In the past, I had to interact with all kinds of people because of my work, and to be honest, it was a great challenge for me, who was not good at expressing myself or socializing.
Even every day, a large part of the self-consumption time will be consumed, and I will feel that I have not done this well, and that I have not done it right. Most of the time, I am in a state of self-doubt.
So during that time, my emotional state was not very good, including the matter of changing the text, and I didn't stick to it very well.
In the past, I always felt that there must be a road before the car reached the mountain, and if I encountered a problem, I could use it to solve it over time.
But in fact, it is not, the word "Buddhism" not only does not solve the problem, but also drags the problem into a serious matter.
Problems will not disappear automatically with our ignorance, on the contrary, it will teach us in another way what it means to understand what it means to "difficulties are like springs, if you are weak, they will be strong".
Just like the recent "school bullying" incident that has been dominating the screen, it is actually the same reason, but the phenomenon is different.
Whether it's a person or an event, a lot of the reason why it develops next depends on how you approach it in the first place.
If we can have a resolute attitude to face it from the beginning, the other party will establish a cognition: this person is not easy to mess with, and the cost of provoking him is too great to be worth it!
Therefore, in the process of getting along with our children, we must know how to teach our children one thing: manage other people's expectations and let others know that "I am not easy to mess with".
In the same way, we deal with things at work and in life.
We need to be clear about our bottom line from the beginning, and we don't have to agree to any unreasonable demands. Because once we say yes the first time, there will be a second, a third, and then it will make the other person think that we should be like this. Whenever something is not carried out as he intended, he will be blamed.
It's like when I first started working, I would take care of everything when someone else said anything. The result can be imagined, a person, without three heads and six arms, cannot do everything.
Therefore, when starting a thing, you must think about what your role is, think about things clearly, and then when you do it, you will be organized, so as to get twice the result with half the effort.
Because I figured it out, internal friction has no meaning for us, so I decided to use the time of internal friction to do something more meaningful and valuable.
When I feel like I'm ready to fall into the trap of internal friction, I need to get up and exercise, talk to someone who understands me, write an article or something...... In short, the principle is: get out of the environment that causes me internal friction until I regain energy.
Exercising, drinking coffee, writing articles, these things will give me energy support as soon as possible.
This morning, when I was carrying out my work, I met a colleague with a straight face, who usually doesn't do anything, but today he said in front of us that he was very busy.
It's a shame that she can say it!
It is inevitable that we will meet a lot of self-righteous people in life, and the pride and meanness in their bones will always hurt us at some point.
If the hurt can't be avoided, then try to shorten the time of being hurt, after all, as long as we don't agree, they can't control our mood.
This is a truth that everyone understands, but it is not easy to put it into practice.
The important thing in life is to figure things out. Think things through first, and you will naturally know what you should do so that there will be no problems and no regrets.
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