The ancients said:
"Marrying a man looks at the shoulders, marrying a wife looks at the hands. ”
This unique skill of recognizing people is the standard of mate selection of the ancients and the summary of the life experience of the ancestors.
Marrying a man depends on his shoulders, which means to see whether the man is responsible and whether he can make his family live a stable and steady life.
Marrying a wife is to judge whether a woman can afford the responsibility of the family through action.
Some people may say, are the ancient criteria for choosing a mate still useful today?
The answer is yes.
This sentence tells us that the most important thing in marriage is to consider the ability and character of the other party.
If you want a stable marriage, you can't ignore this old saying.
Marry a man first look at the shoulder, look at the shoulder to see the responsibility
Zhang Xuefeng, who has a hot search physique, has a famous saying:
"At the age of 35, let your wife realize that she has a good husband;
When you're 45 years old, let your child realize that he has a good dad. ”
A man is expensive and responsible, and a good husband can't be a good husband, and he can't be a good father.
Zhao Gui is a man who has no responsibility for his family.
His wife, Meng Hui, had polio when she was a child and had a leg disease.
When marrying him, the woman's family gave her a house as a dowry.
However, he is not reliable at all.
The mother-in-law didn't want to see Meng Hui, but he turned a blind eye and selectively ignored it, not even a word of comfort.
His wife opened a supermarket and shouldered the responsibility of supporting the family with her weak body.
In the name of enrolling in classes to learn calligraphy and learning fitness, he eats, drinks and has fun with his friends who drink and meat, plays cards and sings, and mingles in various entertainment venues.
After her daughter was admitted to college, she always changed her way to ask her wife for money.
As soon as the money arrived, it was squandered before it was warm.
In Zhao Gui's eyes, "family concept" is an unfamiliar word.
I don't have a life plan for myself.
I originally had a stable job, but I didn't have enough ability but I didn't like it and quit it.
After resigning, he let himself grow savagely and lived an early retirement life.
I don't love my wife.
Although his wife suffers from a leg disease, she asks her to serve him like a maid.
It's just that she doesn't do housework, and what's more, her wife punches and kicks her when she is pregnant.
Ignore her daughter.
The life and growth of her daughter are completely ignored.
The daughter said that she had never seen her father's smiling face, whether she drank or not.
One person is free, regardless of the whole family, this is a portrayal of his life.
In the end, his wife broke up with him and found a responsible husband.
A man who is not responsible is a grass, and a man who is responsible is a treasure.
A man who is responsible, dares to do good things, takes the initiative to take responsibility when there is a problem, and shelters his family from the wind and rain.
In a good marriage, a man will do everything he can to make his family live a happy life.
A woman marrying a responsible man is a blessing in her life.
When marrying a wife, look at the hands first, and look at the hands to see the actions
A rural woman, ordinary and simple, has no heroic words of love, but she composes a song of great love with her actions.
Luo Shujuan and her husband Wang Jiyong have two sons.
The husband and wife are affectionate, and the son is sensible.
The whole family had a good time and enjoyed themselves.
And this happiness was disrupted by a flying disaster.
Wang Jiyong was in a car accident, unconscious, and became a vegetative person.
She felt like the sky was falling in an instant.
Countless nights awakened by dreams:
Will the husband wake up?
When can I wake up?
At the time of her 30s, after experiencing a short period of pain, she did not choose to abandon or sink negatively, but put love into action.
However, it is difficult to take care of her elderly mother-in-law, her two children, and her husband, can she afford it?
I get up before dawn every day to feed the pigs, farm the fields, and cook for the family.
rushed to the hospital to accompany her husband, gave Wang Jiyong a massage every hour, and turned over once.
Every day, I can't move and insist on chatting with my husband at home.
All of this is like a set up program, every day.
Finally, a miracle happened.
The husband, who had been in a coma for more than 90 days, woke up, and even the doctor was amazed.
Although he woke up, he was left with sequelae, which is a second-degree physical disability.
She has used 30 years of action to protect her love for her in-laws and son, and tell her responsibility to her husband.
In the fourth quarter of 2023, she was rated as "Filial Piety and Love for Relatives, Good Person in Hengyang".
With a pair of slender hands, she held up a piece of the sky.
Women, it's not about what you say, it's about what you do.
Because doing is always more practical than talking.
A woman's skin is not about whether she is beautiful, the key is whether her conduct is praised.
Because, the beautiful face is easy to pass away, but the virtue of memory will become more and more evident with time.
A woman's hand is not only a part of the body, but also a barometer of life attitude and way of life.
Whether a woman is worthy of love or not, just look at her hands and look at her actions.
It is not allowed to know people, and it is difficult to ask for hardship
In the previous paragraph, a piece of news caused public outrage.
A Dutch man, uneducated, idle, living a difficult life, has a very difficult life.
He is a typical gnawing old man who once needed to rely on others for help to survive.
After his father died, he made a living by speculating in virtual currency.
However, after arriving in China, he became a wealthy "businessman".
Why?
It turned out that he relied on the "master of the love field" to get rich.
Using social media, I successfully accosted more than 7,000 girls.
In the process of accosting, take pictures of the woman.
Photography became one of his secret weapons.
I made a lot of money by taking pictures and dating.
Some cheat money, some cheat sex.
Among them, there are many people who are in love with him, and there are even girls who have a direct relationship with him.
Incredibly, some women knew about his ugly face, but they couldn't help his soft grinding and hard bubbles, and had to break off the connection with him with the threat of public videos.
He is very good at the women he is dating.
Threatens to publish indecent videos if they are attacked, abused, or reported.
This killer feature is really powerful, and he protects himself unscathed.
What's worse is that after returning to China, he made a lot of publicity, and distributed chat records and videos to show off his "victory results".
I believe that people who see this news will hate this foreign man to the core.
While we hate him for having no bottom line, we are also deeply sympathetic to the woman who has suffered from him.
These deceived women not only make people mourn their misfortunes, but also make people angry.
On the surface, this man is too scummy.
But if you think about it carefully, if it weren't for the fact that these women didn't know people accurately, how could they ask for their own hardships.
Some people say:
The biggest disaster for women is that they can't recognize people accurately.
Yes, once you step on the wrong track, you will regret it for life;
Once you love the wrong person, you will be scarred.
After all, life is a one-way street that cannot be turned back, and time is a river that cannot be turned back.
It's easy to fall in love, but it's hardest to find true love.
Love is not child's play, and you need to be cautious when you know people.
The world is complicated, and learning to distinguish between good and evil is the best shield for self-preservation.
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Marriage is a major event in life, and you must not be sloppy, you must be cautious.
If the person holding hands is right, it is the happiness of a lifetime;
The wrong choice of the person holding hands is a lifetime of pain.
If you go the right way, you will always be warm-hearted, and if you go wrong on the wrong road, you will always be cold.
Good feelings will stay together for a lifetime, and bad feelings will regret not being at the beginning.
I hope that all people can learn the ancestors' skills of "marrying a man to see the shoulder, marrying a wife to see the hand", widen their eyes, find their beloved, and spend their lives together.
Author | Ziqiao Huang He Shui Qing, senior accountant. Turn words into lights and accompany you forward.
Picture | Submitted by Ziqiao photography enthusiasts