Young people who leave the system

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Before I quit, I worked as a hook guy in the Northeast for nearly eight years, the guy who was on the door every time the train stopped or started.

We're in charge of hooking the train, and that has to be done while it's on the move. Logically speaking, as long as the regulations are complied with, there is no danger, but in fact, who has never had an accident in our line of work? The year before last, I had an accident, but fortunately I jumped out of the car.

Before jumping out of the car, the last thing I heard was shouted by the commander on the walkie-talkie: "Jump! Jump! jump!" When I got up from the snow and walked slowly to the place where there were people, a truck full of hundreds of tons roared past me.

About ten seconds later, the fully loaded truck collided with the parking vehicle and slid out dozens of meters, and the sound was so loud that the guys who were a kilometer away from the scene could hear it.

The work was life-threatening, but in fact, my salary was not high at that time, 2300 when I was an intern, and only 4000-6000 when I became a regular. There is a supermarket downstairs at home, and I always stop for a long time at the place where milk powder is sold, looking at the skyrocketing prices and thinking about my salary, I always feel panicked.

And then there's the tumor in my head.

A benign pituitary tumor will not die for a while. When I used to go to work, I was used to seeing all kinds of accident reports, and I was numb to human lives and serious injuries. Suddenly, I was sick, and I realized that people are really fragile, so I can still move, hurry up and earn some money, and I have to leave some for my mother when I hang up one day.

All sorts of things got stuck together, and I quit my job last year.

I chose to start my own business and do AR marketing. I put all my savings into it, and I also borrowed one million from private loans, and finally came up with an APP. One meal a day, go downstairs to the fly restaurant, and order the cheapest set meal, 11 yuan. Sometimes I want to eat a barbecue or make some meat, and this thought alone makes me feel guilty.

I had a drink with my ex-colleague two days ago, and their wages went up, and they drove 12K last month. But I don't regret it, life is too short, I don't have time to get money month by month, I have to rely on myself, even if it's hard.

■@一块两毛五 Railway workers - entrepreneurship

Today's university is more of an inferior company than a place to cultivate independent personalities. When I teach my students how to understand economic business, they ask me how to hide something in the report. I want to teach well, but no one wants to listen to that.

At the age of almost 30, I decided that I wanted to go abroad and start from scratch, even if it was as a plumber. I just want to live seriously and be serious in what I say.

■@杜塞尔 University Teachers - Skilled Immigrants

My father was a civil servant and my mother was also a bank clerk, so I lived a safe and secure life in a small county, so I followed the same path. It's just not in my hometown, it's in another small city.

I had a boyfriend in that city, and my mother was adamantly against it when she found out, and even wanted to break us up. But I really liked him, so I lived together in private. 

After living together for about a year, they got pregnant unexpectedly, and after discussing it, the two decided to get a certificate and give birth. In the system, I had a hukou, and after I moved over, the hukou book was in my own hands, so I secretly got the certificate.

When she was almost two months pregnant, she suddenly bleed when she went to work, and she went to the hospital for a fetal protection injection, and the doctor warned that she had to stay in bed. But I couldn't ask for leave on the grounds of protecting the fetus, so I wrote a resignation letter on impulse, quarreled with the leader and left.

After my parents found out, they took the train overnight to quarrel with me, and only then did they know about marriage and pregnancy, and they were crazy. To this day, my mother refuses to forgive me, and she doesn't understand why I gave up my iron rice bowl, and why the 985 graduates she worked so hard to train ended up becoming a housewife.

A year after the baby was born, my husband and I had a make-up wedding. My child is now two years old, and because of the impact of the tricolor incident, I am preparing for the teaching certificate. When the child goes to kindergarten, I will be a kindergarten teacher to accompany him, and when the child is older, I will take the middle school teacher exam.

■@九一 State-owned banks - housewives

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In 2010, I got a diploma from a junior college and a bachelor's degree, and my uncle was the second-in-command in the tobacco bureau at that time.

At that time, public funds could still be used to eat and drink in the system, and every day at work, it was a routine meal, drink, play cards and wash feet. I'm not an ambitious person, and I think I'm doing well. It's just that I always accompany my uncle to socialize, and I gained fifty pounds in a year.

There was a class reunion, and when I went in, my old classmates didn't know each other. Because when a person is fat, there will be a lot of folds on the neck. A straightforward girl said, "I just looked from behind and thought that an uncle had gone to the wrong private room." "At that time, I just laughed, but I actually minded. When I was studying, I was also a handsome teenager, and I played basketball well.

