. May they all grow up healthy and happy, never having to face the haze of violence. I also hope that all parents can realize that the child is not your appendage, but an independent living individual. Your words and deeds will have a profound impact on his life.
So, when you raise your hand again, think about it, is this slap going to hit the child in the face or to hit him in the heart? Is it to make him remember your teachings, or is it to make him remember your violence?
Believing in love, not fear, is the essence of education. Let's start from now on, warm the hearts of every child with love, and let a better tomorrow start from our hands.