My cousin said that it was really tiring to take care of the child, and her baby had to watch cartoons noisily every day, and it was clear that it was time to eat, but the child did not go to eat, and kept standing in front of the TV to watch cartoons. A few days ago, my cousin and baby said that when it was time to eat, they couldn't watch TV.
Unexpectedly, the child lay on the ground and rolled, and in the process of sprinkling, he secretly looked at his mother's expression while crying. The cousin felt that the child was vexatious, so she chose to compromise and let the baby watch cartoons while eating. This approach is not advisable, and unprincipled compromise will make the child more and more vexatious.
Many parents can't see their children crying, especially if there are elderly people at home. As soon as the child cries, he will be anxious to comfort them and unconditionally meet their unreasonable demands, which will only make the child more and more willful and unreasonable.
The child lies on the ground crying, rolling and not getting up. Some parents will choose to intimidate their children and shut up immediately. Some parents will compromise with the baby, such as buying you a toy or a snack, and we will watch cartoons. Grumpy parents will immediately start beating their children. Most of this method is very effective, but it will cause psychological damage to the child, and as the child grows older, there will be many problems in the baby's body.
In the book "Neglected Children", it is said that any parent in the world has made educational mistakes that have disappointed their children. But what is really harmful is the emotional neglect of children by parents, turning a blind eye to their children's emotional needs. In other words, when the baby is sad and sad, the child will not be able to get comfort and response from your favorite parents, which will cause them to have a deep sense of hopelessness in their hearts.
The cruelest thing a mother can say to her child is: I don't want you anymore, which will make the child feel afraid. The baby saw the parents in front of them and left without looking back, and the children cried and shouted to chase the parents, and the whole process would make the children fall into anxiety and fear. The baby is very worried about being abandoned, which can have a psychological shadow.
Professor Li Meijin, a psychologist, said that the baby's crying after the age of three is purposeful. Therefore, parents should learn to say no before their children are six years old, but they cannot educate their children by beating and scolding.
When children are crying, especially in public, adults can easily be provoked by the child's emotions and turn into a parent-child confrontation. Parents should calm down, do not hit or scold, and deal with the problem quickly.
Step 1: Leave the scene
Once I went to the mall, I saw a child lying on the ground and rolling around, it turned out that the baby wanted to buy a toy car, and the mother said that there were already many similar toys at home. I couldn't buy it anymore, but the child didn't listen to the parents at all, and still lay on the ground crying and fussing.
Parents talk badly, but children don't listen. The grandmother who was standing next to her said, "Buy it for my eldest grandson quickly, there is not much money, why should she cry in public?" When the child heard the old man's words, she cried even harder.
The mother did not do as the old man said, she quickly picked up the child and left the mall.
In other words, the parent managed to leave the scene.
Step 2: Let your child vent
"Positive Discipline" mentions: Most parents think that they should solve the problem when they are angry, but in fact, it is not suitable to solve the problem at this time, and people are often unable to maintain normal emotions and communicate well when they are angry.
After the parent took the child away, the baby immediately stopped crying. Because he didn't get the toys he wanted, his emotions were even more devastated.
The old mother took the child back to the house and let him go back to the bedroom. Let the child vent his emotions, cry and make a fuss, the child will not cry when he has cried enough, he asked the baby, do you like that car very much? Parents say, look for your toy box, there are many similar ones to play with. After listening to his mother's words, the child fell silent.
The old mother told him that if I said I couldn't buy it, I wouldn't buy it for you. As we said before we came, you can't buy similar toys at all, and if you cry again in the future, I'll still make you cry enough. So, the child slowly stopped crying.
Step 3: Discipline your child
Psychologists point out that the negative education of parents will directly affect the personality of their children later in life. Children who are often beaten and scolded by their parents are introverted and cowardly, and lack self-confidence.
Parents can silently stay with the child and tell the baby after venting his emotions. When you have your birthday, or next month, we can consider buying this toy, and now we won't buy it for you. Of course, don't leave your child alone in the room because of their young age. Parents don't have to reason with their babies all the time, and it's useless to beat and scold. You just need to stay quietly with your child and wait until he has taken care of his emotions.
Step 4: Listen and accompany
It is normal for children to cry all the time, parents don't have to worry too much, we adults will shed tears when they are sad, let the child cry for a while, and wait until the baby is finished venting, give him a hug. Or get a clean towel for your child and let her wipe his face. It is not good for the baby not to cry for a long time, and it is normal to let the child cry twice and shed some tears moderately.
You can tell your child that if you want to cry, you can continue to cry, and when you have cried enough, you can get up and play. In this process, let the child understand that your crying is unreasonable and I will not compromise.
Parents don't hit the baby, and don't scold. It's useless to reason with your child, he won't listen to anything you say. However, parents must be present. As your child grows up, there may be countless times of this crying.
Epilogue:
Parents should understand that their children are very smart, and they are constantly learning from their experiences. When the baby finds that a certain method does not work for adults, it will not be used repeatedly, and when the child makes unreasonable demands and cries without being satisfied, parents must not be soft-hearted. When the child is crying, parents take them step by step to manage their emotions, which is also a good opportunity for the baby to mature and grow.
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