A friend who had a good time at the party, he started his own business, bought a house and a car in the provincial capital in a year and a half, and opened a branch. My annual salary was 80,000 yuan that year, and although I didn't need money for food and drink, I knew it was impossible to buy a house.

After that time, I made up my mind to quit. No one wants to keep relying on the path planned by their elders, I want to break through. I opened a convenience store, but it closed down in less than a year. speculated in stocks, lost 500,000 yuan without returning the capital. That friend is handsome and has a sweet mouth, and I really don't have that type.

After that, I woke up at nine o'clock every day to speculate on stocks, and until three o'clock, the rest of the time I spent playing cards, games, and planning girls. I didn't have a good relationship with my parents when I was a child, and I wouldn't ask them for help.

My dad looked at me like this and was worried that I was going to scrap it. One night, he asked me to follow him to Guangdong for business in a few days, and I didn't go, saying that I was going to drive away. He pulled me, cried, and said, "I was wrong before, I will make you a cow and a horse for the rest of my life, don't spoil yourself." ”

I shook him off and drove to the highway service area and stopped for the night.

My dad was a veteran officer, and he never went soft. When I was a kid, I was looking for something in the cupboard, and he said that I would look through the game console he had hidden and call me when he picked it up. My mother said that he had wronged me, and he said, "If you are wronged, you are wronged, and Lao Tzu wants to wronged him." "Such a person, tell me that he is wrong, that he is old.

A few days later, I followed him to Guangdong to make steel, and I have been working since then. My former colleagues who went in with me are still driving the Magotan and I'm driving the BMW X5 now. I've lost weight again, I'm back to my weight when I was studying, and I'm enjoying the ease of being busy.

■@琼斯 Tobacco Bureau - Self-employed

After I left my job, I opened a hot pot restaurant. The business is not good, the pressure is very high, and the labor cost is more than 30,000 yuan per month. I work until 3 a.m. every night, and I have to go grocery shopping early in the morning.

■@墨素 Middle-level state-owned enterprise - owner of a hot pot restaurant

After graduation, I entered a state-owned enterprise, two o'clock a day, from home to unit, from unit to home. Many of my classmates envied my work, but I was too young to feel free. After working for a year, I asked the leader to resign on a whim, and I didn't say a word to my family.

After resigning, he went to a secondary school as a class teacher, which is also the envy of everyone. But I found that the non-teaching class teacher of the secondary school said that some of them sounded like life teachers, and to put it simply, they were dormitory managers. This time I have freedom, but I have no money, and I regret it, obviously I have no ability, and I still yearn for freedom.

At the end of last year, he was fired because of a conflict with the leader over a leave of absence.

■@狗蛋子 State-owned enterprises - unemployed

I didn't find a suitable job after graduating last year, and my classmates around me all went abroad, went to graduate school, and went to work, but I still had nothing to do at home, and I was very panicked. My parents wanted me to be a civil servant, so they asked someone to find a relationship and stuffed me into a state-owned enterprise.

The average age of colleagues is forty-five, and the old man opposite is the landlord every afternoon. The place of work is like a factory in the 80s, and every time I get off the subway and change to the shuttle, I have a feeling of crossing over, and there is a big chimney all the way, as if there is a barrier separating this side and that.

So I started a year-long "masquerade life", and no one came to me at work to say anything, and I started to go crazy on the weekend.

The section chief in charge of me was very good, but I really couldn't stand her constant persuasion of me to believe in Buddhism, pulled me into the believer exchange group, enrolled in a study class, and said that I did well in the university exam because of the good fortune of my previous life. I thought to myself, isn't it because I got into the university because of my own intelligence?

When I went back for the New Year that year, my mentality collapsed. When others heard that I was a state-owned enterprise, they thought that the benefits were very good, and imagined that I would return to my hometown and come back to show off the year-end bonus to them. But in fact, I haven't saved money for half a year of work, and my monthly salary is just enough to buy a round-trip ticket, which is not as good as the milk tea girl at my doorstep.

Then I quit my job and got a design job in the same city. The female boss who interviewed me was the same age as my section chief, but she didn't open her mouth and let me find a partner.

Now my colleagues are all young people, with a large open office, gossip and casual chat, and the salary is much higher. The main thing is that there is a sense of accomplishment and I will never go back again in my life.

