In order to give their children a better environment for growth, many young mothers give up their jobs after giving birth to their children, become full-time mothers, and take care of their children wholeheartedly.
Of course, this choice may not be the wish of these young mothers, many of them are forced to helplessly, their parents and in-laws cannot help take care of the baby, and they are not worried about outsiders taking care of their children, so they can only give up their jobs, return to the family, and become full-time mothers.
For stay-at-home mothers, whether it is in real life or on the Internet, there have been endless debates and mixed reviews.
Recently, a video of a stay-at-home mother crying on the Internet has attracted controversy among many netizens.
Ms. Xu is a stay-at-home mother born in the 90s, married for less than two years, and her child is only 1 year old.
In order to provide a better environment for her children to grow up, Ms. Xu quit her original job and concentrated on taking care of her children at home, but she had no income.
Then, all the pressure of the family's expenses is put on the husband.
But just last year, Ms. Xu spent 26 yuan a year, but her husband only gave 90,000 yuan for living expenses. This caused Ms. Xu's dissatisfaction.
She had a conversation with her husband about the cost of living.
During the communication, Ms. Xu's mood was very stable and she didn't say a word of stimulation, unlike some women who would use words to stimulate their husbands when they talked about this, which eventually led to a communication turning into an inextricable quarrel, and even made a fuss and scolded.
Ms. Xu did not have such verbal stimulation at all, but said her demands very steadily, that is, her husband should give him a fixed living allowance of 20,000 yuan per month.
Her husband did not agree with Ms. Xu's appeal.
He feels that the annual living expenses of 90,000 yuan are enough to ensure the normal life of the family, and there is no need to spend so much, and he thinks that life can be tighter, and the standard can be lowered. But saving money is a must, because saving money can guarantee future emergencies and ensure that you will not be caught off guard if there are accidents in the future.
In this regard, Ms. Xu can't accept it, she feels that making money is to live a better life, as for saving money, it is not necessary, so 20,000 living expenses are necessary, as for the standard of living, it is impossible to lower a little, after all, all this is also for the children.
In the face of different concepts of life, especially when it comes to money, many people will quarrel, but Ms. Xu and her husband did not quarrel, but such calm communication is the most efficient.
In the end, the husband also thought that what Ms. Xu said was not unreasonable, so he agreed to Ms. Xu's request, promising to give his wife 20,000 yuan a month and ensure that the children had a good enough living conditions.
In fact, in real life, it is not easy for many full-time mothers, not only to be responsible for taking care of the children and taking care of the family, but also to suffer from the husband's incomprehension, and even because there is no income to reach out to the husband to ask for money, but also to suffer from the husband's cold words, saying, you are not just sitting at home, just watching the children, cooking, cleaning, what is so difficult about this? What is tired? How can I be tired and tired of making money outside to support the family, and I have to endure your daily complaints when I go home.
In fact, stay-at-home motherhood is really not as easy as men think, and it is not so simple, especially taking care of children, it is really a headache, and it can even be said to be a painful thing.
And more often than not, they don't want to blame anyone, but just want to get their husband's understanding and concern.
It's a pity that many husbands can't understand, and even only dislike their wives for making a big fuss, which eventually causes unnecessary rifts in the family.
If every husband can give his wife more understanding and tolerance in taking care of the family and children, and not let his wife fall into emotional difficulties, then many family conflicts will not arise.
I don't know what you think about stay-at-home mothers?