When your child reaches out to you for money, don't do it, or it will cast a shadow on him for the rest of his life
It is said that parents are the best teachers for their children, and if they want their children to become what kind of people they will become in the future, they must let them receive what kind of education. However, raising a child is not as simple as we think, and in the process of raising a child, it not only takes a lot of energy and time, but also consumes a lot of money. What do you do when your child reaches out to you for money? Many parents habitually blame their children.
Some parents will also say: "It's not easy for us to earn money for you to go to school, don't know every day that you need money, you should also know something, and save some flowers if you can". When a child hears these words, although he feels uncomfortable, he does not show it on the surface. With the gradual increase in the number of times, some children are reluctant to take the initiative to ask their parents for money, and parents are still glad that their education method is very correct.
But in fact, often crying to your child about poverty will also have a serious impact on your child. This effect is not only material, but also mental. There are many people who believe that raising children in poverty will ruin a child's life. While this may sound a bit extreme, it is true. I have seen many messages from netizens on the Internet, in which they clearly told their experiences of being raised by their parents.
Some netizens said: Our family conditions are not bad, we can be regarded as a well-off family, but my parents will not buy me anything since I was a child, he told me to learn to be diligent and thrifty, and don't buy things if you shouldn't buy them. At that time, several friends who were playing at the time liked to exchange toys with each other, but I didn't have any toys, so I couldn't join them. After a long time, others began to target me in various ways, and they didn't want to continue playing with me, and I myself felt inferior.
After seeing the statements of netizens, many people commented below that they had the same experience. And this experience has been deeply engraved in the depths of my heart, even when I grow up, it still can't be alleviated. When many people see expensive items, they will subconsciously think that they are not worthy, even if they can afford it now, they will still feel this way. In fact, this is the inferiority complex in the depths of the heart, and this inferiority complex is humble from the heart.
In the consciousness of poverty, children who have stayed for a long time will be shorter than children of the same age in terms of consciousness and vision, because of the misfortune of economic life, so they can only be forced to give up many lofty ideals, so as to face the current life. will even take the initiative to give up some of the things they like, and children who have stayed in this consciousness for a long time will only be like a bird with broken wings, and will never be able to fly to the wide world.
In fact, there are often some poor children in life, and these children will also lose their way in the road of growth, and the consequences of this situation are even more unimaginable. Because they themselves have experienced economic poverty, they also deeply feel the helplessness of having no money. It can be said that poverty is equal to not having a good life, and this concept has been deeply engraved in his mind, and even in his heart. Even if they grow up and can make money, and even go to various positions in society, they may do some things to give up the bottom line for money.