■@吧唧 Employees of state-owned enterprises - consultants

My husband is sick and has no time to take care of it, so I have to take care of the sick. It's the Chinese New Year, and others have a reunion dinner, and I have to work overtime. I applied for a three-day leave for marriage, but the head nurse ignored it directly, so that I rushed from Jiujiang to a deep mountain in Fuzhou to get married after the night shift, and I had to rush back the next day.

Later, I returned to the countryside and set up a farmhouse, opened a chicken farm by the way, and planted a few acres of fruit forests.

I sold my 100-square-meter house in Jiujiang and built a three-story villa in the countryside myself. There are a lot of flowers planted in the yard, peach blossoms in spring, gardenias in summer, chrysanthemums in autumn, and snow in winter.

Sometimes four or five friends get together to play mahjong and talk about the past. When I have nothing to do, I go for a walk by the river, the sand is soft and the water is clear.

■@风儿 Nurses on staff - freelance work

Before, my husband and I were both in state-owned enterprises, my salary was 2200, and he was 5500. Northwest 1.5 tier cities, mortgages, four old, temporarily childless. In order to save money, except for watching movies twice a year and occasional music performances, there is basically no other entertainment consumption. In the past few years, the standard of living has basically been in the stage of subsistence and clothing.

My husband is a construction site dog, all year round, and there is a possibility of being transferred to other places at any time. In 2017, from the tenth day of the Lunar New Year to May Day, I went out at 7 o'clock in the morning and went home at 12 o'clock in the evening, without a chance to speak. However, the salary is still the same, I don't live like a person, and I feel undignified. In addition, he didn't like that industry, and he felt that he might not stick to it anymore, so he kept trying to find a way out and do something else.

My husband has always been interested in football and wants to open a lottery shop, and we found a suitable store by chance, so we took over. My salary is the lowest in the city, and most of the people in that unit are middle-aged people waiting to retire, full of complaints and an inexplicable sense of superiority. So I resigned first, and the store's performance quickly reached an ideal state, with a monthly income of about 30,000 yuan, which was our salary for nearly half a year.

So he also resigned, ready to devote all his energy to continue to grow the store. But at this time, we encountered Waterloo, and sales fell sharply, but even then the income of the store was higher than the salary. After sorting out my thoughts, now I am slowly getting better again and opening a second store.

At present, one person guards a store, the time is less than before, and it is really open all year round, there is no social security, and it is self-financing. But we are very happy and relieved, without the previous confusion and anxiety of boiling frogs in warm water and not daring to jump.

■@魔力兔子 Owner of a state-owned enterprise HR-lottery shop

After graduating from university, I joined a newspaper and worked as an editor. Colleagues will laugh at themselves at dinners, "We are reserve cadres at the deputy unit level".

At that time, the media industry was still very prosperous, and many of my predecessors bought houses in the center of Guangzhou. In the past two years, I also saved 200,000 yuan, and I couldn't afford to buy Guangzhou, so I bought a three-bedroom apartment in my hometown provincial capital. After working for two years, I bought a house on my own, and in the eyes of many friends, I am an inspirational model.

By mid-2014, the media industry recession had spread, and many colleagues had chosen to quit their jobs, join large Internet companies, or even start their own businesses. At that time, I also thought to myself, go to Beijing and Shanghai. After my parents heard my thoughts, they didn't sleep well for a week, and in their opinion, the newspaper office was equivalent to an iron rice bowl, which could be served for a lifetime, and they gave up so easily, thinking that I was crazy. Soon I got a job at a large company in Beijing, with a higher salary than a newspaper, and their hearts settled down.

After working for a while, I started my own business. With a fairly good resume, I got my first financing and started to start an Internet company focused on reading. Since then, I have rarely had time off, and I have been at various dinners on weekends, and I have meetings with my colleagues at work, working overtime to polish products. There are always some quirks in writing, and sometimes I think about a sentence on the product description for a long time after returning to the rental house.

I've been on duty for two years, and I have been on duty for two years, and my daily routine of going to and from work is much more regular than before. But under the effect of anxiety, I still irreversibly gained weight, and sleep gradually left me, so that I had to look for traces of them again and again at night. I used to have a wide range of hobbies, but now the only interest I still retain is reading, because I don't have to move.

I remember when the company had its first income, I was so happy that I called many friends to my house for drinks to celebrate. They will talk about the powerlessness of staying in the newspaper, having a child, or changing houses, and after the conversation, they will laugh at themselves and say, "We can only talk about these vulgar things." One of my friends has not written much news in the past two years, but has concentrated on buying houses in Guangzhou and Beijing, and then selling them and making millions.

