#照顾父母你们认为是幸福还是负担#
Toutiao-kun recommended this topic to me, and I thought it was a little interesting, as if I knew what was going on in my heart.
I'll be honest, it's a responsibility.
I have been taking care of my parents for more than ten years, my father suffered from high blood pressure, mild cerebral infarction, and limited movement of one limb for more than ten years before his death, and my mother is also often sick, with a bad heart and lungs, and often needs to be accompanied and cared for. I used to go home every two days, but then I had to go home every day for the past few years, and I spent most of the 365 days a year at my parents' house.
My father died on the second day of the Lunar New Year last year, and I took on the responsibility of taking care of my mother with Alzheimer's disease, and I had no free space of my own, so it was difficult to eat a meal at home, because I went out every day before dawn and came home in the moonlight at night.
My 90-year-old mother, who has been suffering from Alzheimer's disease for four years, always vents her negative emotions every day, and she will vent against someone, and my father was specific to him when he was there, and now he is not there and he is starting to target me. I remember when my father said pitifully, "Daughter, I am living in dire straits every day, do you know it", and now I understand my father too well.
Taking care of the elderly with Alzheimer's disease is not just as simple as eating, drinking, and lazing, I am not afraid of being dirty and tired, especially my own relatives, but I am afraid of being tired, and the kind of tiredness and anger that cannot be escaped is really an indescribable taste.
My mother lives in her past world every day, she always remembers that others treat her badly, and forgets all the good things about her, she will vent her resentment against her in-laws on me, often treating her mother-in-law as my mother-in-law, she says that she hates my mother-in-law to death, and then asks me every day if my mother-in-law is still alive, and even my son-in-law and grandson go to ask like this.
She would scold me for at least a few hours a day, and the scolding was not over, the key was to drive me away, not let me take care of her, saying that I was the only one in the family who would harm her, scolding the most ugly words, making me so angry that I couldn't do it, and I couldn't scold her. I don't know if it's happiness or not.
Every day I have to ask where her children and grandchildren have gone, I can ask hundreds of times, and the answer is gentle and said that I can't hear it, in fact, she heard it deliberately, because I was right next to her, and the voice was loud and said that I had a bad attitude, and every time I asked, I had to answer seriously, otherwise I would be furious, get out of bed and go to the kitchen to find a kitchen knife, and let me hand over the house key.
This is all "commonplace", in the past four years, I don't know how many times I have cried, wipe away my tears and give my mother a smile, take care of her like a child, her personal hygiene is done by me alone, I changed her clothes and bed sheets while saying that I was tossing her, hoping that she would die, saying that only I disliked her.
She is suspicious all day long, always suspecting that others are trying to harm her, and everyone in the family must let her hear what they say, including calling to let her know what it is, otherwise she will suspect that others "don't have good intentions, what are you discussing".
Last night, my nephew called him Dada, and she didn't hear it clearly, so she asked her nephew to repeat it, and the child said that Dada was coming back, so she said that she was lying, and it was you who discussed how to throw me away, and then went to the kitchen to find a kitchen knife.
My nephew saw that I was tired all day and asked me to go first, saying that he was at home and waiting for Da to come back. When my mother heard in the kitchen that I was leaving, she said, "If you dare to leave, no one is allowed to leave this house."
Something like this is happening every day, and I'm honest, it's not happiness, but I don't think it's a burden, and it's my responsibility to take care of my old mother.
It is not easy for parents to raise themselves, the grace of nurturing cannot be forgotten, and there is no way to take care of such an old man, I know that she is sick, and she is uncontrollable when she is sick. When my mother is not sick, she will still love me very much, for fear of starving me and freezing me, I told myself that this is the grind of life and must be faced.
On the other hand, I still have a mother at my age, which is really a kind of happiness than those who miss my mother all day without a mother, and I still have a way to go, and I am even luckier than those who only have the way back.
When parents are old and sick, the family needs children to support it, which is a responsibility and an obligation. My mother vents her negative emotions every day, eats and drinks, and is in good health at present, I thought to myself, even if I walk in front of my mother, maybe I owe her in my last life, and I will continue to pay it until I am at ease. #我来唠家常#
