Text: Yuan Yunlu
Why do so many people lie flat and rot? Because of low energy.
There is a man in his thirties who has not gone out to work for more than ten years after graduating from college, because he is afraid of being looked down upon by others and afraid that people will look down on him.
He always felt that others were laughing at him, that there were people around him staring at him, and that someone was saying bad things about him behind his back.
If the body has no energy, it is like a basketball without confidence, and the atmospheric pressure will flatten it.
In the face of the real society, people will be weak-minded, timid and inferior. In order to protect oneself and not be crushed by the environment, people will be sensitive and suspicious, and they will be strong to deal with the outside. Therefore, people's self-esteem is particularly strong, and they often attack others who look down on him.
In fact, he just has no energy or ability, lacks strength and confidence. But all people with psychological problems are unable to withstand the pressure of reality and unable to accept and adapt to the real environment because of low energy.
On the contrary, a person with strong energy can calm down, not afraid of external pressure or stimulation, and always remain calm and calm, not impetuous.
I didn't dare to go out to work because of the cold weather, and I didn't dare to go out to work because I was afraid of the heat. Their perception is that they want to wait for me to have energy and strength, when I am not afraid, I will go out to face it, when I can adapt to the external environment, when I have found my feelings, I will go out again......
As a result, it was many years to wait. Day after day, year after year, day after day. The energy of the body and mind is getting lower and lower until it is depleted.
Let the years go by, and in the end nothing can be done, so you can only look up to the sky and sigh.
Cao Dewang said that he used to like and benefit the most famous saying: respect is better than slackness, righteousness is better than desire. Know the male, guard the female.
It means that a person must overcome laziness and slackness with reverence, overcome selfish desires by adhering to morality, and keep a low profile and maintain tenderness while knowing his strength.
In other words, be respectful, diligent, and prudent in everything you do, and never be sloppy. The pursuit of fame, fortune and desire is a deep-rooted nature of people. But do things with your own moral bottom line, and have a compassionate heart for others, rather than just acting on the basis of desire. In addition, it is necessary to be strong and capable, but at the same time to adopt a weak attitude.
In reality, people who lie flat or have psychological problems have the following two commonalities:
One is to think that he is a genius, and that his bad luck and misfortune are caused by others or objective reasons. Therefore, he hates his original family, hates the people around him, hates his own body for not being strong, hates that he does not meet talents, hates the injustice of God, hates fate is not good, but he just does not hate and does not blame himself for having problems with his thoughts and way of thinking.
This kind of person seems to be highly intelligent, but he is smart and mistaken by his cleverness, and he calculates himself.
In the final analysis, its failure is due to a lack of foresight and human wisdom.
Second, they are ambitious, pursue shortcuts, always want to reach the sky in one step, and lack perseverance. Three words: the heart is too picky!
Let's talk about this young man, let's call him Xiao Qi.
After graduating from junior college, Xiaoqi found that his major did not meet the market demand and could not find a corresponding job. And his cousin majored in finance after graduation, not only did he earn more than him a month, but he also had an air conditioner to blow, and he sat decently in the office.
So he often thought in his heart: Why did I apply for this major in the first place? Blame my father for not knowing anything, which caused me to blindly apply for my major, so I can't find a job now.
What made him angry was that his family still said that "I" couldn't do it.
When Xiao Qi's job was not stable, his family urged him to get married, and he shirked it several times. But after meeting with the other party, he felt that the other party was okay, so he gave a bride price. After getting engaged, the two young people went to Guangdong together.
Unexpectedly, the environment there was completely different from what he had imagined before. The woman got a high salary through her connections and experience, but Xiao Qi ran into walls everywhere, and finally found a basic salary with a monthly salary of only more than 2,000.
Due to the large gap with the woman, he became more and more inferior. I feel that I can't get along in Guangdong anymore. The boss saw that he was depressed and impulsive, so he fired him.
And in a physical examination, Xiao Qi was diagnosed with depression by the doctor. He didn't dare to tell the woman that after two years of marriage, the woman found out that he had depression.
The woman used this as an excuse to divorce him. Xiao Qi takes those mental drugs every day, which causes his whole life rhythm to be disordered. In addition, all kinds of painful experiences in the past made him disgusted with everything around him, and he didn't like anyone.
When he went out to look for a job again and again with excited steps, he dragged his heavy steps again and again and returned defeated. Xiao Qi said that he hated bad luck and said that society was unfair......
Xiao Qi said that people don't want him for jobs that earn a lot of money, but he is not willing to do hard work that earns little money.
We gave Xiao Qi the countermeasures: I am born to be useful, and I am not afraid of no firewood in the green mountains.
The ideal can be higher than the sky, but the goal must be divided, made bigger and smaller.
Down-to-earth, start from the bottom, step by step.
Even if the speed of progress is as slow as a snail, as long as you persevere, the iron rod can be sharpened into a needle. No matter how slow you are, you can eventually climb to the top of the pyramid.
You can't be too greedy and too picky. Find the right direction, even if you work hard and tired, you must persevere. There are no people who are tired to death in the world, but people who are starving to death or freezing to death.
God has the virtue of a good life, and I believe that the emperor lives up to his wishes.
Favorite Lao Tzu's famous saying: Late bloomer.
Teenagers have gone through hardships, first bitter and then sweet, twists and turns, which is the most wonderful choice in life.