At that dinner table, I didn't dare to share my story, but after looking around for a week, I realized that each of them was actually doing well, and they all had far more wealth than I did. At some point, I felt a little lonely, something I had never felt before.

Birds can be mistaken by hyacinths and fly in a hurry when the seasons change, and so do people, surging in the tide of the times. It's just that birds know where to go, but people don't.

■@魏醒 Journalist - Entrepreneurship

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When I was in a state-owned enterprise, the efficiency was not good, and the salary was often delayed for two or three months, and I worked mechanically every day. Now my monthly income is seven or eight times that of before, but I am very tired from traveling all day, wandering, sleeping in the open air.

■@可乐 State-owned enterprises - project effect

I worked as an intern at a film and television production company in Changsha for 500 yuan a month. There is an old house for 300 yuan in Donggua Mountain that can be rented, the canteen costs 12 yuan a day at noon, and the cheapest take-out marinated noodles cost 10 yuan a bowl.

Because I am poor, in order to eat, I like to fry a big bowl of hot and sour cabbage, iced in the refrigerator. My mother would come to see me occasionally, and each time she would take the bus and carry a large bag of food.

But I didn't expect that day after New Year's Day in '15, she would come over. When she saw my leftovers in the refrigerator, she cried, saying that she was incapable and let me wander around Changsha like a flower child. I want to say it's not that she doesn't have the ability, it's that I don't have the ability.

So I quit my job and took the civil service exam, at least my mother was satisfied.

The unit is divided into a small single room to live in, and the clothes you wear every day do not look at the price, and you don't have to carry any expensive bags. In my spare time, I read books and write novels. Participating in the activities of the unit, the song is not too good to sing, and I am not afraid of losing face when I go up and jump.

Anyway, until now, I can't forget January 1, 2014, when I hadn't rented a house yet, and the waiter walked around me, and I slept with my hat on my pillow.

■@徐离夜 TV Program Writer and Director - Civil Servant

I am a northerner, and my family has been a state-owned enterprise for three generations.

When I was young, I was also cynical, and I had prejudices about work within the system. As many people think now, entering a state-owned enterprise is a bowl of tea, a newspaper, and waiting for death.

My father is a very good executive of a state-owned enterprise, and he knows that changing a person depends on changing people's thinking. So when I was in college, he didn't stop anything, but just took me to meet a lot of high-level leaders, watch them do things, and listen to them. For example, at that time, there was a private company that announced that it had adopted a good management method, and my father said that the state-owned enterprises had already used it a few years ago.

During that time, I experienced a lot, and found that a lot of the negative spread on the Internet is actually the complaint of some grassroots personnel, and like all industries, there are top talents in state-owned enterprises, and there are many of them. Later, I changed my major from law to accounting to prepare myself for graduation and entering a state-owned enterprise, after all, the private sector cannot provide such a big platform.

After actually participating in the work, I confirmed my own ideas, and the competition in state-owned enterprises is also fierce, and only people with high EQ and IQ can go up. In the past, I didn't understand what it meant to be "a big husband can bend and stretch", but I understood this term by a boss who was still a chief accountant in a unit of about 5,000 people at that time.

At that time, the "Eight Regulations" had not yet come down, and a bureau chief came over, and we had to reorganize and have a meal together. The chief accountant of all the branches had already arrived, but he had gone to another stall for a drink, and he was the last to arrive, half an hour late.

All the leaders were there, and there was a deputy bureau-level cadre in the middle, who said to him directly: "You get out." "I was thinking what I would do if I were him.

He literally lay down at the dinner table and got out with a snap. After rolling out of the door, he walked in again and said to the leader: "Leader, I'm going out, now you can let me sit down." The leader was also shocked, so he said, "Then you can sit there and eat first." ”

This incident made the leader remember him, and because of his excellent business, the leader later took him to Beijing.

What he has always said is "this is also called a thing", and he has a strong ability to solve things, and in his eyes, work is just an experience, not to say that it is for someone. He is both capable and can do very well in relationships.

Nowadays, it is easy to have a preconceived impression when it comes to the system, just like when I went to the Internet forum, but in fact, it is far more important for young people to understand themselves than to talk about their dreams. There are excellent people everywhere, it just depends on which kind of excellence you want.

■@树先生 Accounting of state-owned enterprises

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